“I want to feel passion, I want to feel pain. I want to weep at the sound of your name. Come make me laugh, come make me cry… just make me feel alive.”
-Joey Lauren Adams
Today’s lesson in Dread Game revolves around Level 6 in the 12 Levels of Dread – Gaming your wife. Take a moment to think back on your marriage. If you’ve been married for a few (or many) years now, chances are the original spark that fueled your marriage at the beginning has faded and a steady routine has settled in. It’s only common for men to crave routine and patterns. That’s how we tend to operate best as having to constantly adapt to changes wears us down mentally. Establishing routines and patterns allows us to focus on the big things throughout the week without sweating the small stuff. Unfortunately, this downside to this predisposition is that it causes stagnation within the marriage.
Remember, women are creatures driven by their emotions. They crave that emotional roller-coaster and will do whatever they can to get their fix and it doesn’t seem they’re too choosy on what emotions are elicited as long as SOMETHING is. You are tasked with the burden of deciding how she will get her fix. If you sit around and do nothing, she will start fights and be passive aggressive with you. However, if you’re proactive you can head her off at the pass and steer her towards a more favorable set of emotions.
The best way to accomplish this is to apply game tactics to your wife. So easy a cave man can do it, right? Well yes and no. If you’ve been married for any amount of time chances are your wife has gotten used to your tactics and is fairly well insulated. Part of gaming your wife will be passing her various shit tests (hence why the foundation levels are so important) as well as adding excitement and variety to her life.
Think back to when you and your wife were first dating:
- Remember the passion and new experiences you both enjoyed?
- What kinds of dates did you take her out on?
- Where’s the craziest place you had sex?
- What originally drew you to her and her to you?
Bring these elements back to your marriage with spontaneous vigor. Grab your lady and begin dancing with her when a slow song comes on. Fling her over your shoulder and carry her to the bedroom for a weekend afternoon romp. Go camping in your backyard complete with campfire and smores. If you’re making her smile, then she has no time to frown.
But, But, But…
I know what many of you are thinking…
“How am I supposed to game my wife? The passion has gone stale. I don’t have the energy/time/creativity.”
If this is your mindset, then you’re right. You won’t be able to game your wife. It gets harder as time goes on, true, and a lot of times it might feel like work especially starting out. If your marriage has gone stale and you’re working on reigniting the passion, you’re going to have to think of it as a long term investment. You probably won’t see much initial returns on your investments. Your wife might be wary or suspicious. If things are really bad, she will even reject your advances, but keep at them. Brush off the losses and keep improving in the previous levels of Dread Game.
Capitalize on the moments your wife opens up to you, but don’t rely on them. Make your own openings. Take charge and do things that excite her and leave her wondering what’s next.
Don’t mistake that every gesture you make needs to be grandiose in scale. It can be as simple as going out for ice cream and playfully sneaking bites of hers when she’s not looking or going to a park and swinging side by side on the swings at night when it’s quiet and the stars are out. The most important things are A) you’re spending time together and B) you’re both enjoying it.
For those of you steeped in the Red Pill concepts, just remember to employ these few basic concepts you should already be familiar with:
- Regular and escalating kino (physical touch for the less savvy)
- Get her hamster running by using push/pull dynamics
- Be constantly pulling her into your frame
- Don’t take things seriously. While not a Red Pill term, remember this should be fun. Make sexual innuendos, cop a feel at random times, go nuts.
In closing, your wife married you because you made life fun. As time goes on, the daily grind can remove the shine on your relationship. Take conscientious steps every single day to bring that fire back to your marriage. Make your marriage as fun as when you were dating. Your wife will adore you for it.
- The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene
- Song of Solomon
- The 48 Laws of Power (Laws 17, 24, 25, 32, and 37)