13 Daily Virtues: Silence, Sincerity, Justice

This is part four of a multi-part series which discusses a method Ben Franklin used to develop his character as a man. Today I’ll go over the next three: Silence, Sincerity, and Justice. Franklin provided a quick explanation of each virtue, but I will provide my own interpretation, as well as how to employ these virtues in your life, and how it relates to red pill theory as a whole.

Virtue 9: Silence

Silence: Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation

I take this as not just going around putting your business out there and also not being a shit talker.  Don’t be that guy that ruins everyone’s time with your bullshit.  Also I tend to take the last part seriously.  Try to avoid conversations that are useless.  If you have something in your head, then say it.  Get to the point and get your point across in a clear manner.

Virtue 10: Sincerity

Use no hurtful deceit; think innocently and justly, and, if you speak, speak accordingly

This virtue kind of piggy-backs off the last one. Be a man of your word and try not to be negative.  Obviously you’ll need to act accordingly to whatever situation you may be in, but if you bring optimism and positive things to interactions in your life, you will benefit.  It ties into the last virtue because it also says to speak based on what you want to accomplish.  If you have to be assertive, then do so.  If you want to be funny or take a jab at someone, do it.  Just deliver 100%

Virtue 11: Justice

Wrong none by injuries, or omitting the benefits that are your duty

I really like this virtue because its short but makes a ton of sense.  First, don’t go around looking for a fight.  Those days should be behind you by now.  Also, don’t be abusive to your family.   I’m not saying that a swat on the ass isn’t exactly what the doctor ordered when a kid gets too out of line, but don’t be excessive and never hit them anywhere else.  You should reserve this for extreme disobedience.

The second part is what gets me.  By not owing up to what you are expected, you leave others in an angry and almost lost state.  The duties we all have to accomplish must be done without complaining.  I like how Franklin uses the word benefits here.   I read it as you are becoming a better person by completing what is expected of you.

Conclusion

To recap we looked at:

Silence: Don’t go around blabbing your mouth about useless stuff.  Speak when you have to and keep the topic to relevant things.  Don’t talk about people in a shitty way.  Jokes between friends are fine

Sincerity: Consider others and be a man of your word.  Make sure to speak relevant to the conversation.

Justice: Don’t harm others for no reason.   If you have to defend yourself then by all means do so, but don’t just hurt people for no reason.  Also be sure to live up to what you’re expected to do in life.

The next post will wrap up this series and I will give a full recap of all the virtues.

 

-J.  Nyx

Author: Jnyx

J. Nyx is a father of three and co-owner of akingscastle.com. He understands that there is something missing in the community and that you can be a traditional, masculine man in our current age as well as a dedicated leader of your family.

  • dckhead_con_artist

    all my conversations on AKC have been useless..so I will post silence………………………….

    • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

      Did you say something?

  • bem

    Gotta say Silence has never been my strong suit…..

    • Murdoc34

      Quiet, you.

      • Jim Johnson

        Sister Mary Elephant is my inspiration.

    • dckhead_con_artist
      • bem

        I couldn’t do this for 5 minutes…..

        • Jim Johnson

          He would have to put this video on loop

      • Murdoc34

        I got through the first three and a half hours, but it’s time to head out. I’ll finish the rest at home later tonight.

        I’ll tell you, THIS is why there are so many “cord cutters”. Cable TV has nothing on what you can get for free on the internet, nowadays.

      • L’UltimoConservatore

        The hell!?

        That only works if you get to play dress up as one of those ancient chinese monks. 😀

    • cheeseburgercheeseburger
      • bem

        WB me.

        • Jak

          WB….Would Butterfly?

      • bem
      • dckhead_con_artist

        fly fly fly … Clarice

    • Joseph Curwen

      I would pay to see you drunk, that must be hilarious af.

      • bem

        Only for the first 15 minutes or so, then I’m an insufferable asshole, followed immediately by a suicidal mope.

  • Wovon man nicht sprechen kann, darüber muß man schweigen (figure i would leave something here incase Curwen popped by)

    • bem

      or Herr Arrow.

      • As the judge said when convicting Bugs Bunny of one crime or another “That Hare Must Die!!!!”

    • Joseph Curwen

      Curwen….me?

      BTW, Ich reise bald nach Deutschland, bist du deutsch?

