Your Kids Are Tougher Than You Think

The year is 1925, my grandfather is only 15. He has two younger brothers, aged 10 and 3. He is living in a mining camp in Idaho with his mother, who is a school teacher, and his father, a veteran of the Spanish-American war of 1898, a miner and alcoholic. That year, his mother contracts tuberculosis and dies. Within a month, his depressed father drinks himself to death, leaving the three boys on their own. My grandfather, now head of the household, drops out of high school and goes to work hand loading boxcars at a railroad yard to support and raise his brothers. By 1930, he marries my grandmother and they start a life of farming (still taking care of his brothers) in which they become successful, running over 2000 acres, despite being in the middle of the Great Depression.

The reason I tell this story is to contrast this with the typical teenager today. Hooked on video games and porn, no work ethic, no real responsibilities. I do not know of any kid that would take on that sort of responsibility today. What has happened, and what can we do to reverse this trend?


For generations, media all around us has been inundating us with pro-feminist, pro-socialist rhetoric that is poison to the minds of everyone, young and old. I have said before many times, and will say it again, THROW THE ‘EFFIN TV AWAY! No kid can spend 5 hours (average) per day watching sitcoms where promiscuity is the norm, problems seem to get solved in 1/2 hour or go away by themselves, or the dad is a Homer Simpson buffoon and not have it affect them. Girls have their vanity fed to their detriment.  Boys are continually told they are no more than defective girls.

Lock the computer when you are away and monitor what the kids view. Surround your kids with decent reading material and read with them. I get my kids up at 5:30 for morning scripture study. 30 years ago as a kid, I found Pac-Man and Space Invaders very entertaining. If they whine because they don’t have the newest available, tell them to suck it up. Do they really need a cell phone? Maybe, but not a smart phone.

Work and Responsibility

A strong work ethic is rare these days. With my office job, I find little opportunity to teach my kids how to work. When I was a kid, it was the opposite. Growing up on a dairy farm, I hated spring break and summer vacation. Countless hours of sitting on a noisy tractor, feeding cows, milking cows, or repairing one thing or another filled my time away from school. While I am not sure how much good it done me, I learned wiring, how to fix a car, and more importantly, to bust my butt early in life so I don’t have to later on. Being self reliant allows a person to have the freedom to do as they want, not subject themselves to handouts.

As an office guy now living in a small town, I struggle to find opportunities for my kids to find meaningful work. Some things we do are :

  • Give them some stewardship (the kids are in charge of 9 chickens)
  • Regular chores (setting table, cleaning, etc.)
  • Instead of an allowance, we regularly give them opportunities to earn money by doing jobs above their chores. (25 cents for mending a hole, $50 for a full day of packing firewood to pickup, etc.)

I think it is important to have meaningful work, not just busy work. Kids are smart, and they know if something is needed, and not just moving gravel from point A to point B. My neighbor’s kids (single mom) have been tasked with hand digging this pond in their back yard for aesthetics. Consequently, they are resentful towards the task at hand. Conversely, there was a time when I was in middle school, and being one of the last kids to hit puberty, I was small and picked on. It was bad enough that I had suicidal thoughts. What brought me out of it is this cold snap (around 30-40 below zero) were my parents really needed me. We had a dairy farm and the milk would freeze in the hoses in the time you pulled the milking machine off the cow, got a new cow in, cleaned her up and put the machine on the new cow. My dad simply could not do it by himself while my mom was feeding calves. They pulled me out of school in the mornings to help out. As much as it sucked, it was good to know that I was needed.

Play hard

Last, but not least, is let your kids play. They love rough housing, they love to make noise. They want to be challenged in what they do. Sadly, I look around the neighborhood, and the kids are not playing anymore, either they are soaking up media, or they are in these regimented programs, or when they do go to the park, they are in these restrained swings or platforms which have been so dumbed down by sue happy lawyers that it becomes difficult to really enjoy physical activity.

While we are not completely free range parents, we allow our kids the liberty to play outdoors extensively. We try to give them the tools to build what they want (within reason). A couple months ago, I come home and they are digging this hole in the back yard, they tell me they are making a swimming pool. Whatever, our neighbor just gave us this excess plastic roofing material and they think they have found a use for it. 5 days of digging, and they place the plastic and fill it up with water about 3 feet deep, and 10 feet diameter. While it is an ugly hole, they have thoroughly enjoyed it this summer. Next month, we will fill it in and replant grass. No harm done.

