Cultivating Courage

I like to define courage as doing what you have to do when things are going crazy.  In an age when whining and complaining about the things you have to do are all the rage, having the balls to step up to the plate when you may be unsure is a notable thing.  Today we’ll discuss what courage is, how you can apply it differently, and how to keep yourself always prepared to rise to the occasion.

I started thinking about this over the weekend.  I’m at the position to buy my real family home and I have no idea what the hell I’m doing.  I realized that I had to push myself into the zone of uncomfortably and get my head into a process that I haven’t done before.  Lots of questions, screw ups, and time but I got things figured out.  Jumping into something worthwhile that is new to you can be a little intimidating.  Staying true to the goal while killing fear is where you want to be.  I believe, this is where you thrive as a man.  You have to push yourself past the level of comfort, but not so extreme that you panic or get in over your head.

My level of courage here is nothing compared to people like military or police.  They put their lives on the line and I wont take that away from them.  That said, being courageous is something all men need to start practicing.

The Plan

You probably see where this is going, but I’ll spell it out.  If you want to get better at things, you have to start doing them.  If you sit around waiting for someone to give you the kick in the ass you need, you won’t make it anywhere.

The only true way to get past the fear, and show true courage is to face it head on.  You have to want to face something that scares you.  Forcing yourself just over the edge o communicability is the key here.  We don’t want it to be so difficult that you’re in over your head, but not so easy that it isn’t challenging.

For example,  if you’ve never stood up for yourself in your life, being confident and sure of yourself isn’t just going to happen one day when you wake up.  You have to get the hell up out of bed and tell yourself that you’re not going to put up with any shit.   When said shit arrives, you have to kill any urges to continue on being a bitch and stand up for yourself. I’m sure after a while, standing up for yourself would be something you’d just naturally do.

Conclusion

Today’s post was quick because I believe that I’ve said all I can on this topic.  I believe that getting out of your comfort zone and pushing yourself into unknown waters is good for your overall development.  As men we are expected to be courageous and take things on that others cannot.  The next time you’re up against something you’re unfamiliar with, jump in and try to figure it out.  Note, that wasting too much time on something you’re incapable of doing isn’t good either.  You’ll know when you can complete the task, and when you are in over your head.   Just taking the initiative to do something is half the battle.

 

-J. Nyx

Author: Jnyx

J. Nyx is a father of three and co-owner of akingscastle.com. He understands that there is something missing in the community and that you can be a traditional, masculine man in our current age as well as a dedicated leader of your family.

  • Lou Skunt

    “I started thinking about this over the weekend. I’m at the position to buy my real family home and I have no idea what the hell I’m doing.” – Jynx, do I understand this statement correctly? Are you in the process of purchasing a home? If you have questions or need some guidance, let me know… I spent over a decade in the mortgage business and I’m happy to share information on debt, credit, creative financing options, whatever, etc…

    • Jim Johnson

      Not to be off topic, but this is a great example. If someone is going through something difficult, more often than not, there are people to help out to offer encouragement and guidance. There is a reason that the Napoleonic tactic of lining a company of soldiers together to march lockstep into a wall of fire existed. Courage is stronger when people are helping each other.

      • Monsieur de Charette

        Just a nice scene to illustrate your point about napoleonic warfare and courage :

    • bem

      And does this imply that your current home is somehow NOT real? I find that to be a much more interesting possibility.

      • I thought he was buying a home for his real family … fuck the fake family

        • bem

          Also intriguing!

  • Honey Badger

    You’ll never know what you’re capable of until you actually do it. I found that out when I started my career at 19. I was very sheltered and introverted growing up and was pretty much thrown into a career I knew nothing about. Having never been away from my family, I was shipped across the country very unexpectedly for a few weeks, then was thrown to the wolves when I came back home.

  • Boothe

    Getting out of your comfort zone is very important. It’s like exercise; sitting around doing nothing will kill you prematurely. We thrive on challenge and adversity. Part of that is facing the unknown. Taking on things we have never done before and pushing through, sometimes with all our might until we overcome builds us up as men. It prepares us for more and bigger challenges.

    Several years ago I was discussing my childhood with my mother and how it had affected me as an adult. I was the first born and although we weren’t starving, we were not affluent at all. My mother pointed out that I had gone through a lot more adversity growing up than my siblings did. She said “That was my fault”.

    I told her not to be sorry about it, because that was what drove me to be successful as a man. She explained that she wasn’t sorry I went through it. She said it was her fault that my siblings *hadn’t* gone through it as well. And I can tell you without a doubt that facing the realities of being cold, eating what you have and being unmercifully picked on will make you develop courage, whether you like it or not.

    But it doesn’t end there. Building courage is a life long process. There will always be new challenges and fears we must overcome if we look for them. I intend to do just that until I am no longer physically able. Then I will face that final unknown of the other side with as much courage as I can muster.

    • John Galt

      I had a similiar childhood. Also why I find my younger siblings lazy as f*ck.

    • bem

      Being the first-born male is a natural entre to a alpha/leadership role. Its yours to lose.