  • Gundog

    Hunting teaches you all about silence. Just got back from a week of elk and deer hunting on a tiny island near Kodiak, AK. Three dudes sitting under a tree glassing a valley and not saying shit unless its about something you intend on killing. It’s pretty awesome.

    • dckhead_con_artist

      I need to do more of that. I have a friend who owns a good amount of land in East Texas and he always invites to hunt Russian Boar and Deer…I need to get out there.

      • Gundog

        Go for it. I have a buddy from law school who has hunted Texas hogs. They sound like a blast (and slightly dangerous). My brother lives down there and some day I want to do a hog hunt with him.

        • dckhead_con_artist

          Plenty of YouTube videos of east Texas hog hunting . Some don’t go down without a fight ..

          • Jak

            Why do that when you can simply keep one as a pet until it’s big enough to kill and eat?

            • dckhead_con_artist

              honey lets take the boar our for a walk…did you clip his tusks this morning ?

              • bem

                what? I always take a rifle with me….

            • Murdoc34

              Seems to be all the rage these days. Time to trade in the Remington Model 700 for a Ridgid Model 12 heavy duty pipe wrench.

            • Gundog

              That’s what backyard poultry is for.

            • Jim Johnson

              My wife’s grandpa told me a story about when he was in Italy during WW2. This Italian family wanted to show appreciation so they invited him and a few others over for food. They had a casserole with meat in it (very rare at this time of the war). He thanked them and went his merry way, on the way out he noticed a dog’s pelt in their shed.

              • Boothe

                I was TDY on Guam and one of my fellow airmen found a “boonie dog” pup. He brought it back to the barracks and hid it under his bunk in a box. The first Sargeant found it and threw a fit.

                Our Guamanian cleaning lady was out in the hallway and spoke right up, “I take-a dog!” So Billy gave it to her. A few days later he saw her again and asked her how the dog was. She “Oh, dog was good!”

                • Jim Johnson

                  I suppose if you are hungry enough.

                  • Boothe

                    Over there it’s just part of their culture. Meat is expensive, so you get it the best way you can.

                • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                  I think PETA should piss off to the third world- good luck with that

                  • Boothe

                    Yeah, they might just find themselves on the menu.

            • bem

              Turns out that is THE worst question to ask when you’re looking to foster a child….

            • Boothe

              It’s all about the comraderie. And becoming one with nature…like ticks, mosquitoes and deer flies.

    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

      elk kabobs, elk creole, gumbo elk, pan fried elk, pineapple elk…elk on a stick

    • Jim Johnson

      I love hunting, although a big commitment.

      • says a guy with 6 kids…..shesh

        • cheeseburgercheeseburger

          he can use the weakest one as bait. smart.

          • not dumb like people say?

            • cheeseburgercheeseburger

              if only Fredo didnt mention he met Johnnie Ola before, Mikey woulda been none the wiser

              • Sicilian messenger boy

              • dckhead_con_artist

                he stood up for Moe Greene…bug mistake, no slapping Fredo around as long as a Corleone is alive

                • But he was banging cocktail waitresses two at a time. players couldn’t get a drink at the table.

                  • dckhead_con_artist

                    I got a business to run. I gotta kick asses sometimes to make it run right.

                  • bem

                    give that man a PROMOTION!

                • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                  Moe was supposed to be Bugsy Siegel, right?

                  • dckhead_con_artist

                    (((Yes)))

                  • Yup and Hyman Roth was Meyer Lansky. Meyer actually commented that he thought the portrayal was great, but he would have liked it to be a little more sympathetic.

                    • bem

                      whenever anyone mentions, or even if I overhear mention of a Roth IRA I shout:
                      MI FAMIGLIA NON MANGIANO CON HYMAN ROTH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

                    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                      last years ROI for bem: -8.9%. I wonder why

                    • bem

                      totally worth it……

                    • I said it in the Frankie Pantagelli voice.

                      Side note about Frankie, one of my favorite parts of the movie is when it opens up on this lavish party and he is drinking out of the garden hose. That is something that you either totally identified with or will never understand.

                    • bem

                      YES!!!!!

                    • Lou Skunt

                      …”Hey, what’s with the food around heaa??? A kid comes up to me in a white jacket, gives me a Ritz cracker and chopped liver, he says: ‘Canapes’… I said: Canapes my ass, that’s a Ritz cracker and chopped liver!”

