“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.”
To preface this article, the full title is PEAK: The Neuroscientific Way to Self-Improvement, but I thought that might be a bit too much for the headline.
In the Red Pill community, discussions about stoicism, frame control, and controlling your emotions are pretty common place. What’s less common, however, is the discussion on why we have emotions to begin with and methods for controlling them.
Enter Titus Hauer and his latest book, PEAK. In this book, Titus digs deep into the topics of the origins of our emotions, what causes them, why we react the way we do to them, how to become aware of them, and how to control and harness them.
Large portions of this book reads like a scientific study, but don’t let that dissuade you from digging into it. While there’s a lot of technical discussions, Titus keeps the language simple enough for the layman (your’s truly) without dumbing it down to a condescending level.
So why would I recommend this book?
We men are the foundation of our homes. We must be strong in order to support our wife and kids. A man that breaks down to every shift in the wind is like building a house on sand. We must keep our indomitable frame regardless of what our life (or wife) throws at us.
One key to maintaining frame in a relationship is to not let another person’s emotions persuade how you are feeling. If your wife is angry and snaps at you, causing you to get angry as well, guess what, you’ve fallen into her frame. When writing it out, it sounds like such a simple thing to control, but in the heat of the moment, it’s a completely different thing. We’ve all been there and can remember the heat of our anger flush through us. How do you control it? In order to effectively lead your family, you absolutely must control your emotions regardless of what is lobbed your way.
How can we expect to do this if we don’t even understand what emotions are and why we have them?
You are not your thoughts, as long as you don’t act upon them or let them
dictate your behavior they’re just thoughts that are pretty harmless.
Once you are aware of the connections and how they form you are free to
change them as you will.
Titus Hauer not only covers the background of emotions in exquisite detail, he also covers many methods and tactics for recognizing when your emotions are about to spiral out of control and how to regain said control. What makes this better is that all the tactics he prescribes are simple and can be applied anywhere at anytime and in a matter of seconds.
I found myself nodding as I read the methods he prescribed as they made absolute sense on both an intuitive and cognitive level. Now mind you, just because the methods he gives are simple, it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re always easy. Many of these tactics prescribe thinking of the situation and your emotional response from a rational point of view, not something easily achieved when you’re fuming mad or on the verge of an anxiety attack. Our amygdala is in overdrive and we’re dangerously close to fight or flight, but this is exactly what you must do.
You must engage your higher brain functions. As Titus explains in his book, PEAK, engaging your higher brain functions minimizes, or completely shuts off, our baser brain functions, allowing us to regain control over our emotions. Once that’s achieved, we can harness those emotions to enhance our performance or set them aside so they don’t negatively affect an important decision we need to make.
All in all, this was a pretty easy read (84 pages), but very informative. There were some typos and grammatical errors within the book, but nothing that makes it unreadable. Titus is from Germany so I will chalk it up to it not being his primary language. To be frank, it’s a lot better than if I tried to write a book in another language! I would recommend PEAK to every reader here for it’s information on controlling your emotions and using them to propel you forward.