      • Not just yours to lose–it is also yours to sell. I am a first born son and I love me some good stew.

      • jammyjaybird

        Informal poll: Anybody here NOT a firstborn son?

        • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

          Firstborn (and only) son, two younger sisters. Eldest grandchild as well.

        • bem

          I am not. Second of two, no sisters.

        • Inspector Callahan

          I am not.

        • Firstborn. First Grandson on one side, first grandchild on the other

        • Gundog

          I’m not. I’m the second of two boys.

          • bem

            “Heir and a spare”…..

        • Jak

          I am the first and last.
          The alpha and omega…
          ….of my family.

    • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

      Courage is usually seen as an outward response to an external challenge. I’d posit that it’s also something that you need to muster in order to conquer your own inner conflicts and demons. Sometimes the hardest challenge a man can face isn’t the battlefield or taking a leap into the future with a new home or a life and death situation, but rather, turning inward and both sussing out your own demons and then doing what you can to conquer them and expel them from your life. The hardest part of this, for anybody, is recognizing his faults as faults and not as somebody elses problem, owning it and then doing what is necessary to correct these faults and make restitution to those he harmed, both to friends and families, or self, or both.

      • iBooB

        Dude, your profile pic… what did I miss?

    • My brother and I are 17 months apart. My sister came along 9 1/2 years after him. She doesn;t have a clue what hard times are like.

  • bem

    I know this is a re-run, but it says is all, with respect to this article: https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/296fff5159e2fefb98b75a48308e8e06ff6f271e2ee4a7dd53935de21ef2bb13.jpg

    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

      I wonder if the guy who took this pic survived D-Day…musta been hell on earth

      • bem

        He was driving the boat and got the fuk gone after snapping that shot.

        (total speculation/fabrication on my part)

        • cheeseburgercheeseburger

          driving the boat/plane never gets old

          • bem

            I don’t see this issue here.

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            I never seen a job ad for “plane driver” before

          • bem

            Not my fault. check Craigslist.

          • jammyjaybird

            I saw one, it was right under “food maker”

        • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

          A whole mess of those landing craft were sunk or the pilot nailed at some point in entry or retreat (of the landing craft). Not safe to assume survival of anybody when talking about D-Day.

      • Inspector Callahan

        The photographer probably did survive D-Day…the soldiers on picture….most likely didn’t.

    • Inspector Callahan

      Bem, you seem to use/create a lot of memes. Is that your hobby?

      • bem

        hobby? HOBBY!?!??!!? C’est ma raison d’être!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

      • Jak

        No…
        It’s his life.

      • cheeseburgercheeseburger

        collects. 5 terabytes of memes sitting on the company shared drive

        • Inspector Callahan

          Nice…

        • bem

          Hey – I make them too, bub. That D-day one is My Work.

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            your folder reminds me of one of my first gigs, napster just debuted. zillions of mp3 files of the corp network, admin had no idea why the network was running so slowly(letting file up/download all day didnt help either). oh man, you shoulda seen that guy explode when he figured it out…never seen an IT that enraged

          • bem

            hahahah yes I remember the Dawn of Napster….our network was churning along slower than a Vic 20 before the IT guy discover that a solid 1/3 of the machines here were ripping shit off Napster all day long…

          • Inspector Callahan

            Nobody remembers Napster now…except maybe the band Metallica who tried to take t#Napster to court in 2000/2001…

          • Jak

            Yep, if you’re not a millennial or older, your response will be the same as if someone said something about Blockbuster or Hollywood Video.

          • jammyjaybird

            Milennials know punk, they know Guns n Roses (before the reunion), they know a lot of classic bands. I’ve talked with a lot of them about music.

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            napster ruined the music business. I knew some guys in bands who were signed to sub labels of the majors- by 03/04 these guys were gone

          • Inspector Callahan

            Does anyone really feel sorry for the big record producers? Not many people, I guess.

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            all the bands that werent earners or in the wrong genres got axed…punk bands, alternative bands, etc…the labels trimmed all the fat

          • Inspector Callahan

            Well, punk, alternative, extreme metal etc bands mostly produced records independently anyway. Very few of them made it with larger record producer.
            Radios and advertisers are going to play Rihanna, Drake, Nicky Minaj etc not RHCP, NOFX, Cannibal Corpse or Marduk…

          • bem

            The fact that you started with : “Well, punk…..” is classic Callahan. Well done.

          • Inspector Callahan

            Thanks

          • dckhead_con_artist
          • Inspector Callahan

            Inspector Callahan getting out of his comfort zone.

          • bem

            the WORLD is his comfort zone.

          • Marius Aetius Lucullus

            except when he is forced to take a ride with Briggs to the shipyards where the Magnum Force are gonna get him!

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            they can bring clint back one last time, just put him a metal exoskeleton

          • dckhead_con_artist

            I need to find a cobalt blue .44 at the next gun show here in Dallas.

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            see if they have an .88 magnum…they shoot thru trees…and schools..and more trees

          • dckhead_con_artist

            I have a retired friend who purchased a S&W stainless 50 caliber revolver. I asked him what is the purpose of that weapon. He responded: “absolutely none whatsoever”

          • John Galt

            I saw a few desert eagles .50 fired at the range over the years. Maybe it was the owners, but accuracy was an issue.