                    • He’s got me waitin’ in the lobby!

                    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                      yea, knew that. that “this drug business” speech also was based on something that actually went down. Wise guys from multiple states met on a farm in upstate NY in the late 50s. some cop randomly drove by, saw a bunch of high end Caddies parked outside. Wiseguys got spooked, and started running out into the woods. Cop had no idea what was going on. A few were captured. Hoover finally had to admit the mafia existed

                    • bem

                      Apalachin!

                    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                      was that the name of the farm?

                    • bem

                      the town I thinks.

                    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                      all Puzzo did was change names and dates for that book…

                    • bem

                      and add a pointless sub-plot about a dude with a footlong schvanz

                    • I honestly skipped those parts.

                    • Ahhh you read the book. There are so many chapters detailing Sonny’s enormous dick and, subsequently, Luci Mancini’s cavernous vagina that you would think that the Mafia story was a sub plot

                    • bem

                      hahahahha. Yes I forgot Sonny’s was the dik in question. If he’d have written that now, that whole part would be a miniseries on AMC!

                    • That would be, I believe, in Wappengers Falls. The reason I know that is not very pleasant.

                    • bem
                  • bem

                    Yes.

              • bem

                Nah, he’d a doped it out.

            • bem

              ‘smart’, not ‘smoht’

              • My inner monologue is in Brooklynesse. I read ‘smart’ as ‘smoht’

                I am a blast to take to parties out in farm country once you get enough booze in me to stop pretending I am a civilized human being.

                • bem

                  My threshold is about 2 drinks, one argument, or one interaction with anyone from the same region, and boom – I go full DiceMan.

                  • Pronouncing “fucking” with 3 h’s

                    Fhuhkihn ashhhhhollee

                    • bem

                      I’ve taken efforts to eliminate any trace. Not out of snobbery, but simply to avoid the whole:
                      “are you from NY?”
                      “yes, but no not really” conversation.

                    • Boothe

                      I worked with a retired Navy chief from Brooklyn. So help me, if we had removed “fuck” from the English language, he would not have been able to compose a complete sentence.

                    • bem

                      kinda like handcuffing an eye-talian to silence him.

                    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                      behind the back of course- in front does not diminish their powers

                  • UnreconstructedConfederate
                    • bem

                      when I was a kid they’d say:
                      “how do you get bem to curse?”
                      “talk to him”

                    • UnreconstructedConfederate

                      There used to be an old mechanic around here that could hardly get out a sentence without,”damn fukin muddafukas” included. Ex- I can’t get those damn fukin muddafukin bolts out!”.

                • Murdoc34

                  That sounds like it could be costly. How much booze just to get you in the car in the first place?

          • Jim Johnson

            Couldn’t, baiting mountain lions is illegal.

            • cheeseburgercheeseburger

              dude how couldja upvote that comment? when you run for gov in 10 yrs, someone is gonna dig up this comment

            • Boothe

              I have to respect a man that not only believes in survival of the fittest, but practices it at home too! Kudos! No weak members of the Johnson brood!

              • bem

                6 kids….used to have 8…..

                • They do say figure in 25% waste when building something……..

          • dckhead_con_artist

            that’s so PUA

        • Jim Johnson

          Yeah, I haven’t been able to get out for any big game since #3. Maybe now that some are old enough to take the hunter safety course, it would pay to drag out my rifle and get back into it.

          • bem

            You are the living antithesis to “I have no time for that”….

            • dckhead_con_artist

              using dread game on animals

              • Like when bill collectors call:
                pfft…12 calls today? why you so needy?

                • dckhead_con_artist

                  you keep calling me and I won’t pay the minimum payment baby..!!

              • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                JHC, i have no idea why i find this so funny

                • dckhead_con_artist

                  you know it is !! haha

                  • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                    “Is that a Labra-doodle? I would love to skin your dog alive.”
                    “That so hawt, heres my number, call me maybe”

                    • take a look at the origins and original lyrics of the song Maniac!by Michael Sembello from the Album Bassa Nova Hotel. I am not saying that before being picked up by and edited for the movie flashdance that the lyrics contained the line
                      He’s a maniac, maniac that’s for sure
                      He will kill your cat and nail him to the door’

                      But yeah, they totally did.

