How to Effectively Debunk Toxic Feminist Narratives

Over the past few decades, the liberal left has been slowly undermining traditional family values, corroding the cornerstones that raised up Western civilization to become the shining city on the hill for the rest of the world to emulate.  Their hooks are so deep into modern society that many of their messages go unrecognized or unanswered by the unwashed masses.  As the protector of your family, you must root these toxic narratives out of your household to prevent them from causing discord.

But what are the best methods for doing so?  A lot of it depends on your audience (wife, daughters, or sons?) and the message that you are debunking.

Starting off, most of the “debunking” will come in the form of shit tests from your wife as she tests her boundaries and sees how far she can push you before you push back.

Just like shit tests, these are best handled with a demeanor of mild amusement sprinkled with the liberal-triggering, cold, hard facts of life.  Don’t take their arguments seriously because Lord knows deep down they don’t either.

And as always, it’s best if you don’t date/marry a woman with these toxic beliefs to begin with, but if you were foolish enough to get into this situation, here’s some methods of handling them.

Whatever You Can Do, I Can Do Better

Ahh, the mantra of “grrl powah” can be heard far and wide through our society.  You see it in movies, TV shows, TV commercials, billboards, video games, and now even in comic books.  Women have been told for so long that they are just as capable as men in every aspect that most, even many of the traditional, conservative women, have swallowed the lies hook, line, and sinker.

This is, by far, one of the easiest lies to debunk.  A few simple questions will have your wife contradicting her original assertions in a matter of moments.  Basically, you want to bring the full weight of her misguided statement crashing down on her.  You don’t necessarily need to nuke her from orbit with your response, but you do need to make it known to her that she’s speaking utter nonsense.

The most obvious counter to this claim is to bring out the physical differences between men and women.  Men are naturally stronger, faster, and more resilient than women are.  That’s not some fluff, it’s a fact that’s proven time and time again.

The common response you’ll receive when you start listing off how men dominate the physical market will be dismissal.  “So? What does that matter?”

It’s not your goal to list every single way that your wife’s assertion is wrong.  You just need to plant the seed and occasionally water it.  As time goes on, they’ll begin to see how misguided they were.  At this point, your only response should be something along the lines of “Well, you said women were just as good, if not better, than men in everything.  These studies regarding the large disparity between men and women strength and speed would argue otherwise.”

Another, less confrontational method is to sidestep the issue entirely using some verbal Aikido.  You’re not directly attempting to debunk her, but you’re still letting her know she’s being childish.  This can be done with a simple question.

“Honey, we’re married.  You’re my wife.  I thought the goal of us being married was to work with each other, not to compete against each other.  Why would you want to compete with me instead of complementing my weaknesses as I complement yours?”

If this doesn’t take the wind right out of her sails, then your wife has some deeply imbedded ego issues…Good luck with that.

The Wage Gap Myth

Again, this is another issue that is constantly peddled by the toxic left to create a rift between men and women.  Typically, this argument isn’t an issue within marriages, but it can still rear its ugly head.

To counter this one, you need to know your facts and hammer home the behavioral differences between men and women.  A good source of information on this topic is TL;DR’s Youtube video on the subject.  Take the information he provides and add your own flair to it.

The basic points you should keep drilling her on are as follows:

  1. Women on average work less hours than men
  2. Women take more time off work (sick leave, vacations, etc)
  3. Women prioritize family before work more often (you really think taking 3 months off work isn’t going to affect your chance of a promotion?)

Their common rebuttal to these facts?  Solipsism.

“But I don’t do that!  I work 40 hours every week!”

Just remind her that what you’re stating are national averages.  Give her a small win and let her be the outlier, but make it clear that she IS the exception, not the rule.

I like this example to help put things into perspective a little more…

Let’s say for easy math that women, on average, work 1 hour less per week than men do.  No big deal right?  Now let’s extrapolate that out to all the women in the USA.

According to the US Dept of Labor, 57% of the women in the USA are in the work force.  That puts us at about 92.3 million women working.  Multiply that by the average hour less than women work than men and you have a combined total of 92.3 million less work hours that women worked than men each year.  Now it doesn’t sound so insignificant, does it?

Equal Rights

This one is another matter simple enough to counter.  Simply demand she cite specific laws that discriminate against women (hint: She won’t).  If you’re feeling especially feisty, bring up the fact that women are awarded custody of the children over 80% of the time, that men serve longer jail time than women do for the same crimes, or the fact that women do not need to sign up for the draft, but men do.  Just keep hammering those facts home without getting drawn into her frame (most likely manic at this point) and declare your victory when she starts throwing out the insults and strawmen.

For extra fun, demand silly things of her like she hold open the door for you when entering a restaurant or other trivial things that women tend to take for granted from men.  Just remember to never take it serious.  Make it a joke that you occasionally tease her about, not a hammer to bludgeon her over the head with.  After all, these are matters that, even if true, you have no control over so why fret about it?


A well known saying in the Red Pill community is that feminism, and its core beliefs and tenants are a massive shit test against men and that is completely true.  Knowing that, enter every one of these exchanges with that in mind and adjust your mindset accordingly.  Ideally, your woman shouldn’t be believing any of this nonsense to begin with, but with every single media outlet peddling these lies, it is likely that she’s at least bought into some of these faux issues a little bit.  It will do nothing for you to get wrapped up in a heated debate with your wife over something as asinine as “grrl powah!”  Just remember the 3 S’s:

  1. Smile at her absurd accusation
  2. Swat said accusation aside
  3. Sex her up and make her feel like a real woman

Do these three things and you’ll find that these shit tests will come up less and less.  There are a few discussions I didn’t bring up in this article because they qualify as automatic red flags that should prompt you to bail out of the marriage due to the extreme levels of toxicity:

  1. “I don’t need no man.” – Point taken.  See ya!
  2. “The patriarchy is the cause of all our problems.” – The indoctrination runs deep with her.  Peace out!

What are your thoughts?  Have you had to swat aside these arguments or similar ones with your wife?  What tactics did you use?  Leave them in the comments section below.


Author: Jak

Jak, married and father of three, seeks to help the Red-Pill Community take its next step past the petty cynicism and ineffectual anger. While he recognizes that men are significantly handicapped by the modern legal system and culture, he doesn't accept that traditional marriage is untenable in today's social climate. Rather, men must be willing to adapt to this new world by implementing new tactics and approaches to maintaining a balance of power. Jak is here to provide you with these lessons.