Along with allowing them to play, I will take them camping several times throughout the year, including at least one major backpacking trip. This year, we hiked up to the top of Kings Peak, the tallest mountain in Utah (elev. 13,520). We go rock climbing and other adventures that push their limits and build their confidence. Seeing your 8 year old daughter on top of the mountain would make any dad proud.


As a father, I want my children to get the most out of life that they can. This is only possible if my wife and I have the self discipline and ambition to see that they know how to work for positive goals and believe in themselves, something that is lacking today. It is a great feeling to know my kids are becoming the strong, dependable men and women that God intends them to be.

Author: Jim Johnson

As a man in his early 40's, I grew up on a dairy farm in an irreligious home. Disgusted with the choice of women out there, I looked into religion to find a worthwhile mate. At 23, I joined the LDS (Mormon) faith, married, became a civil engineer, and now have six children. My favorite things are puppies, long walks on the beach, and the color blue (not really).

101 thoughts on “Your Kids Are Tougher Than You Think”

  1. congrats Jim, its great to see you ‘stretch your legs’ with an article, and a good one as well.

    what you have just described is everything the globalists have been working so hard to remove from western society so that the people are so useless & afraid of the outdoors or getting their hands dirty they become totally dependable on the state.

    1. The illuminated mikquetoast cowards want everyone to be as useless and interdependent as they are. Some of the most frightened people on this planet are at the top of our hierarchical global society (the One World Government’s skeleton, if you will). They want the whole world to be as deranged and scared as them, or even better, as scared as the most cowardly group on our and ANY other planet: order followers; cops, soldiers, bureaucrats and more often than not, the people (as proven by Milgram’s experiment of obedience to figures of perceived authority).

      I wish my parents weren’t such selfish pussy cowards and let me be free as well. I had proven to them from a young age that I had autonomy and competence, yet my mother, who was my caretaker after she split up with father (I was 7 years old) always viewed me as this fragile little snowflake that couldn’t be left alone for more than a few seconds. I had to fight with her for my “independence”. I won eventually, but the years of exploratory play were behind me by then, which deeply depressed me after I realized that I was robbed like that.

      1. sounds like your childhood was no picnic Helios, mine wasnt either, sorry to hear that, however the fact that you come to this site (there are other as well) is a positive thing IMO, just reading articles and comments from other guys does wonders for the mind & leaves you feeling a little better about facing the horrors of modern society that are on display daily.
        in the sea of hipsters, poofters, harpies & fruitcakes that are running afoul its good to know that there are men in western countries who still believe in a stable, safe, positive & functioning society, even if the powers that be are hell bent on removing these ideas from your head.

        1. It is true. Ever since I found the manosphere I feel like a void in me has been filled. I have regained a portion of my sanity and finally saw the world in a way reminiscent of the movie They Live. If anything, a sense of purpose and a feeling of glee in the face of the universal darkness that’s upon us are my reward for being honest with myself in regards to the illusory world I had been sold, AND had willfully bought since childhood.

          I may never have fought on the battlefield, built a house or worked the land, but at least I can say that I fought against and successfully survived a psychological war, one that seeks to control me through willful submission to the hive-mind. I had to learn how my mind worked, and to a great extent I did. That leaves me satisfied. Knowing the weapons and techniques of the enemy can help you neutralize them. This is a war of millennia. Truly an exciting age to be alive!

  2. Very good Jim, with kids being awkward this morning this was just the read that was needed.

    Some clearly obvious lessons in this that I’ve missed.

    1. Thanks. I thought it was about time for me to throw my hat in the ring. I would really like to see this site take off

      1. Thank you for writing this, Jim. It was an absolute treat to find your words here this morning. And cheers to AKC’s crew for putting you out front.

      2. I got to the end of the article and bam! its Jim.

        I’m sure the Corpopoly (aka Jews, of course) love how with the advent of portable screens they can try to attach themselves to our children’s minds every waking hour. It’s bad enough they get it in schools for 6 hours a day.

        I don’t even know how it’s possible to raise a family in the burbs or city without the undying stench of “democracy” permeating into our children’s souls.