          • bem

            “Fifty cal – not just for anti-aircraft anymore!”

          • John Galt

            From the shot groupings, a M2 would have been an improvement.

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            Plus you don’t hold your wrist entirely rock solid as if it were made of pure steel, and the damned things are prone to jam on you. Which is fine on a range where you can focus, but in real life that seems like it would get really impractical in combat.

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            I gave the same answer to somebody who asked me why I would want such a gun. “No reason whatsoever, it is entirely impractical”

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            I knew a guy who shot through schools once…..once….

          • bem

            Get yourself hung on a hook like that…

          • Fargin bastiche

          • Marius Aetius Lucullus

            is that the German WW2 Anti Aircraft/tank gun that was mounted on the Tiger?

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            Super Blackhawk. Love mine. Great for felling trees, deer, car blocks….helicopters….it’s really versatile.

          • dckhead_con_artist

            you’re one of the Wolverines from Red Dawn!!

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            I wish. For whatever reason, when that movie came out, I was thinking “Man, that would be so fucking cool to be the resistance that defeats the Russians and kicks their tails back to Russia!”. You don’t really think things through fully when you’re 18.

          • bem

            Of course we loved it! School got shot up and the kids got to go camping FOREVER. With guns!!!!!!

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            camping forever w/o pans of lasagna made by mom? souds horrible.
            that remake originally had the chinese invading, had to switch em to NK…good thing they look alike

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            Plus it gave us a great go-to line when we wanted to get out of the company of people who were boring us: *point behind the person* “Russian paratroopers!”

          • Marius Aetius Lucullus

            helicopters! … jeez! come on GOJ, sounds like a story in there … do tell.

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            I know it’s always been fashionable to rip on them, but those big corporate producers used to go out looking for actual talent to sign on, instead of finding simply a pretty face whose voice could be electro-modulated. It’s because of those big record producers that we have all of the rock music from the 1950’s through the late 1990’s. Every big name, totally awesome talented band, almost always with ugly singers who had talent on their side, from those “greedy big corporate” producers. Sure they were sketchy personalities, but the profit motive drove them out to seek real talent. The real talent left the field when they figured out that nobody was paying for music much anymore, outside of boring corporate bubblegum who throw concerts for girls.

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            yea, the BF of a girl I worked with was and AR guy- dude totally loved his life(I wonder if that job even exists anymore)…getting paid to check out bands(plus expense account) and possibly discovering the “nexy big thing” sounds like a cool gig

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            That ranks up there with Playboy Photographer on a young man’s fantasy job back in 1979.

          • jammyjaybird

            I knew a guy who was VP at ESP, the guitar brand favored by metal players. Guy had connections all through the music industry and got more ass than a proctologist — and he was ugly as sin. He required his girlfriend to give him daily blow jobs, like “It’s six pm, you know what that means.”

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            current or former? do these jobs exist anymore?

          • jammyjaybird

            dunno, I lost touch with him. he had the best music business stories. we used to talk about prince a lot.

          • Max Tweeter

            ESP picked up a lot of artist endorsements after having dumped (company that rhymes with Flibson) over the last several years. There are lots of YouTube videos about that.

          • Marius Aetius Lucullus

            well in fairness to the big G, ESP was always a Metal guitar & aimed its product at young shredders while the big G rested on its laurels as tone of the “rock gods of the late 60s – 1970s”

          • B1k3_Ch41N

            You have to admit that targeting the teenage girl demographic was a genious move. Most guilable audience ever bar youngens.

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            any pretense of artistry went out the window at that point

          • B1k3_Ch41N

            Ugh Spice Girls were the worst. The history of the pop music can be slit into 2: pre and post Spice Girls

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            the music biz has become so calculating they have focus groups to test out themes to see if they will sell; they even test out keywords…

          • B1k3_Ch41N

            Yep, music is too much of a product nowadays and less art.

          • Vault Boy

            Seriously. Who cares? I watch music to be entertained, and there are few things more entertaining than hot women shaking their asses. If I want to listen to good music, I’ll listen to Classical or Heavy Metal.

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            classical heavy metal? u dig sebastian bach?

          • Vault Boy

            Hey, never heard of him. Thanks!

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            FU for making me feel old. joke went right over the kid’s head

          • TSO is pretty close….

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            Sebastian Bach-and-Roll!

          • Marius Aetius Lucullus

            Yngwie Johan Malmsteen

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            Oh, no question. But I think it was a fallback due to actual artists throwing up their hands and walking away. While there’s always been a bit of target for women, young males pumped some *serious* cash into music growing up, that now no longer do. I mean we were obsessed, to the point of painting band murals on the sides of vans, installing $3000 of speakers into a $200 car, etc. Girls will go to concerts and buy pretty posters, but I’d wager they spent nowhere near what young men used to on music.

          • B1k3_Ch41N

            Bloody he’ll that is a lot of work and money spent just to impress women. I would argue that the 70s-80s were big on idolising but there was also people showing off within their peer groups/subcultures as thingg were more social.
            At least that’s the impression I get off people who grew up in that era.

