Don’t Sacrifice Your Dignity and Self-Respect

A picture circulating around Twitter has been generating quite a buzz and not in a good way…

Now I’m a pretty laid back guy and generally stay pretty detached from my emotions, but every time I see this picture I am awash in a mixture of disqust, pity, and contempt.

Those of you with weak constitutions, look away now…

Ugh, even looking at it now I am sickened.  This, gentlemen, is a man who lacks even the smallest shred of dignity or self-respect.  This man, to use the term loosely, has lost even if he gets his 1 million likes.

Today, we’re going to look into this case of severe soy boy and break down what’s gone wrong and how it can be fixed.  If this sad lump in the picture ever comes across this article, it’s my sincere hope that you take what you are about to read to heart.  The truth is going to be a bitter pill to swallow, but the end result is far better than begging your wife for children on Twitter like a little bitch.

The Breakdown

So let’s take a quick look at the picture from an analytical point of view and jot down all the we see wrong:

  • The dude is a slob.  Unkempt hair, hoodie, no doubt wearing shorts and flip-flops out of frame.
  • Totally emasculated demeanor. Pleading eyes, shit-eating grin, shoulders slumped, head cocked to one side like a sad puppy….hell, he can’t even hold the damn sign without looking absolutely pathetic!
  • Noncommittal Wife. Read the sign very closely.  Do you see it?  If he gets 1 million likes, they could DISCUSS having a baby.  This dude’s wife has so little respect for him that she won’t even commit to following through on having a baby with him.

The Fix

Where to begin?  Most red-pill men after seeing this picture would say to divorce the wife immediately.  I understand the sentiment but let’s dig a little bit deeper.  The wife’s behavior is merely a symptom, not the source of the problem.  The problem is in the man himself.  This guy has no self-respect, so naturally, his wife has none for him either.  If he were to divorce her, he’d wind up in the same situation again and again.

It can be a bit daunting to determine where to begin on a case this extreme, but being the methodical person that I am, I am going to follow the 12 Levels of Dread in order.

Level 1  – This guy is completely dominated by his wife’s frame.  The mere fact that this picture is circulating is proof enough.  He needs to invest quite a few months learning how to successfully swat aside his wife’s various shit tests and begin pulling her into his frame.

Level 2 & Level 5 – At the risk of sounding like a cheesy TV show, this guy needs a serious makeover.  He doesn’t need to be rocking a 3-piece suit or anything, but for God’s sakes, take some pride in how you look! Wear some clothes that fit well, do something with that thing on your head, clean up your diet, and go lift weights 4-5 times per week.  As his outward appearance begins to improve, so will his mindset.  If you go great lengths to take care of yourself, you won’t stand for people who cause you grief, including your wife.

Level 3 – Once this guy has mastered himself, he needs to get out and enjoy life.  As Hunter says over at The Family Alpha, your wife should complement your life, not be the center of it (paraphrasing).  If his wife doesn’t want to go with him when he invites her, he should just shrug, say her loss, and go.  If he’s out having the time of his life, she’ll want to join in.  Boom! She’s fallen into his frame and the spark of romance is rekindled.  He’s now seen as adventurous and exciting to her.

Level 4 – This guy is obviously too eager to jump through hoops for his wife.  He needs to taper off this physical and emotional availability.  If she’s treating him well, return the feelings, but as soon as she starts acting up, find better things to do.  Go out for a drink.  Go to the gym.  Whatever it is, just make it known her antics don’t amuse you and you’re not going to hang around and let her use you as a punching bag.  My guess is right now whenever she shows the slightest degree of disapproval at something, he comes running to beg forgiveness.  Disgusting.


This is a tough case and chances are this guy won’t be waking out of his soy-induced stupor any time soon.  Let this be a lesson to the men reading this article.

  • Always carry yourself with dignity and pride.
  • Don’t tolerate disrespect from anyone, including your wife.
  • Keep your wife on her toes and the marriage exciting. She’ll love you for it.
  • Take responsibility for how your marriage is.  Be the head of the house and pull your family into your frame.

I’d say if soy-boy here diligently followed the steps prescribed, he could begin to regain a semblance of a harmonious marriage in about a year, although it would take longer to fully iron out all the wrinkles.  This all depends on how long he’s been married and been led around by the balls by this woman.

If he followed these steps to a T for a year and saw zero improvement in his marriage, then I would say it’s time to start looking at bailing out.  I don’t take this recommendation lightly, since we’re a site dedicated towards men fixing their marriages, but some simply cannot be fixed.

Soy-boy, may God have mercy on your soul.  If you do read this article, email me.  We’re here to help.



Author: Jak

Jak, married and father of three, seeks to help the Red-Pill Community take its next step past the petty cynicism and ineffectual anger. While he recognizes that men are significantly handicapped by the modern legal system and culture, he doesn't accept that traditional marriage is untenable in today's social climate. Rather, men must be willing to adapt to this new world by implementing new tactics and approaches to maintaining a balance of power. Jak is here to provide you with these lessons.