        1. These days high school kids have electives more than in the past . I make my son take programming and hardware repair which then limits the propaganda intake he has to endure the rest of the day in sex Ed class or history

  3. good ol media! do NOT let em watch this one- somehow, texas invades brooklyn…a “red dawn for hipsters” as one reviewer called it(a good thing!)

    1. Dumb as the movie is, a good portion of New York seems soft and ripe for conquest (not just shitting on NY, here, but also most of the Left Coast). Don’t know if I’d start in Brooklyn – IIRC it’s one of the areas that would actually shoot back – but it’s not hard to imagine that a militia could swoop in.

      I’m amused by the reviews on Rotten Tomatoes (42% reviewer, 33% audience). The New York hipsters love it because of its message (and only that, if you look hard at the reviews), while the rest think it’s absolute shite.

        1. that would do it….then again, it would also destroy the entire world economy. You want the doomsday scenario where people go back to the stone ages and live off the land, get to it. Otherwise, just keep sending us your tributes and we will keep things moving.

      1. New York is an interesting place. You see so much over-patriotism from the folks there, but it has the absolute lowest military representation in the US.

        1. A lot of the over patriotism is silly nonsense for sure, but I think that about all over patriotism and really most regular patriotism. I am not sure that NY has the lowest military representation, but it certainly is low. This has less to do, I think with patriotism than with economics. Being born in NY gives a person opportunity that being born elsewhere often doesn’t. The military is a great way out of very shitty situations in life where you can learn a trade, get discipline, get money for college, etc. etc. etc. However, it just isn’t as necessary in NYS and especially in NYC. My guess is that the vast amount of people who enlist do so for opportunity and not for patriotism and places which require more opportunity will naturally have higher enlistment rates.

    2. ugh this movie looks dreadful. Funny that it is in Bushwick. That’s where I am from. I gotta say, it is gentrifying and becoming a little hipsterish, but still has a long way to go. Fairly sure that if texas invaded bushwick when I grew up, texas would be called South Bushwick right now. If the trends continue I am fairly sure Vermont, let alone Texas, would be able to conquer in a decade.

  4. o yea- Drifter tried to post a comment here but its pending approval…saw this posted over on the other site

      1. Lo, there do I see lolknee.
        Lo, there do I see GoJ and Tom Arrow and others.
        Lo, there do I see the line of shitposters back to the beginning.

        Lo, they do call to me.
        They bid me take my place among them in the halls of Banhalla
        Where the lulz may live forever.

  5. Enjoyed the article, Jim. And you’re right, as a society, we’ve given to the idea the precious little angels have to be protected and coddled every step of the way. Around here in Texas suburbia, kids spend all weekend living out their parents sports dreams, all done with the excuse of future scholarships that they’ll never see. Then one day, we suddenly think sending them to leftist think factories with no life skills will suddenly make them grown ups. Dumb madness.

    1. I pay way more in club fees for my 15 year old than any college scholarship will ever pay back . It’s more about keeping them busy , exercise , and learning how to work with others .

      1. That’s good, if the kid loves it. And hey, if they’re really good and really do love it, ya never know. An awful lot of parents in these parts are a lot like I described, though. I think for younger kids, it ain’t always good.

        1. Most of the parents are fat asses trying to coach on the sidelines while their kids are in the 105 degree heat (I’m in Dallas) running their butts off. They also expect their kids to be a pro by taking them to practice twice per week. You have to constantly playand train to ever even hope you get that slight chance . I have my son play on my over 30 year old squad an additional 3 times per week. Plus he plays on his high school team. It’s a ton of hard work . There is no magic fairy dust like most parents think

    2. That’s how I grew up in a Texas suburb. My hard-pressed mother would drive me and my siblings from sporting club to sporting club, none of which I found particularly interesting. When we weren’t out doing some group activity or another, we were at home or at school. The meth producers and sexual deviants in the Section 8 housing down the street meant I wasn’t allowed to play outside alone, and my handful of friends lived far enough away to require a car for a visit. Even then, only one or two friends were worth visiting – visiting the others just meant playing different video games, while these couple were guys who’d go out in the neighborhood and do stupid kid things.