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            Guys weren’t doing it to impress women, that I’m aware of. When you had a professional airbrush artist slap the Caress Of Steel album cover art on the side of your van, that was nearly a spergy type of thing that had little if anything to do with women.

          • bem

            Painted vans were a Big Deal. Transcended anything as trite as “impressing women”…..

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            Hell if anything, they were kind of a thing a woman had to “get over” if she wanted to be with the guy who owned the van. I think the current pedalisation today is taken as he de facto way it’s always been, which is not even close to the reality we grew up in.

          • bem

            I just love the message a tricked out van sends…..showing up to pick up your date in a de-facto rolling sex suite. Fathers everywhere saw them as Harbingers of Doom….

          • B1k3_Ch41N

            Little Suzie getting fingered in the back of a Rush can. Oh Lord…..she could be someone’s mother now

          • bem

            Grandmother…..
            When I was a kid this dikhead (not OUR dckhead here) across the street had an old-ass van airbrushed with Rocky Horror Picture Show characters and imagery. Even at 7 yrs old I thought ‘what a faeg….’.

          • Everyone’s sweet nana was someone’s filthy cum dumpster at one point. The sooner this is accepted the better.

          • B1k3_Ch41N

            I agree with your hombre!

          • Boothe

            No, not always. I had a 1962 Ford Econoline van when I was 17. My girlfriend’s father helped me panel it, carpet it and even build a bed in the back! I guess he figured we were gonna do the monkey dance no matter what, so she might as well be comfortable, lol.

          • John Galt

            He liked you. He also knew it wouldn’t last. LOL

          • Boothe

            Truth be known that was my first wife. But you’re right, it only lasted ten years. But I still have some fond memories from the back of that old beater van.

          • Inspector Callahan

            For a Puerto Rican…you surely use a hella lot of British vernacular “Bloody hell” and “mate”…

          • B1k3_Ch41N

            I’m from London. Lol that PR thing must have been a joke i just can’t remember it.

          • Boothe

            Some of that auto sound system competition was pure primal chest pounding. It was to impress (certain types of) girls, sure. But when it came down to multiple alternators and batteries, amps measured in kilowatts and sound pressure so high your ear drums distorted, that was purely for dik measuring purposes.

            I had acquaintances who knew that I was an electronics tech and sought out my help on these competition systems. You had to use instrumentation to determine the “winner” while wearing ear plugs. The only girls that would impress were ones who wanted to see who could go deaf the fastest.

            I put together systems for pennies on the dollar in my vehicles when these (now deaf) bone heads were hard up for beer and gas money. You can save a lot of money banking on stupidity.

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            I recall being nearly struck deaf by looped renditions of Fly By Night in my buddy’s brother’s car, after hearing about all the upgrades/speakers he’d put in first of course.

          • Jak

            Never could stand the assholes who rolled down the street with the bass and volume set to max so their whole car sounded like it was about to rattle apart. They always struck me as imbeciles.

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            Different era. Giant ass bass boxes didn’t exist (or at least, not that I ever heard) back in the early 1980’s. I didn’t start seeing the monster woofers until the early-mid 1990’s.

          • Marius Aetius Lucullus

            the 6×9 was king then, wasn’t it?

          • Max Tweeter

            Was it the bass, or Geddy Lee’s vocals?

            Joking…Rush fan, too☺

          • Jak

            Nope. I care for them the same as I care for Hollywood.
            And by that I mean I wouldn’t piss on them if they were on fire.

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            Yep, if anybody was around then using Napster, that today is bitching about music all being corporate dreck written by machines and sung by trained monkies chosen for physical beauty instead of talent, they have nowhere else to look but the mirror. You take away the financial incentive to produce by instituting a Commie Rip Off The Artists It’s Community Property model, well, you get what you get.

          • bem

            “Commie Rip Off The Artists It’s Community Property”
            Excellent description of napster and most so-called “sharing” initiatives.

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            how else was I supposed to get public enemy and wu tang clan singles? I sure as hell wasnt gonna buy their entire albums haha

          • bem

            Lean into the speaker with a tape recorder while trying to get your friends to shut up…..

          • UnreconstructedConfederate

            I used to hate when the DJ kept talking into the song.

          • That was absolutely intentional so your bootleg recordings would extra suck

          • Inspector Callahan

            There was an affordable solution back in the 90’s if you were a classical music but didn’t have enough money. There was a more affordable version of several classics by an independent label. For instance, The Fifth Symphony from Beethoven…except instead of the Berlin Philharmonic it was played by the Slovenian/Georgian/Estonian etc national orchestra and instead of von Karajan it was conducted by a lesser known conductor. Without them many of us would have been able to access and enjoy classical music.

          • Meh: music industry seems to get pissy when told that the world and technology has changed and they have to be a little creative in how to make money on their product. I get it. The record shops are gone and everything is online. It is no longer 1985. If these fossils had any creative juice in them they would minutize differently instead of trying to use a business model that has been totally irrelevant since the late 1990’s and crying a river that it isn’t working any more. Fuck, they whole music industry can go have a pity party with typewriter repair men, librarians and hair spray companies.

