The Choice to Lead

When we embark on this journey as fathers and husbands, we are making a choice, but at that time it doesn’t seem like we are making such a monumental one.  Things like getting married and choosing to have kids with your wife are the easy things.  The other things that you chose at these times are to be the leader at all times.  You’re constantly under scrutiny, but at the same time, they all hold you to the highest regard in the first place, and if not, you’ve screwed something up. Something recently made me think about all of this and how we’re always looked upon to be the one who leads.

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Routine Maintenance: How to Keep Your Marriage Like New

Anyone who appreciates cars knows there is a list of maintenance jobs to do to keep it functioning properly. Continually, you need to keep it filled with gas, check the coolant, or check the oil. Regularly, it will need an oil change,  cleaning the battery terminals, or washing the exterior to prevent corrosion. Then there are occasional maintenance items such as greasing any zerk fittings, changing the differential fluid, or readjusting valve clearances.

Marriages are the same way, we cannot just go along and pretend it will just keep running well. There are short term, medium term, and long term things we need to do in order to have a spouse that lasts and is a joy to ride. Whether you purchased a brand new Ferrari, or a ’81 Ford Fiesta that has been hammered on by the entire production crew of Dukes of Hazard, all cars need maintenance, and AWALT (although some need more maintenance than others).
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When Dread Game Doesn’t Work

Introduction

A while back, one of our readers discussed a personal situation where the principles of Dread Game did not work for him.  If I remember correctly, his personal experience led him to surmise that Dread Game was a flawed system and does not work.  Today, we’re going to look into this topic a bit deeper and determine what went wrong and the red flags you should be on the look out for. Continue reading “When Dread Game Doesn’t Work”

Six Dates You Need To Do Before Buying the Ring

Marriage can be a wonderful thing, I have a good wife who supports me and I feel that I can trust. Not all women are like that however. Modern western society has corrupted so many women (and men) that it becomes very difficult to distinguish the needles from the haystack. Traditional dating activities like “dinner and a movie” or something similar are enjoyable, and are not any harm (other than to your wallet) but they do little in helping you find out what sort of integrity the woman you are dating has. There are some activities you can do to help you see those red flags before you make such a serious commitment. Continue reading “Six Dates You Need To Do Before Buying the Ring”

Remembering to Be a Couple

The wife and I are pretty busy people.  Between the kids, the house, and all the other things we have to do, it can get hectic and sometimes you forget that you’re in a relationship with another person.  Sometimes we even feel tense until we realize that we haven’t “been acting like a couple”  for a while. Today I’ll discuss what can lead to this and how we fix it.

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They Need Your Leadership

As we know, even a successful man can and will be manipulated if he lets his frame waiver.  I’ve seen this time after time with men I’ve known my whole life.  One account happened recently to a guy I know.  Today I’ll report on why I think it failed and what everyone needs to remember; to be a father/husband is to accept the role of leader at all times.

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8/21/17 Open Thread: Handling Bullies

Per the suggestion of one of our readers (thanks Murdoc34), we are going to start posting an Open Thread series for you to discuss various topics related to masculinity, marriage, raising children, and self-improvement.  The general format for these open threads will be we post a link to an article/video/etc and get your input on said topic.  If the participation goes well, we will expand this out to a few times per week.  Continue reading “8/21/17 Open Thread: Handling Bullies”

The Need to Fly Solo

Marriage can be tricky at times because you are constantly around your wife, especially if you have kids.  I’ve noticed a fundamental flaw in a majority of married men and its that they spend all of their free time with their wife and children.  Being there for them as a provider and protector is part and parcel of being a father/husband, but you need to spend time by yourself.  We’ll go over what happens when you don’t have time for yourself, things you can do when you’re alone to have a positive impact on your life, and how to assert your wants/needs in your relationship without having to get into an argument. Continue reading “The Need to Fly Solo”

The Inaugural #ManChat Highlights

Last Sunday, I took part in the first of hopefully many #ManChat discussions hosted by Ryan Stephens.  Here is a link to the questions brought up and some of the answers from people like Mark Baxter, Iris, and yours truly.  Enjoy.

Inaugural #ManChat Highlights