      Two clubs had value in shaping me, even if there were times I wished I could just quit. I played football for several years, as it was the only sport I personally chose to play, and I was a pretty potent lineman. I was one of only a handful of seventh-graders I expect could hold an offensive line against high schoolers, and the only one who could consistently break through on defense. I think the fact that I chose to play, the fact that I felt good after every miserable practice, and the fact that I was actually pretty good kept me invested.

      The other club was the Boy Scouts of America. Though I can’t in good conscience commend them lately, and though there were massive issues in my troop involving over-protective and micro-managing Scoutmasters, most of my formative moments occurred at camp. Going a week on only two sets of clothing (though a full complement of socks – dirty and wet feet suck), doing some emergency first aid on a kid covered in wasp stings while cut off from any help, and beating new scouts into kids capable of surviving on their own all helped make me who I am today.

      1. I’m convinced scouting and sports were more valuable then than now, even just a decade or two ago. These parents are mind blowing these days, and all else in the world of kids follows suit. Mine are just grown, now. Wonder what’s in store for my grandkids one day??

        1. I respectfully disagree. Anything that promotes self-reliance, competition, and athleticism is MORE valuable now as we see more and more kids becoming couch potatoes, hooked on tv and video games.
          While hunting for your own food or the risk of being trapped out in the wilderness are minimal, the mindset fostered by these activities are invaluable.

          1. Oh they still have value. Don’t get me wrong, I think the root problem is parents, as well as external politics.

            1. On that we can agree. Between many organizations like the BSA bowing down to leftist politics and the parents who coddle their kids, a lot of their value has been undermined. There’s still good groups out there.

          1. the gay lobby sounds like a gay bar designed to look like the lobby of a high rise building. Number one pick up line at The Gay Lobby: “Excuse me, can I push in your stool”

          2. Except for the LDS troops, the scouts I see are pretty lame anymore, but we already had this chat before. I’m sure there are exceptions.

      2. I am a fan of the Boy Scouts in theory – but its essential that there is sufficient parental involvement/enthusiasm otherwise its just a waste of everyone’s time.

        1. Agreed. Lots of the kids I see are just there because they are told to. Really it should be a venue for parental involvement. Too often, as a scoutmaster, I felt like nothing more than a babysitter to replace the TV once a week. As soon as I am done, he will go back in front of the couch.

  6. Just browsing the comment section of some of the articles here, and I think I found where all the “Cool Kids” have been hanging out these days…Holy crap, did ROK Ban Everyone?

      1. That’s to bad. ROK was great back in the day, but all the banning that took place there, ruined a once good thing.

    1. I like the articles here . They are practical and more realistic to the common man .its nice to know there are good nuclear families out there in this crazy world. It’s too late for me since I’m in my 40s and been divorced raped.

      Roosh has gone full retard . He went from finding mrs perfect in Kharkov Ukraine to raging white supremacist. He reminds me of the skit where Dave Chappelle is the black and blind grand wizard of the KKK.

      1. Hey, you never know Man, your life ain’t over, and shit you’re only 40, the world is still full of possibility for you.
        That’s a shame about ROK, after i got banned i only went back a few times (only when disqus notified me about an upvote or when someone replied to one of my older comments) so i have no idea what path the site took after I got banned. It was once a good site,… but way to many bannings happened there…

  7. Good to see you finally pen your own article!

    I’m still young but I can see how my parents doing some of this helped me as a child. We never had cable TV, were always kicked outside during the summer and attended church with no whining or disruption allowed. In addition, as soon as we turned 15 my sister and I were expected to get jobs during the summer.

    It really was about keeping us busy and teaching us to be useful, and I’ll likely take it to the next level should I have a family.

  8. I thoroughly enjoyed your article, Jim – nice job! Kudos to the crew at AKC, they’re cooking up some quality content over here!

  9. I struggle to find opportunities for my kids to find meaningful work.

    It’s maybe gonna sound weak, but get them a dog.

    Make them feed it, water it, let it out, brush it (if necessary) and clean up after it. It’s not a ton of work, but it’ll give them something to be responsible for, and it won’t be something they can just push off til tomorrow. They’ll have to learn to take care of something day in and day out without exception.

    1. It’s also a great way to get them used to the concept of death. Eventually the dog dies, whether violently (like my second dog – killed by a crazed pit bull) or of old age (like my first), or by disease (like my current pet, who seems to have some late-stage cancer).