          • Jak

            It seems that the way most of the women are adapting is by turning themselves into prostitutes that can also sing….sort of.

          • bem

            not new

          • Jak

            But WAY more prevalent nowadays and even more degenerate. Decades ago, it was the exception. Now it’s the norm.

          • bem

            The MTV revolution certainly took it up a notch.

          • they did kill the radio star

          • UnreconstructedConfederate

            Fuckers!

          • UnreconstructedConfederate

            MTV was great until those lawsuits to make them more
            “inclusive”. Ever since it’s been like a big turd rolling down a hill of turds, it just keeps getting bigger.

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            Lawsuits to make them more inclusive??

          • UnreconstructedConfederate

            Yes, don’t really remember the details now but, there was talk of black artists suing MTV because they didn’t play many black artists videos. Then the record companies jumped on board saying ” play this or else!”. Then ” Yo! MTV Raps started and later it all went to hell.
            It started as a channel that played ROCK music videos, it was great too.

          • UnreconstructedConfederate

            They were talking sex in the old days but, at least you had to THINK about it to understand/ figure out. Now they just draw a picture for listeners.

          • Nature of the medium which people interact with the world now. Can’t blame one thing. Just a differen world now. Every generation has its dinosaurs who are scared of the modern world and complain everything was better when they were young. It wasn’t. Ask the people who were old then. They would say it sucked and was better when they were young.

            People don’t like change.

          • UnreconstructedConfederate

            You calling me a dinosaur? Vinny Pringo knows where you live….

          • Me thinks you just see it more than before because of the technology. It’s been there, just wasn’t being broadcast and discussed constantly online

          • Nothing new under the sun and there is a lot of good music out there. Pop has turned to shit because record companies refuse to adapt but there is a lot of good stuff from smaller labels or even being put out independently.

            they are selling sex. Sure. But that’s not new. Shame there isn’t more creativity trying to figure out ways that the new technology can help them rather than sink them.

            Some people would rather cry about heir problems than fix them

          • Marius Aetius Lucullus

            the prostitutes dont need to know how to sing either , prostitute + Auto Tune = instant Aretha Franklin talent.

          • UnreconstructedConfederate

            I agree with that, things changed and instead of record companies moving fast enough to keep up and spending a little coin on research to figure it out, they pissed away their money on lobbyists and trying to pass legislation to keep the status quo resulting in them being SOL.

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            Disagree. The current trend in music in catering almost exclusively to women/girls via corporate created “stars” seems to me like they did their research.

          • UnreconstructedConfederate

            The current trend developed only after the earlier changes in technology. Now that music sells cheap they just get it out as cheaply as possible. Hire a few session players for peanuts who are begging for job to play for the recording and the the tour and can be easily replaced.
            If you have a real band they all want a cut along with having to keep an eye on all the different members to make sure they don’t post something on social media or say something in an interview that could ruin them forever in the Age Of Offense. The members aren’t easily replaced etc where if a sessions player does/says something stupid he can be replaced at a moments notice.
            That being said though, I think there is still a huge market for good ole guitar rock that’s not being served. There’s millions of kids out there listening to the same stuff you and I did back in the day, where in the old days we hardly listened to the music of prior generations.

          • Nothing beats ye ole guitar rock. Especially live

          • bem

            FREEEEEEE BIIIIIIIIRRRRRRDDDDDDDDD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            Say that with respect! heh

            One of my bucket list things was seeing what remains of Lynyrd Skynyrd perform Freebird before the every last original member died. Achieved that goal in 2015 at Sturgis. Was *not* disappointed, even though half the band was born after LS went away in the 1980’s.

          • bem

            Excellent.

          • Yup. And the crazy thing is that these are supposed to be the creative ones…

            I don’t know the solution but if I had a few billion dollars and access to some of the most creative people in the world I bet I’d have a fair shot at coming up with something

          • UnreconstructedConfederate

            If I had a few billion dollars I would be busy spending it on liquor and whores.

          • bem

            Yeah I’m pretty sure I’d still fuk it up, but man it would be a RIP!

          • UnreconstructedConfederate

            They tell me money can’t buy happiness, I wish I had enough to prove them wrong.

          • “I spent most of my money on birds, booze and fast cars….the rest I squandered”

          • UnreconstructedConfederate

            I spent the first million on women and liquor and the other ones just, went away.

          • Max Tweeter

            I had to research the source of that quote. I thought it came from Keith Moon originally, but to my surprise it came from a 1970s sports figure. Who knew??

          • jammyjaybird

            “You take away the financial incentive to produce by instituting a Commie Rip Off The Artists It’s Community Property model”

            Please elaborate. I don’t know what you’re referring to. Do you mean that a standard music contract was communist because artists knowingly signed over the rights to their music once it was complete?

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            No. I mean that Napster said “Hey, here’s music that artists and producers created at their own expense, that we’re giving to you for free to rip off, because fuck property rights”.

