Cultivating Courage

I like to define courage as doing what you have to do when things are going crazy.  In an age when whining and complaining about the things you have to do are all the rage, having the balls to step up to the plate when you may be unsure is a notable thing.  Today we’ll discuss what courage is, how you can apply it differently, and how to keep yourself always prepared to rise to the occasion.

I started thinking about this over the weekend.  I’m at the position to buy my real family home and I have no idea what the hell I’m doing.  I realized that I had to push myself into the zone of uncomfortably and get my head into a process that I haven’t done before.  Lots of questions, screw ups, and time but I got things figured out.  Jumping into something worthwhile that is new to you can be a little intimidating.  Staying true to the goal while killing fear is where you want to be.  I believe, this is where you thrive as a man.  You have to push yourself past the level of comfort, but not so extreme that you panic or get in over your head.

My level of courage here is nothing compared to people like military or police.  They put their lives on the line and I wont take that away from them.  That said, being courageous is something all men need to start practicing.

The Plan

You probably see where this is going, but I’ll spell it out.  If you want to get better at things, you have to start doing them.  If you sit around waiting for someone to give you the kick in the ass you need, you won’t make it anywhere.

The only true way to get past the fear, and show true courage is to face it head on.  You have to want to face something that scares you.  Forcing yourself just over the edge o communicability is the key here.  We don’t want it to be so difficult that you’re in over your head, but not so easy that it isn’t challenging.

For example,  if you’ve never stood up for yourself in your life, being confident and sure of yourself isn’t just going to happen one day when you wake up.  You have to get the hell up out of bed and tell yourself that you’re not going to put up with any shit.   When said shit arrives, you have to kill any urges to continue on being a bitch and stand up for yourself. I’m sure after a while, standing up for yourself would be something you’d just naturally do.


Today’s post was quick because I believe that I’ve said all I can on this topic.  I believe that getting out of your comfort zone and pushing yourself into unknown waters is good for your overall development.  As men we are expected to be courageous and take things on that others cannot.  The next time you’re up against something you’re unfamiliar with, jump in and try to figure it out.  Note, that wasting too much time on something you’re incapable of doing isn’t good either.  You’ll know when you can complete the task, and when you are in over your head.   Just taking the initiative to do something is half the battle.


-J. Nyx

Author: Jnyx

J. Nyx is a father of three and co-owner of He understands that there is something missing in the community and that you can be a traditional, masculine man in our current age as well as a dedicated leader of your family.