      Depending on how old they are, though, a rat might be easier. You clean their cages, keep their food and water handy, and take them out to play – otherwise, they can largely take care of themselves, and they’re quite friendly little creatures if you get them from a breeder instead of a pet store (those are abused and kept mostly to feed snakes). Lives only about two or three years, though.

      1. Rats are actually good little pets.

        I have snakes, and because of that, I ended up with two rats at one point. They were neat little critters. Smart, friendly, clean.

        1. Oddly enough I can concur. Tame Rats act more similarly to dogs than anything else. Although their short lifespan is pretty sad.

      2. I’ve been pondering that recently, the whole kid/dog/death concept. Obviously dogs were bred for service, but this is a useful secondary tool.

    1. I wouldn’t have guessed that a dickhead con artist would have admitted that 🙂

      I read the comments on that article, man there are some people that have a screwed up way of thinking that evidently can’t put politics aside for any reason.

  10. Honestly, some of the child labor laws need to be repealed. If you’re 12+ and feel like working (and are hire-able), go for it.

  11. This is true in so many various ways. If you push your kids they can do so much. I’m in the early stages, but you can instill this in your kids from a young age.

    The importance of building character in kids from a young age and starting them off with small chores is huge. We can’t give our kids everything. They have to learn to work for what they want.

    Kids are a blessing, but also an asset. We can love them – and still have them be a tremendous blessing with helping out around the house.

    We got my 16 month old son Julius off baby food and on to sippy cups just before he was a year old. We gave him megablocs to play with to get him away from watching the TV. We even have got him to try and help with his little brother.

    Kids really are tough. A quick story:

    Two weeks back I was trying to fix the portocrib my six month old son sleeps in when my 16 month old fell down the stairs.

    When I heard the tumbling and then crying I freaked out a bit. I was afraid something was broken. I picked up and checked all over and he was fine. After comforting him for a few minutes he stopped crying and ran off to play again.

    It reminds me that we can’t helicopter parent our kids. My son can now waddle his way up and down the stairs, though I keep an eye on him when he does it.

    1. Agreed on that. One thing though, don’t be in such a rush for them to grow up. We did that with our oldest, and while he is far ahead of the curve in his schooling (we homeschool) he has some issues dealing with managing stress. Over time, we have learned that if it is an interest of theirs, they will push themselves. All we need to do is supply the climate and encourage them along.

      My seven year old is a good example. He used to not take much interest in schooling. Then one day about a year ago, he says “I’m gonna be a pirate doctor when I grow up”. He decided he wants to be a pediatrician with an office shaped like a pirate ship. So going along with it, we checked out lots of kids books on your body and some history books about pirates. Through it, he has developed a love of reading and understands what your major organs do. Whether he follows through is immaterial at this point, right now this dream is serving him well.

  12. I’m the worst about just reading an article without paying attention to who wrote it. I got about a third of the way through this and said to myself, Jim Johnson wrote this!
    Well done buddy.

  13. Fine article Jim. I didn’t know you were a convert? The Depression and WWII forged our grandfathers generation into a rugged type of man you do not see often anymore.

    On top of chores, I do ask my daughter to help me out repaing something around the house and luckily she likes it. The job takes twice as long, but she gets to spend some time with dad while learning something while turning a screwdriver.

    1. I like it too, this past weekend, we spent time filling in that hole I wrote about and building a swing set over the top. Lots of fun.

  14. Great article Jim, I am not sure if this is your first but if it is….awesome early entry. I am not a parent, but of course I understand the natural desire that a parent has to make their kids lives easy….I mean, don’t you want to give your children everything….the problem many parents seem to have is that they forget that in giving the kids everything they are taking from the kids the ability to go and get. From a non breeding type I found this article quite interesting!

    1. thanks, I think there are other applications outside of being a direct parent as well. If you ever decide to get a LTR, throw away the TV, make sure she has responsibilities, and play with her. It would serve her well.

    2. “.the problem many parents seem to have is that they forget that in
      giving the kids everything they are taking from the kids the ability to
      go and get.”

      THAT is an excellent summary of the failure of modern parenting.

      1. well I am an excellent summarizer. I know because my mommy told me I’m excellent at everything.

            1. you mom thinks what I TELL her to think.