          • John Galt

            “You take away the financial incentive to produce by instituting a Commie Rip Off The Artists It’s Community Property model,”

            In Germany these types formed their own poltical party.

            https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pirate_Party_Germany

            A few years ago they had their booth and were passing out literature, so I asked them what did they represent? When he was done, I asked what else do you think you are entitled to have at other peoples expense? I mean, the R&D for the software and IT development costs have to come from somewhere. Who pays for that? Couldn’t answer. LOL

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            To these types, things just appear by magic and everybody is entitled to them, because magic.

            Total idiots, the lot of them.

          • John Galt

            Well most are young student types, so they have a shot at redemption. Not the old hippies though. LOL.

          • bem

            “seize the means of _______.” same old story…..

          • John Galt

            Marx was such a dope. It ceases to be a means of production once seized by incompetent morons.

            I had an old friend from Chile who was around during the Allende years who told me about a neighbor he had who ran a small printing shop with two employees. Allende was encouraging the public to do exactly that when it was clear he wasn’t going to last— seize the means of production.

            Neighbor opens the shop, his two employees show up with guns and “take over the his shop in the name of the people.” He leaves. The “new owners” promptly ran the business into the ground within a week. The machines broke down and went unrepaired, orders unfulfilled, customer cancellations, suppliers didn’t get paid, etc.. in the end the two crooks looted what had value and smashed the rest.

            If you want a current macro version of same, look at Venzuela.

          • bem

            Marx was wise about how things worked, but neanderthal about what to do about it. The biggest fallacy to his and all forms of collectivism is that wealth, innovation, creation, etc are naturally occurring resources, available to all.
            And that is the though-pattern behind Napster – that somehow a man’s creative output magically becomes public property.

          • Jak

            I still posit that the biggest flaw in their method of thinking is that they refuse to acknowledge basic human behavior.

          • bem

            Though you embrace his facial-hair positions.

          • Jak

            Actually, I’m currently clean-shaven.

          • bem

            why you gotta break balls?

          • John Galt

            Marx is the actual leftist archetype. An unaccomplished layabout who never worked and lived off others.

          • Boothe

            I thought he worked pretty hard at fathering illegitimate offspring, drinking, abandoning his family and spreading venereal disease. A man has to persue his talents…

          • B1k3_Ch41N

            Don’t forget that he was from a well off family and one of his uncles founded the Phillips corporation in Eindhoven, Netherlands. Even offered the dude a job!

          • bem

            Funny how the elite always so often feel called to tell the rest of us whats good for us.

          • Boothe

            But don’t you realize human nature can be changed if you take the children young enough and, teach them gay rights, social justice and the evil inferiority of the white European patriarchal male? If they can all be convert into transgendered, socialistic environmentalists we will realize paradise on earth! What a glorious day that will be! You know, no running water or electricity, open sewers, labor camps, famine, disease…glorious.

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            That’s true for 80% of people, but there always seems to be this 20% or so who are immune to that kind of conditioning. For example, the <25 Millenial Males who are listening to rock and roll now and starting to head out to shoot guns and work on cars out of some kind of organic feeling that "what they taught isn't right".

          • John Galt

            1. Revolution
            2. ?
            3. Heaven on earth!
            You can sum up all of socialist doctrine into simply “gimmedat.”

          • bem

            Welcome to 20th Century Motors!

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            Oooooh, nice.

          • John Galt

            Ha. Propehtic. The GM bailout only costed taxpayers $9 billion. What a bargain comrades.

          • bem

            I thought they eventually paid it back kinda/sorta

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            There was some trickery afoot with that. They made a big deal of making it seem like that in the press though, if I recall correctly.

          • bem

            Thats what I thought. Fiscal shell games…

          • John Galt

            Nope. When the US govt sold the last of their GM shares it was for a total net loss of $9 billion.

          • bem

            That much?
            suks……

          • John Galt

            If GM would have filed chapter 11, they could have reoragnized and stopped circling the drain. Instead the were give other peoples money and all those valuable UAW employees did not suffer a thing.

          • “It’s not whether your Internet start up succeeds or fails its about how much copper you can get out of the walls before you are evicted”

          • John Galt

            That is gold.

          • Simpsons! Always on point

          • “Seize the memes of production…and put them in a folder”

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            Bo Dietl would neva do dat! vot Dietl tuh-day

          • Loved napster. I’m fairly sure that if it kept running my queue still wouldn’t be empty

          • jammyjaybird

            funny

          • bem

            So you’re a computer driver?

          • Ha!!!!

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            I drive it hard

          • Now if you were really good you could replace the soldiers with girls in slutty costumes and replace the shore of Normandy with a bar that say she happy Halloween and title it “get some D Day”

          • bem

            Different medium. I’m more like a DJ where what you propose is actual composition.

    • Monsieur de Charette

      Again ?! Quick let’s hide the Nazi stick flags and get some US. stick flags to wave when they arrive !

      • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

        I thought that the French decided at some point to just stick to one white flag to avoid confusion as various nations traipsed across their nation?

        heh

        • They;ve recently added a waxing moon to their flag

        • Monsieur de Charette

          Why do I suddenly feel like sticking a white flag into a french bashing scotsman’s throat.

