Pretty Little Lies

“People like to say that the conflict is between good and evil. The real conflict is between truth and lies.”

– Don Miguel Ruiz

Introduction

A lot of the ills that the Red Pill community face every day are based off a plethora of topics that have either been purposely misconstrued or downright fabricated out of thin air in an effort to destroy the traditional family structure.  These lies and falsehoods have had serious implications for any man seeking to start and raise a stable family with them as the head of the household with their wife as their second in command.  To an extent, most modern women have been at least partially indoctrinated with some of these lies and as we covered earlier this week, some are far beyond redemption.

This post is going to cover some of the most nefarious lies that women have been told for the past generation.  Reviewing these lies and fabrications will provide two key benefits for you, as the reader.  First, you will learn the origin of these lies and how to counter them.  Second, you will be aware of some key red flags while you search for a suitable wife or long term relationship.

Lie 1: The Princess Complex

This particular problem has really reared its head in recent decades due to the never-ending stream of Disney cartoons depicting princesses as the only capable and competent characters of the story.  The princess is the prize to be won, nearly infallible, beautiful, and doted upon by all around her.  She is also typically outspoken, annoyingly opinionated, and prides herself on her independence.  Meanwhile, the “prince” is typically the exact opposite: Dorky, extreme character flaws, and who’s sole purpose is to woo yon fair maiden, typically for nefarious reasons initially, but after bathing in her brilliance for sometime, they see the error of their ways and convert to good.

As you can surmise, this establishes an incredibly imbalanced depiction of male and female dynamics at a very early age in life and I would be lying if I said most women outgrow this propaganda.  Rather, the innocent games of dress up and pretend will often transform into vile personality traits if not properly nipped in the bud by the father.  A woman who still believes she is a princess, the prize that men should fight over, have extreme entitlement issues.  They will make lists of demands while often offering little in return.  They want to be spoiled, just like their weak fathers spoiled them.

The cure for this particular ailment, aside from avoiding altogether, is to make it known in no uncertain terms that she is not a little child anymore and you will not treat her like a princess.  You are the king of your castle and if she wants to be with you, she is to be your queen.  A queen’s role is to support her king in the task of running their kingdom.  If she insists on being treated like a princess, simply tell her you’ll find a suitable prince to marry her off to in order to secure an alliance between your two nations.

The Princess Complex is the mother of all shit tests and should not be humored for a second.  If you give in, she will walk all over you.  I’m not saying that you should never spoil or romance your wife, but it should be done on your terms, not hers.

Lie 2: Unconditional Love

The concept of unconditional love, from what I can gather, was originally a Biblical idea based on God’s unconditional love for mankind.  If you aren’t the religious type, just stick with me here and let’s not get sidetracked.  Although God loves all of His creations unconditionally, He is also not too keen on letting chronic transgressions against Him slide and has been known to punish even His chosen people harshly for not following His laws.  Think “tough love.”

However, this notion of love was perverted by a psychologist known as Erich Frumm.  He is the source of how most people think of unconditional love nowadays; that being which you accept and love people despite all their faults and shortcomings.  This might be fine from a spiritual perspective, but simply isn’t conducive in a marriage.

For example, say I like to lounge around, watch TV, drink beer, and eat Cheetos all day and don’t hold down a stable job while my wife supports our family, cleans the house, and takes care of the kids.  Am I still a man worthy of such love from her?  If we’re being honest here, no.

Yet, we see this play out time and time again in reverse with the woman demanding unconditional love from the husband while offering very little in return.  This closely parallels the Princess Complex but isn’t quite the same thing.  One key difference is unequal reactions to transgressions.  For example, the wife might chew out the husband for leaving the toilet seat up, but then get offended if you chew her out for wrecking the family car because she was texting while driving.

Another example of this social ill is your spouse will demand you love them while offering little to nothing to the marriage.  They quit exercising and get as big around as they are tall?  You got to love them unconditionally.  They quit their job, but don’t keep the house clean during the day?  Still got to love them unconditionally.  You get the picture.

Depending on the nature of the woman, the concept of unconditional love can be caused by either malicious intent or solipsism, or simply not seeing things from any other perspective besides their own.  If it’s the latter, some consistent and stern, but gentle reminders may be enough to correct the ship.  If it’s intentional and malicious however, adopt a similar approach to the Princess Complex (shape up or ship out).

Lie 3: Soul Mates

This is probably the most benign of the problems we’ll be discussing today, but can offer its own set of problems.  First, let’s cover its origins.  The first recorded referencing of the term was in Plato’s book, The Symposium.  In it, the gods split the original humans, who consisted of four arms, four legs, and a head with two faces into the humans we are now.  Split as such, we are forced to wander the world in our miserable incompleteness until we find our other half.

The term soul mates has become another bastardized term of endearment to signify whoever the person using it is in love with at the current moment.  For most, it is no more meaningful than the term “love” itself.

“I love pizza.”

“I love an ice cold beer when I get home from work.”

“I love The Walking Dead.”

It’s meaningless in its common use, but that doesn’t mean that those using it are harmless.  Be wary of a woman who professes their love for you and claims you are their soul mate, but makes no consistent efforts to demonstrate said love.  All too often, men and women alike fall into the trap of taking the other person for granted and assuming everything is going fine and that they are good because they are in love, are “soul mates.”

The solution for what I’ll call the Soul Mate Downslide is to be constantly gaming your wife.  Don’t take her for granted and likewise, don’t let her take you for granted.  Marriage is about mutual love and respect, yes, but it is also about cherishing the other person and realizing they could be gone from your life in the blink of an eye.  Don’t forget that and don’t let her forget it either.

Conclusion

At the end of the day, most of the issues can be mitigated with the proper vetting of women that you’re seeking a long term relationship with.  If they display any glaring, firmly planted red flags, best to tip your hat and bid them adieu.

For those already in long term relationships or marriages who are seeing these personality traits bubbling up in your wife/girlfriend, it’s best to strike while the iron is hot and not let it fester into an infection that will destroy your happiness.

What issues am I missing and how do you approach them with your wife/girlfriend?  Leave them in the comments section below.

Author: Jak

Jak, married and father of three, seeks to help the Red-Pill Community take its next step past the petty cynicism and ineffectual anger. While he recognizes that men are significantly handicapped by the modern legal system and culture, he doesn't accept that traditional marriage is untenable in today's social climate. Rather, men must be willing to adapt to this new world by implementing new tactics and approaches to maintaining a balance of power. Jak is here to provide you with these lessons.