                    • dckhead_con_artist

                      Or your dog would look tasty on my grill .. you better go out with me and take my mind off dinner

                    • dckhead_con_artist

                      Or pretend to whack her poodle with a broomstick but never carry thru with the threat

            • Jim Johnson

              I’m about tapped out now with wife, six kids, full time job, church responsibilities, and exercise routine. I have gotten rid of TV and most other less important pursuits. Such is life.

              • bem

                yeah – I think I’d cut you some slack if you didn’t want to come over and watch the game….

        • dckhead_con_artist

          If you’ve been a big time gamer trained in the ROK ways, you too have at least 6 kids!

          • Jim Johnson

            Little bastards raised by single mothers on the welfare system doesn’t count.

            • dckhead_con_artist

              it does for my notch count and my non-existent harem

      • Gundog

        So is staying is getting in shape, learning to cook, etc. And not that big of one either. I spend a lot of time in my basement playing with plastic spacemen and still manage to fill my freezer.

        • “I spend a lot of time in my basement playing with plastic spacemen and still manage to fill my freezer.”

          This might be one of my favorite sentences in the whole intertubes

          • bem

            Sounds like Gary Heidnik’s confession……

            • wow, going deep in the ole reference vault. Nice.

        • dckhead_con_artist

          which basement? I’m in my moms watching 1980s VHS porn..or is it beta ??!!?!

  • Boothe

    I find that silence is often the best approach when dealing with an emotional woman, especially if you are being heavily shit tested. (I.E. She is attempting to evoke an emotional response from you). There is a time and place to stand up to her and put her in her place. But I often find it to be much more effective to put on a stone face and let her rant (especially if it is about family, friends, neighbors or anything trivial).

    When challenged with “You aren’t saying anything!” or “Don’t you have anything to say?” I respond calmly with “That’s correct.” or “No. I do not.” This prevents the situation from escalating. I have…ahem…learned this the hard way over the years.

    This goes back to a previous thread where we discussed being the rock for your family. In this case the flood gates are open and you are being hit by an emotional torrent. Hold your ground like a boulder and simply let the raging waters rush over and around you until it abates.

    This is of a piece with not picking a fight, only in this case you are not letting her pick the fight. We all know we have the right to remain silent. The trick is developing the wisdom and ability to do so.

    • Drop a “When you’re saying something worth discussing, I will” when they ask why you’re not responding.

      • OceanSon

        That doesn’t backfire on you? I found this only invokes the next level of petty revenge-mindedness out of women. Women aren’t good at framing logic around most kinds of discussion, and are talented at passive aggressiveness. Women have selective memories and never forget being snubbed when they’re all full of emotion and irrationality, and will find a way to get back at you for ignoring them. These are the ones we dump!

        • She might pout for a bit but then she’s always willing later so I think I’m passing. And the tests are almost non-existent now

  • Joseph Curwen

    There is an excellent book which I recommend everybody here: Baltasar Gracian’s “El Arte de la Prudencia”, usually translated into english as “The Art of Worldly Wisdom”. It is pure gold, every single line:

    https://archive.org/details/artworldlywisdo01jacogoog

    • Mick Dundee

      Honestly I’d’ve thought that every man here has read that one.

      Essentially how to be a successful man 101.

  • dckhead_con_artist

    Real Love Doll that talks costs $15,000, the one that is silent costs $7000. Shouldn’t it be the other way around ?
    https://www.thesun.co.uk/living/3559664/meet-harmony-the-sex-robot-so-realistic-she-orgasmsand-shell-even-remember-your-birthday/

    • Jim Johnson

      I am amazed how many are looking at this as a viable option. Isn’t shame a thing anymore?

      • Murdoc34

        And if the shame doesn’t get you,

        genitalia can be detached and washed in the dishwasher!

        should be at least enough reason to make you pause and reassess things.

        • I wonder if it has a “lactating” setting where sweet milk comes out the nipple? Would remind me of my life right now

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            I wouldnt mind a bot with Kahlua coming out of its nips. but thats just me

      • cheeseburgercheeseburger

        I think desperation cancels out shame

    • bem

      ha!!

    • L’UltimoConservatore

      Yeah you’d think the one that doesn’t constantly gripe and get snippy is the expensive model. 😀