    • dckhead_con_artist
    • B1k3_Ch41N
  • Inspector Callahan

    Just a few words of caution: getting out of your comfort zone may be better to get done in small steps. The only person really knowing your limits is yourself. There is no solid generic advice on how to do it.
    For someone who already has kids and has been red-pilled for a long time than someone who has recently red-pilled and is a natural introvert.
    Take one step at the time.

    • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

      That’s pretty decent advice. I couldn’t do it, but most probably can. I’m all or nothing. I’m either leaping with the angels, or I’m sticking solid on my current patch of ground. For some reason moderation and incrementalism have never worked for me personality wise. I’ve tried it a now and then with certain things, but end up just staying where I was before I tried.

      • dckhead_con_artist

        sometimes you just have to hit the nuke button and say fuck it then worry about the shockwaves at a later time.

        • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

          That’s really the only way I *can* do things, truth be told. I don’t think I ever achieved a personal goal through incrementalism.

          • dckhead_con_artist

            same here, like indirect game. It makes me feel like a tool at the bars. I’d rather go in balls deep and get them cutoff.

    • bem

      Its interesting that you mention comfort as something that must be overcome; as something almost antithetical to courage. I said it before (probably though a picture…) that during the course of the day you make hundreds of decisions. Courage is found in consistently doing what needs to be done, regardless of potential loss of comfort and convenience. Even in the
      most mundane of lives, I’m sure one can find instances of backing down from ‘making waves’ or ‘becoming exposed’. Minimizing and ultimately eliminating these cases would be a case of the One Step at a Time you suggest.

      • Inspector Callahan

        That’s not the point. If you have just recovered from a major illness..
        First you go for short walk and then maybe for a run around the block. You are not going to go right away to run a marathon.

        • bem

          doesn’t mean I’m wrong….

    • UWOTM8

      I am exactly the second type and oh boy can I not just hurl myself out there….

    • Max Tweeter

      “The only person really knowing your limits is yourself.”

      So, in essence, what you’re saying is: “A man’s got to know his limitations”. Right?
      https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=_VrFV5r8cs0

    • iBooB

      Sometimes you won’t know your limits until you cross them.

      Case in point, I installed a toilet for the first time in my life. The instructions kept emphasizing “Do not over tighten. Hand tighten plus, 1/4 turn. Etc.” So I ended up overtightening the base screws resulting in a loud ‘crack’ and undertightening the tanks screws resulting in a sudden leak. If I have to ever install another toilet I will know it’s limits and do it flawlessly.

      I say know the edge and learn to balance on it as you seek to develop and progress to higher peaks.

  • jammyjaybird

    Courage comes in many flavors:

    Physical
    Intellectual
    Entrepreneurial
    Emotional

    I admire all of them.

  • dckhead_con_artist

    I am going to be race flexible starting today…

    • Inspector Callahan
    • bem

      He was great….RIP.

      • Jim Johnson

        I was thinking of Steve Martin being born of a poor black child

        .http://d12vb6dvkz909q.cloudfront.net/uploads/galleries/27116/the-jerk-3.jpg

      • UnreconstructedConfederate

        I drove all the way from Tupelo Mississippi to Chicago Illinois on a Massey Ferguson tractor, on one tank o gas!

        • Mick Dundee

          One tank a gas!

          Did you hear his bit about the raid on the craphouse with the black and white cop?

          • UnreconstructedConfederate

            Can’t remember it’s been so long so listened to it. I used to laugh at ” Mudbone” until my head hurt though.

  • NemesisEnforcer

    Some are born with more courage than others, but never forget that courage can be learned and developed through practice and effort. Also, as with everything else in life, courage has a dangerous flip side – recklessness. Blindly ignoring fear IS NOT courage, it is foolish. Don’t overdo it. Focus on goals and apply the courage you have wisely to reach them.

    • John Galt

      Know yourself. Know your teams capabilities (weaknesses/ strengths) and pick your battles wisely.

  • Murdoc34

    I’m in the middle of taking some bold initiative this morning. Have a meeting at 9am, showed up at 8. Damn sloppy handwriting.

    • Vault Boy

      Nothing bolder than showing up to work early. I admire your courage.

      • Murdoc34

        It’s a fine line between courage and stupid.

      • UnreconstructedConfederate

        Showing up early is bold? I thought showing up high was.

  • cheeseburgercheeseburger

    OT, but its “pretend youre elected someone who represents you” day- whats going on around your way? guy running for gov in NJ is ex- banker who is running on a “raise taxes on everything/let’s make NJ a sanctuary state like CA” platform aaaaaaannnnd it looks like he will still win

    • John Galt

      I wish I owned a U haul company in NJ right now.

    • bem

      We have an Anti-cop, Soros-backed DA candidate….

      • cheeseburgercheeseburger

        anti-cop DA? yeah, thats gonna work out well

        • bem

          fuk, he won…..

    • UnreconstructedConfederate

      Get Vinny Pringo to break anyone’s legs who votes for him.

