The most common words I hear newly divorced men utter is some version of “I never saw this coming in my wildest imagination, we were married for 20 years, we have 4 kids, how could she be over me so quickly?”….Hypergamy doesn’t care how great a Father you are to your kids. Hypergamy doesn’t care how you rearranged your college majors and career choice in life to better accommodate her. Hypergamy doesn’t care how inspired or fulfilled you feel as a stay-at-home Dad. Hypergamy doesn’t care that you moved across 4 states to accommodate your long distance relationship. Hypergamy doesn’t care how “supportive” you’ve always been of her decisions or if you identify as a “male feminist.” Hypergamy doesn’t care about the sincerity of your religious convictions or aspirations of high purpose. Hypergamy doesn’t care about those words you said at your wedding. Hypergamy doesn’t care about how you funded her going back to college to find a more rewarding career. Hypergamy doesn’t care how great a guy you are for adopting the children she had with other men. Hypergamy doesn’t care about your divine and forgiving nature in excusing her ‘youthful indiscretions.’ Hypergamy doesn’t care about your magnanimity in assuming responsibility for her student loans, and credit card debt after you’re married. Hypergamy doesn’t care if “he was your best friend.” Hypergamy doesn’t care about the coffee in bed you bring her or how great a cook you are. Hypergamy doesn’t care about all those chick flicks you sat through with her and claimed to like. Hypergamy doesn’t care about how well you do your part of the household chores. Hypergamy doesn’t care about how much her family or friends like you. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you think you’re a “Good” guy or about how convincing your argument is for your sense of honor. Hypergamy doesn’t care whether the children are biologically yours or not. Hypergamy doesn’t care if “she was drunk, he was cute, and one thing led to another…” Hypergamy doesn’t care how sweet, funny or intellectual you are. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you “never saw it coming.” Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re bitter.
Beings I never had my wife attempt to monkey branch on me (that I know of), I have a hard time accepting this. But then, I look at both my brothers, some of my co-workers, and others around me, and I can’t help but think there is some truth to this. There is little stigma attached to divorce anymore, and white knights are more than willing to support women who nuked their family.
If you are married with children, it pays to hold your family together. That means you need to look at some causes of divorce and why she would do such a thing.
First off, choose wisely. If she has slept with other men prior to your marriage, it is not worth the risk. If she is over 25, she is not worth the risk, if you two are more than two SMV points apart, it is not worth the risk. If she comes with baggage or a previous marriage, it is not worth the risk. If she came from a wealthy home, it is not worth the risk. If her politics are much different than yours, it is not worth the risk. If she watches TV, it is not worth the risk. If she hates household chores, it is not worth the risk. If she is engrossed in having a career, it is not worth the risk. If she has tattoos, body piercings, or blue hair, it is not worth the risk……..I could go on, but I think you got the point. If you can’t find her, better to not take the risk in the first place.
Second, if you signed the contract, do what you can to keep a traditional household. Go to church, eat meals at the table, limit media intake, pray together, read books together out loud. Do what you can to make sure she is aware of the social and spiritual consequences of destroying the family.
Third, work on yourself. Be the man she will focus her hypergamy towards. Improve yourself physically, spiritually, intellectually, and financially. Make sure she knows you are the man she desires, not Chad.
I have a coworker who is an electrical engineer. He makes a good income, but he is rather round. He talks a lot about video games. Several years ago, his wife decided to get a gym membership. He did not follow. She ended up shagging her trainer, and monkey branched away, leaving him and the two kids behind. She told the judge that she did not want custody of the kids. So, he took care of them. She got a job in sales and was doing rather well, but she ended up owing 30k in back child support. Later on, she decided she did in fact want the kids, and so took him to court. With the back child support, the adultery, and the abandonment of her kids, you know what she got? 50% custody and a court order for him to move so they would be closer together. Gotta love those family courts. At least she never accused her ex of abuse.
In his statement, Rollo mentions a number of things that the guy does that would ruin any remaining respect his wife would have for him. Don’t do those things. Treat her good, but treat her fairly. Don’t be the nice guy work horse servant that feminism and the media teach society. (which is why I say to not have a TV).