Inspired by part of our conversation in our first livestream, I decided that I would expand upon some of my statements, particularly those about your levels of influence.
To define your levels of influence for this discussion, I am referring to the impact your choices have on your own life, the life of your family, the community, the nation, and finally the world.
Your Own Life
This is where the impact is strongest. Every action you make, every decision, has a direct and immediate impact on your very life and future. There is no escaping it. Sloth, gluttony, honesty, deceit, discipline, hard work – each action reinforces itself and molds who are you and who you will become.
For many, this is scary; a heavy burden that they cannot shrug off their shoulders. But men worth their salt relish in the fact that they wield such power. They know that every fortune or hardship that befalls them isn’t due to the strings of fate, but because of the very choices they have made that have led them up to this very point in time.
Do you go to the gym today or decide to skip?
Do you put some money into an emergency fund or blow it on booze?
Do you lay back after a hard day’s work or go home to work on a side hustle?
Each decision makes a slight shift to the direction of your life.
Your own life and the actions you take rests at the very core of your influence to the ever expanding levels.
The next level of influence you possess is that of your family. You are the head of the household, the man your wife looks to for guidance, and who your children look up to. If you are physically, mentally, and/or emotionally weak, they will be as well.
If you are a strong, capable husband and father, your influence over your wife and children will be stronger than if you are weak and indecisive. If they see you can’t even control your own desires, then why should they follow your lead? The alternative is also the case. If you are diligent, dutiful, and put off short-term satisfactions in order to secure long-term gains, they will look up to you with respect and admiration.
Your Friends and Community
A discerning individual might recognize that while the individual’s influence might be weaker the further out you get from yourself, the inner layers actually assist the individual to increase their reach and power.
Your own aura (confidence, integrity, strength, etc.), coupled with a strong family unit encourages other to listen when you talk. It will start slow at first, but as word spreads, your reputation and influence will begin to grow exponentially.
Your Nation and the World
Now let’s be real for a moment, the very rare few have a national or international impact and that’s okay. This level of influence and power is typically reserved for political figures and celebrities, but make no mistake, it all boils down to the choices made at level one, yourself.
Very rarely will someone rise to national or international prominence without having a strong grasp on the previous levels. Politicians, for example, typically have the support of their community, sometimes being a local mayor before moving onto larger endeavors.
That isn’t to say it’s impossible to gain international fame (or notoriety) without having a strong level of influence within your family or community – we see this all the time on the internet – but it’s a fragile balance that can be easily toppled.
What Path Will You Take?
Whether you choose to stop with just yourself or to shape the world, it all originates at the same source, you. You are the catalyst, the spark that can start a small fire to warm those around you or to set the world ablaze.
In either case, it takes hard work, diligence, and unwavering purpose. This is the ultimate test of frame control. Your frame must be so strong, that you pull others into it. This is related to charisma, but goes beyond merely that. Charisma is great for initially attracting people to you, but if it is not backed by a strong character and a vision, the meat and potatoes so to speak, your pull will be short lived.
Another characteristic that you must possess is enthusiasm. This shouldn’t be too difficult if your purpose aligns with your passion. If they do align, people will see your confidence and determination bleed through whenever they broach the subject. It’s contagious; attractive. People want to win and will side with winners. If you speak with obvious zeal and sincerity, people will be more apt to side with you.
Even if you aren’t actively looking to influence the world, your actions will still ripple out to the world at large. A strong man inspires others to be the same.
You standing tall and owning your life might just convince another man to do the same.