When Dread Game Doesn’t Work


A while back, one of our readers discussed a personal situation where the principles of Dread Game did not work for him.  If I remember correctly, his personal experience led him to surmise that Dread Game was a flawed system and does not work.  Today, we’re going to look into this topic a bit deeper and determine what went wrong and the red flags you should be on the look out for.

As a side note, this article is for educational purposes only and I mean no disrespect towards the reader who left the original comment that sparked this discussion.  It is my hope that we can reach other men out there before they make the same mistake.

The Situation

I have since deleted the screen shot of the gentleman’s comment, but the general premise was that he was married to a lawyer (if I remember correctly) who was more or less immune to the man’s Dread Game. From what I remember, he did everything he could but to no avail.  Since there is no way to validate his whether he is telling the truth or not, we’re just going to take him to his word and believe he followed at least the first few levels of Dread Game perfectly.  So what happened?

Based of the description he provided of his ex, the simplest answer is that he married an alpha female.  I know of a few men who will argue on the terminology so let me lay out what I mean by this.  An alpha female, in this discussion, is similar to an alpha male.  They are driven to perform, readily take on leadership roles, and typically put career ahead of family.  This is a stark contrast to the feminine woman that makes a good wife.  Typically, alpha women make poor wives, opting for climbing the corporate ladder as opposed to performing her maternal roles.  Some believe they can do both, while others hold contempt at the mere thought of performing any type of traditional female role within their family unit.

If it’s not readily obvious, if you are looking to settle down with  someone to be a nurturing mother to your children, these are not the type of women you should be seeking.  They will challenge your authority and position every chance they get and will likely treat you as a servant more than a husband.

And may the good Lord have mercy on your soul if you don’t make at least as much as they do, if not more.  This will be held over you and used as a cudgel to bludgeon you every time you try to assert yourself.  If this gentleman’s wife was a practicing lawyer, it’s pretty safe to assume that she was making bank and isn’t the least bit dependent on the husband to help provide.  This makes for a toxic familial atmosphere that breeds contempt and animosity.  With alpha women, the “I don’t need no man” mantra is so deeply ingrained into their psyche, that it would take nothing short than a stampede of horses to pry it loose.

The Solution

As I alluded to, there’s a very slim chance of winning a woman like this over, not that many men looking to settle down and start a family would want to.  If you encounter a woman like this on the dating scene, your best bet is to turn tail and dash off the other way.  Can a woman like this be subdued?  Well, nothing is outside the realm of possibility, but you would have to be so far above her that even the hamster in her head recognizes it (good luck).

And quite honestly, if you are that well off, why would you waste the time and effort trying to land an alpha female anyways?  It will be constant shit tests being lobbed at you to find any chink in your armor.  It’s simply not worth it.

If you don’t decide to heed my warning, then you best be on your A game at all times.  Levels 1 – 6 will need to come to you effortlessly and automatically. Even if you are woken out of a drunken sleep, you should still be able to pass any shit test that she can throw at you.


At the core of this issue is the topic of social behavior.  This is what is known as a “soft science” in that a hypothesis or theory will never yield the same result 100% of the time.  There will always be outliers and exceptions that the red pill rules do not apply to or, at the very least, the bar is set so high that there’s no point in attempting to pursue a long term relationship with them.

AWALT might be a tried and true concept, but the principles do not work on a fixed rate.  To steal a concept from Economics 101, each woman operates on their own  flexible rating system.  Small changes in your behavior, outward appearance, finances, etc. might trigger a large reaction from some women while eliciting  barely a blip for other women.  There is no linear curve that applies to every woman.

I am interested in hearing your comments below on this matter.  My gut tells me that I am write based on what I read, but I have been known to be wrong on occasion.

What would you do in this instance if you suddenly found yourself married to an alpha female?  What steps would you take?


Author: Jak

Jak, married and father of three, seeks to help the Red-Pill Community take its next step past the petty cynicism and ineffectual anger. While he recognizes that men are significantly handicapped by the modern legal system and culture, he doesn't accept that traditional marriage is untenable in today's social climate. Rather, men must be willing to adapt to this new world by implementing new tactics and approaches to maintaining a balance of power. Jak is here to provide you with these lessons.