A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm,
She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
-Proverbs 30: 10-18
To many new members to the Red Pill or Manosphere, the idea of Dread Gaming your wife brings about mixed emotions. While the initial principles actually seem harmless and rather productive, the idea of “dreading” and “gaming” your wife comes across as manipulative, shady, and coercive. I have mentioned in previous installments of this series that the steps prescribed are intended to restore balance to a marriage, it is still often met with apprehension by many newcomers who aren’t fully acquainted with the intent of the process.
In this article, we’re going to discuss what caused the rise of systems such as Dread Game, the Red Pill, and the Manosphere as a whole.
Shifts in the Balance of Power
With the steady rise to power feminism has enjoyed, women’s role in society and behaviors have dramatically changed. Much like government policies, this shift has had its own -arguably- unintentional consequences. Each shift made on the scales has dramatically altered our culture’s landscape. Most women, and a large majority of unwitting men, praise these changes as progress towards a better world. But the truth however, paints a much bleaker future.
Below are some major policies and cultural norms that have greatly shifted in recent decades that have shattered traditional marriages and increased animosity between the sexes. Where the once was harmony, there is now turmoil and power struggles. The list below is going to sound like a list from a MRA site, but that is not my intent. The intent is to merely to list the afflictions so that men may know how to better tackle the hurdles LTR/marriages present and why Dread Game evolved. Treat it as a (very) brief history lesson so that you learn from the mistakes of the past.
- No-fault divorce: In my opinion, this was the crack that opened the dam for many other of our societal ills. With women no longer needing a legitimate reason to dissolve their wedding vows (abuse, neglect, etc.), hypergamy ran rampant as women’s short-term desires overrode their long-term commitments.
- Child custody laws: As divorce rates increased and the lines over who should get the child blurred (If the father was abusive or neglectful of his familial responsibilities, it was obvious who would get the children…but now?), society scrambled to determine who should be awarded custody of the children of these failed marriages. Sadly, this is where society has not caught up with the times as the mothers still attain primary custody of the children by an overwhelming margin even if the father was an equally suitable parent and provider.
- Divorce rape: Not much to say on this one. If the wife is more likely to be awarded custody of the children, the father is the one usually left paying for child support and jumping through many other financial hoops while not being equally represented in his own children’s life.
- Female financial independence: Rather than being a direct issue on its own, this exacerbates the issue of No-fault divorce as women are no longer reliant on the husband to be the primary provider of the family while she raises the children and tends to the home. This break in the symbiotic relationship between husbands and wives has empowered many of the toxic sentiments we see in women today (“Don’t need no man!”). Government welfare programs make this issue even worse as even if the wife isn’t gainfully employed, she knows that she can rely on the government to sustain her.
The Yin-Yang of Marriage
Men and women were created to have significantly different roles in the family unit. While men tend to be more assertive, commanding, assertive, risk-takers, women tend to lean on the side of submissive, nurturing, and risk-averse.
Put another way, men are fire and women are water; yin and yang.This creates a balance between the two extremes that makes life and growth possible. Too much of one or the other and chaos and desolation ensue. We have seen this lately as women increasingly take on more masculine roles and traits while men become increasingly effeminate. We are stuck somewhere in the middle, where neither sex are optimizing their God given traits to maximum effect.
Women make poor men and men make poor women. This isn’t sexist or outdated thinking. This is truth on a deeply biological level that can be traced back to our ancient ancestors. The more we see the yin and yang switch, the more chaotic and broken down society will become.
How Dread Game Fixes This Shift
Dread Game is nothing more than men re-establishing their masculinity. It promotes confidence, assertiveness, dignity, discipline, and the desire to improve oneself to become a better husband and father for his family. He becomes the leader that he was made to be on a genetic level.
I hold no delusions of government policies or the liberal trends of sexual promiscuity and female “empowerment” reversing any time in my lifetime. However, this isn’t the purpose of Dread Game. Rather, Dread Game was always meant to work on a micro level. As the man assumes the throne, leading his family with confidence and competence, his wife will no longer feel the need to adopt masculine traits and will be able to do what her biology dictates. Simply put, as the man becomes more masculine, the woman will naturally follow his lead and become more feminine in turn. This balancing of nature makes both parties happy as they are now able to do what they do best.
For those of you still on the fence about the term “Dread Game” and its negative connotation, I submit an alternative wording: Value Creation. After all, that is all that the steps of Dread Game do – create intrinsic and extrinsic value on the part of the husband. You are becoming more fit, more decisive, more confident, and more capable. As you up your game, your wife realizes that she needs to up hers as well or be left in the dust.
If your marriage isn’t where you want it to be, ask yourself one simple question…
What have you got to lose?Read through the first six levels (located on the top menu) and give it a solid six to eight months of concerted, diligent effort. The first six levels pose no risk to you and if you find that it doesn’t work for you, you can drop it at any time. That being said, I’m confident after the results you’ll see there’s no chance in hell you’ll drop it.