              (please don’t tell me she’s deceased….nothing fuks up a ‘yo momma’ session like that kind of revelation…)

          1. While talking to a woman once she asked me where I get off being so cocky (it was playful banter) and I said “my grandma says I am handsome, charming and perfect in every way” she rolled her eyes and said something snarky and I replied “are you calling my grandma a liar?” with a voice that contained enough indignity and anger that it took a while for her to know if I was kidding or not

              1. this wasn’t a pick up just a girl I knew but I bet it would work. Ha, just sitting in a bar drunk picking a fight with a girl accusing her of calling my grandma a liar.

  15. Great to have you churning out articles Jim!
    Kids have tremendous inherit potential to grow in to successful adults if they are properly challenged. Modern ‘parenting’ almost deliberately stunts this, retarding development.

    And now the bad news – you do realize that you’re officially Old now, what with this “these kids today…” lamentations…..

  16. good article buddy. i like the idea of engaging your kids with work and chores. familys that put their kids into their businesses are doing them a great favor. i knew a guy that was a rice farmer, and had a lot of acreage. so when his son was six, he gave an acre of rice to his son. he would go to farming meetings.. and he would go over the books and costs of the acre. buy the time he is 18 ,, he will be competant in business. an adorable kid. he dressed just like his dad.. cowboy hat,, little boots . he would get up on saturday mornings,, and go out for breakfast to let his mom sleep in.

    1. I would love to be able to afford a few acres to have the kids do some stuff like that. But then, eating is nice too. I knew a judge who had a lawnmowing business with his kids in suburbia. Had all the equipment and this trailer built so he (a justice of the peace) could push lawnmowers around on the weekend with his kids.

      1. i saw a job corps once where one of the courses was” cashier.” the kids learned to handle a register,, and to keep track of their till. they counted stock, and sold items and restocking, with an inventory gun. ive thought that a game with money management would be a great way to get them aware how money works, and how to count it. do you have enough land for chickens ? they can be raised and eggs sold or eaten. i think your doing great with you kids,, jim. good to see you on line..

          1. good for you raising animals is really inportant i think. it helps them develop compassion for all living things. my great uncle and his family left sulpher springs az. when he was young. and his dad built a cage for the side of his old rio, [i believe] and they brought them to ballard ca, and 88 years later when he died,, he had pet chickens.. i think humans are stewards of the earth . kids can learn lots by gardening and caring for animals.. you are a lucky man. kids,, loving wife,, and a home with land.. good for you, jim.

  17. Kids are being resilient when they rebel against fallacious shitlib/feminist parents. The harder the shitlib parents try to ‘mold’ the sons into manginas, the more the red pill beast awakens in the boys as we see:

    This article: ››› “”Feminist Badgers Her Own Son About Rape Culture, is Shocked When He Rejects Feminism
    Maybe feminists shouldn’t procreate?”” ›››

    It’s too bad the comments are closed on this article. If it could be reposted on a site like this, the comments would keep giving and giving, filling everyone’s bellies for a good while. I don’t know why some site’s servers close the comments so soon on great articles like this one.

  18. Make it fun and start them early. My kids hike, ski and climb as soon as they can walk.
    Last Saturday, my 9, 11 and 16 year old kids hiked 12 miles round trip and climbed a small mountain with me. Their elevation gain was about 4,500 feet. Not one complaint and they all loved it. Last summer my boy was 8 and did a 16 mile day hike with me up a smaller mountain.

    1. I think I pushed them too far with the Kings Peak trip. They are proud of their accomplishment, but all except the oldest want to do a small hike to a lake next year. That’s the plan anyway, our 6 year old will be old enough to go at that point.

      1. My kids have a trip they refer to as, “The Epic.”
        We went a little too hard that day, but today they laugh about it. Now, when hard times come they can always compare it to that day and know that they can still go on; there is still more left in the tank.

        1. I remember a trip like that when I was a kid. What we thought was going to be about 12 miles ended up being about 36. (overnight with backpack). There is something to be said about pushing the extra mile. It sure toughens their resolve when they cannot just quit and go home.

    2. I’m with you on that. My kids started floating at 4 in tubes on the Black and Current Rivers here in Missouri. I am waiting on one to hit 4 before we do that again but for now she sits in a carrier for 2 more years. The 5 year old has hiked 10 miles this week and my olders have been doing this for years. It almost resets the brain to get away for a day or few in the wilderness!!

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