      • Vinny Pringo would run for office, but vinny pringo don’t run fuh nuthin’ ya got that chief?

    • Iattacku

      I never planned on living nor visiting New Jersey anyway this just gives me more incentive

      • bem

        I don’t think anyone ever consciously plans to – it just kinda happens….perhaps as punishment for not having a plan.

    • bem

      I did the right thing and voted for all the funniest sounding names.

  • Mick Dundee

    Everyone thinks of me as brave for the things I do in a daily basis… Such as starting businesses despite no formal training or immigrating to a wholly different country knowing only a few words of the language, talking to a bitch I don’t know, or physically moving a member of a row of spooks outta my way while walking down the pavement (what I’m gonna walk around six fucking people?) But, to me, these are just things that a man has to do to succeed in life, I can’t imagine the shame of a life stuck in indecision and paralysis.

    I’ve only ever thought of myself as brave when doing the things I didn’t have to do that I knew could hurt or kill me, and funnily enough, those are my fondest memories.

  • UnreconstructedConfederate

    For most people just not whining about everything would be a good start.
    They whine like the smallest thing going wrong is the end of the world. In my younger days when things went wrong I got mad, sometimes REALLY mad. As I’ve gotten older I’ve learned to take that stuff in stride, as an old black guy told me one time, ” sometimes it just be like that, hush up and handle it”.

      • cheeseburgercheeseburger

        Tony Soprano might be the greatest tv character of all time. honorable mention to Pa Ingalls and Admiral Adama

        • bem

          Donald Draper.

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            Honestly, I’d put him at #4…the season where he met the dying wife of the man whose identity he’d assumed was brutal
            edit youve clearly never watched batttlestar galactica and dont remember little house on the prairie

          • bem

            I am well-versed in both little house on the prairie AND the Waltons. I know my shmaltz!

          • Really need to watch that show

          • John Galt

            Would recommend. Until season 4…..

          • I still have to watch breaking bad first.

          • John Galt

            Never watched.

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            Really good show. Walter was not an alpha, but many things he did resembled a “Fuck you, I’m out” attitude, and given his situation, I get it. Plus eventually he becomes a situational alpha, which given his start, is pretty awesome. Other times, he fails pretty hard, but it makes his character human in ways that many others haven’t been on the screen. Skyler, btw, is a total cunt. Just sayin’.

          • bem

            nah – do that after.

        • Tony (and really that whole cast) were all such relatable characters. I always wondered how that show played out in the sticks where first hand experience of these types isn’t a common thing

          • John Galt

            Huge. My father was a big “Soprano” fan.

          • UnreconstructedConfederate

            We have those types, just their accent is different lol

          • The type is everywhere for sure, but there is so much specific regional stuff in that show. I guess the underpinning universality of the archetype is what gives it its mass appeal

          • UnreconstructedConfederate

            Mebbe so, those cats that nobody should fuck with can be found all over although only New Yorkers can say “I’m gonna break your fockin legs” properly.

          • GhostOfJefferson ✓ᴺᵃᵗᶦᵒᶰᵃˡᶦˢᵗ

            Yep yep yep. Accent different, appearance different, clothes different, but code and hierarchy the same more or less. Men organize into things like this. It’s universal, no culture except a few stone age African tribes exempted.

        • UnreconstructedConfederate

          You left out Andy Griffith, you commie.

  • OldFury

    I’d like to see a practical plan somewhere for developing courage. In that spirit I’ll share some of my own techniques.

    -Gradual Desensitization: Pretty basic, simply expose yourself to your fears in gradual increments, pushing a little further each time. The trick is not to overwhelm yourself. Go just over the edge so that it’s exciting – this will motivate you to keep going and makes facing your fears a fun challenge, and something to look forward to.
    -Connect Thought, Word and Action: When I was first learning to stand up for myself I would often find myself in a rage over some injustice, but in the heat of the moment I couldn’t seem to express myself. What I started doing was, that I would go somewhere private with a mirror or camera and just say what I was feeling, and what I wanted to say, finding expression for my emotions. By doing this I quickly learnt how to express my disapproval when somebody was pushing my boundaries. Making that connection between thought and word made the action almost automatic – or at least much easier. It’s about developing a habit.
    -Be The One Who Looks: This is something I got from Jordan Peterson, and I highly recommend his videos. What he explains is that the Eye of Horus is shown at the top of the pyramid because the Eye is at the top of all possible sets of dominance hierarchies. In order to cultivate the ability to rise to the top, to be dominant socially or in the environment, is to turn the eye outward. What self-conscious or cowardly people are doing is they are looking inward and perceiving their own weaknesses and insecurities. But if you look at other people, look at the situation that frightens you, with the same critical eye, you can start to see their weaknesses and insecurities, you can see the truth of them, you can see how to deal with them. Doing this is practically an instant fix for fear, I have found, but it takes some practice to develop it into a habit, otherwise it can be really hard to do in tense situations. This is also called ‘being present to the moment’.

    So those are my three core techniques for developing courage. I’d like to see any other suggestions people have. Here is Jordan Peterson explaining courage in an interesting way: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YpqXNgvfa4k