Having a Large Family

In the comments here this week the topic of how to really bring change to this world is to have many children.  In a day and age where many men cannot even commit to having a backbone, the though of children truly terrifies some of these soy boys.  Having as many children as you can take care of is important if we’re going to pass on traditional virtues and teach the younger generation guys how to be real, masculine men.

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The 10 Commandments: Family Edition

“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

-Proverbs 22:6

Many men start creating a family without taking time to building some “family laws” that everyone is expected to follow.  As such, a lot of the early years of a marriage and raising children is filled with unnecessary stress as everyone’s expectations are askew.   Continue reading “The 10 Commandments: Family Edition”

Love & Respect: Blue and Pink Glasses

  1. The L/R Dynamic
  2. Blue and Pink Glasses
  3. COUPLE
  4. CHAIRS
  5. Putting It All Together

Last week we discussed the core principles of the Love & Respect dynamic and what both men and women need most from their spouse, men needing primarily respect from their wives and wives needing primarily love from their husbands.

We also introduced the Crazy Cycle and how it feeds into itself until a marriage becomes a horrific mess.

Today, we are going to discuss what is arguably the primary reason for disputes in a marriage involving two well-meaning people: The breakdown of communication. Continue reading “Love & Respect: Blue and Pink Glasses”

Leaving a Legacy

“The true meaning of life is to plant trees, under whose shade you do not expect to sit.”

-Nelson Henderson

Today I saw a short clip from a well-known PUA within the Red Pill community lamenting what his life has thus amounted to.  As I watched the short clip, only 26 seconds long, I could see the regret across his face like a mask.  Within this short clip, he utters a truth that cuts to the very core of what has driven men all throughout history.   Continue reading “Leaving a Legacy”

Love & Respect: The L/R Dynamic

  1. The L/R Dynamic
  2. Blue and Pink Glasses
  3. COUPLE
  4. CHAIRS
  5. Putting It All Together

For the month of December, I will be relieving Cynic of duty to cover a book I’ve been reading called Love & Respect.  This book was suggested to me by a Twitter friend, Tex.  Before I went out and bought the book, I decided to listen to some sermons centered around the message of Love & Respect and was so impressed I went out and bought it the next day.

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The Choice to Lead

When we embark on this journey as fathers and husbands, we are making a choice, but at that time it doesn’t seem like we are making such a monumental one.  Things like getting married and choosing to have kids with your wife are the easy things.  The other things that you chose at these times are to be the leader at all times.  You’re constantly under scrutiny, but at the same time, they all hold you to the highest regard in the first place, and if not, you’ve screwed something up. Something recently made me think about all of this and how we’re always looked upon to be the one who leads.

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Routine Maintenance: How to Keep Your Marriage Like New

Anyone who appreciates cars knows there is a list of maintenance jobs to do to keep it functioning properly. Continually, you need to keep it filled with gas, check the coolant, or check the oil. Regularly, it will need an oil change,  cleaning the battery terminals, or washing the exterior to prevent corrosion. Then there are occasional maintenance items such as greasing any zerk fittings, changing the differential fluid, or readjusting valve clearances.

Marriages are the same way, we cannot just go along and pretend it will just keep running well. There are short term, medium term, and long term things we need to do in order to have a spouse that lasts and is a joy to ride. Whether you purchased a brand new Ferrari, or a ’81 Ford Fiesta that has been hammered on by the entire production crew of Dukes of Hazard, all cars need maintenance, and AWALT (although some need more maintenance than others).
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He Who Rules the Checkbook

As a father and husband you have to wear many hats.  You have to be the protector,  the teacher, the strong ox, the one who guides them etc.  One thing I’ve also realized is how you also have to be in charge of the finances of your family and how you need to be the one who green lights all expenditures.

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In Keeping Their Best Interests

Typically I write about things I’m going to do or am doing in my life as I lead this ship called a family.  Constantly keeping myself in check physically, and mentally.   Making sure I provide for them and protect them.  This is all done to set an example and do what I believe is my duty in life, and to my family.  Yet, sometimes the people who depend on you need guidance on how to better their own lives.  Today I’ll share my experiences and how I kept family on their own path, while continuing mine.  Continue reading “In Keeping Their Best Interests”

You Set The Tone

While out at my kids soccer game this weekend, tensions were high.  It was a playoff game and both teams were evenly matched.  It went into a sudden death shootout and my kid’s team was defeated.  It sucked for most parents to deal with this, but one guy in particular started raging and screaming, claiming we had been cheated.  He was arguing with the official and his kids looked like they wanted to run away.  It got me thinking about how as a father you set the tone that not only others see, but how your children and wife will fall in line.  Today’s article will go over how you can be a good role model and leader in these situations.

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