Making Mental Gains

Once you begin lifting, you make the choice to be “forever small.”  You’re never big enough, you’re never strong enough, you should always be motivated to keep pushing and making yourself better.  You’ll make your body look better, and you’ll amaze yourself at what you can do. One of the things most people fail to realize is the mental side of lifting.  Today I’ll explain my approach and how I feel I benefit mentally from weight training.

Goal Accomplishment and Discipline

Lifting requires discipline.  Dragging your ass to the weights every day, no matter how shitty or good you feel takes effort.  You have to make exercise something you just do.  Like brushing your teeth or sleeping.  You cant think about it, you just have to do it.  To have such a level of discipline and determination can crossover into your real life.  You know what has to be done to accomplish your goals.

Lifting is all about goal accomplishment.  If you go into the gym and lift the same amount of weight every time you’ll never progress.  If you don’t set realistic goals with the iron, you will just waste your time.  Saying you want to go from a noob to benching 400lbs tomorrow isn’t realistic.  Saying you want to up your squat by 100lbs in a year, while difficult, is feasible if you bust your ass.

When I’m trying to achieve something outside the gym, I remember how I psyche myself up and see myself succeeding when lifting, and mentally make before I actually do.

Positive Feedback Loop

The rush you get after breaking a PR is one that makes you feel like a damn monster.  Working hard toward something then crushing it makes you feel good.  I’ve noticed countless times when I’ve had  a great lifting day, the rest of the day seems to go so much better.

I almost treat it like a ritual.  Get up, get clothes on, go out and lift.  Its my time with no distractions.  No kids, no wife, just me, the cold outside air, and the iron.  I then get done and start the rest of my day.  I’ve remembered countless times thinking to myself “hmm who would think that moving hundreds of pounds of iron at 5 am would be the most fun part of my day.”

Makes You Better at Being a Man

Guys are supposed to be strong.  It’s one of the defining features between men and women.  Too often you see guys with pencils for arms, a fat gut, and about as strong as a wet paper bag.  Actually knowing you can be counted on to do the heavy lifting is a great mental high.  Whether its being strong enough to haul building materials around your home, or being able to protect your wife or kids should you have to (strength isn’t all of it, but looking intimidating will make the fuck heads think twice.) Not only that, but there is no way that your woman doesn’t appreciate you showing that you’re one strong son of a bitch.

Removes Negative Tendencies

I can’t speak for all, but when I know I’m lifting the next day, it changes my behavior beforehand.  No drinking the night before, getting to bed early, prepping my food for the next day etc. are all things that distract me from doing something destructive.

Continuing on that topic, and the main topic of today’s article is the fact that so much of lifting and achieving your physical goals is done without even touching the bar.  The mental drive to do it day in and day out.  The discipline to eat healthy, quality foods, and to eat enough of them.  The determination to give up any of the bullshit you’re doing that is holding you back.   In a way, physical exercise a mental exercise as well.  That little bitch inside you that wants to quit or give up before you bang out that last rep needs to be destroyed every time you are out there lifting.


Just lifting weights isn’t enough to make you a better man, but it surely won’t hurt.  If there was one part of the red pill I jumped on the quickest it was the emphasis on weight training, but I do understand that it’s not everything.  I heard a story about a guy who was pretty jacked, but had no self-esteem, worked a shitty job and had an ugly fat girlfriend.  I’m not saying that lifting is going to fix every problem in your life, but I have found that it does have a carry over into other things.

If you’ve never tried it I suggest you start today. If you’re stuck, start with a simple strength training program for a few months and see if you like it.  I guarantee you’ll feel better mentally and being to look better too if you are determined.  The addiction to it is real, and once you start, it seems like you can’t stop.  I feel like absolute dog shit when I skip a workout, and go harder the next day.  Drop a comment below on any insights you’ve seen from hitting the weights


-J. Nyx

Author: Jnyx

J. Nyx is a father of three and co-owner of He understands that there is something missing in the community and that you can be a traditional, masculine man in our current age as well as a dedicated leader of your family.