The Nine Noble Virtues of Fatherhood: Part 1

I feel that all men need something higher than themselves to believe in.  Religion works for some guys and even though I am not part of any religion, I understand its usefulness and why it’s needed in the world. I have found that there is a modern group of people who have tried to revive pagan Norse mythology and religion in the form of Odinism.  While I do not consider myself an Odinist, I have found that their Nine Noble Values can be revamped for any guy, and specifically a red pilled father.

The nine noble virtuess are:

  • Courage
  • Truth
  • Discipline
  • Honor
  • Loyalty
  • Hospitality
  • Self-Reliance
  • Industriousness
  • Perseverance

This will be a three part mini-series here.  Each installment will cover three values, interpret them, and apply them to being a family man today’s world.

Courage

Courage is defined as having the “mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear and difficulty.”  As you can see some of other virtues are in the definition of courage and this is why it goes first.  Having courage is something society has revered for centuries.  Having courage is probably the most masculine trait you can think of.  It means that despite anything else going on, you’re going to nut up and face any challenge.  Not only that, but it means you believe in your ability enough to face things outside of your control.

Courage in our world is quite different than that of a Norse warrior, but we can still apply it.  Courage means facing something opposing you and standing your ground. Some of our beliefs here can come under direct attack from friends, family and coworkers.  Hell, even having the courage to stand up for yourself against a controlling power hungry woman takes some courage at first.   Courage in the sense that I like to subscribe to is the ability to understand and believe in your own ability to take on any task.

For the family man, this means being the protector of your family.  It means being the rock for them to stand behind when shit gets crazy.  It means warding off physical threats, as well as filtering out toxic ideologies.    You’re the most powerful force in your family, and a coward will only teach his family that weakness is acceptable.  Your sons will grow up to to be weak men.  Your daughters will no have a notable man to judge all other men against.  Your wife will look to other men if you are a weakling.   Courage as a man is paramount.

Truth

Living by your word is an archetype that has transcended men for centuries.  Once its established that you aren’t trustworthy, its basically impossible to get that reputation back.  A coward lies and sneaks around, and if you don’t have the balls to stand up and say what you truly feel then you need to go back to step one.  A man who is sure of himself doesn’t need to lie.  If you truly do screw something up, you have to own up to it.  I don’t care how minor or major the level of screw up, you accept it and move on.

For our purposes, a father has to be straight up with his intentions and beliefs because once again, his family will emulate this behavior.  Being real with your children about the world will set them up to better deal with it.  I think a huge problem with young adults is how sheltered they’ve been their entire lives.  A little horror and struggle makes you a better person.  Insofar as your wife, being real about what you want can avoid all speculation and guesswork out of a marriage.  Each person lays out what the other expects and if there is anything you have a problem with, you can clear the air before it becomes a fight.  A final note on telling the truth is that you’re held in higher esteem if you’ve never been caught in a lie.

Discipline

Discipline is a word many people struggle to define let alone practice.  The definition of discipline is “training that corrects, molds, or perfects the mental faculties or moral character.”  While courage and truth are pretty easy to understand, discipline is different for everyone.  As men, discipline sets us apart from women.  Women by nature give into indulgences more quickly than men.  Your discipline can be a beacon of excellence for your family, but it’s more of a personal thing.

You must be disciplined to get up and go to to the gym.  You must be disciplined to not eat an entire pizza or drink a case of beer yourself.  The thing about discipline is that it sucks.  Most times the things you have to do, aren’t necessarily the things you want to do, but you have to do them anyway.  You almost develop a natural high from not giving into temptations all the time.  You’ll be viewed as a god as you stand your ground while everyone else around you is degenerate.   You’ll at least stand out as a guy who has his own plan in life.

The Challenge

Reading about the nine virtues is one thing,  but applying them in your life is the goal. This week, go out and apply the three virtues we’ve covered here today.

Get the courage to try a new sport or to tell someone off who is giving you a problem.  Do you best not to lie and stick to your word. Exercise discipline when committing to a goal and make sure you see it through.  As always, feel free to comment or message me with any questions.

I’ll end with a quote from the viking spiritual book, the Hávámal.

 

“Cattle die

kinsmen die

all men are mortal.

Words of praise

will never perish

nor a noble name.”

-J. Nyx

Author: Jnyx

J. Nyx is a father of three and co-owner of akingscastle.com. He understands that there is something missing in the community and that you can be a traditional, masculine man in our current age as well as a dedicated leader of your family.

  • bem

    Great stuff. Looking forward to the rest!
    The absence of these values in so many of the “men” around us makes me very pessimistic about their offspring…

    • AkingsCastle

      Thats very true bem, and the reason why we’re here.

  • This is awesome Jnyx. I wrote an chapter about the nine noble virtues in Might Makes Right. Very important topic glad to see it’s getting covered here. First time I’ve seen them mentioned in the manosphere. Also great quote!

    • AkingsCastle

      Thats awesome, I’ll have to pick up a copy. I’m surprised that no one (other than you) in the sphere ever wrote about them before.

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  • Gaz

    As a step dad to two kids and my first on the way strong parenting advice is always welcome.

    It’s hard to go against the tide and be strong but kids raised well, I am trying to do so and it’s not easy but I know that it is working. I see it in the kids and how they treat me with the respect I have taught them and how they treat others.

    A small investment early on can be worth it many times over when they grow older.

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