The Abundant Man

“When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.”
― Anthony Robbins

In today’s society, we’re often taught to look out for number one.  Always make sure you’re getting yourself taken care of and screw everyone else.  In a lot of ways, that’s sound advice.

Don’t sell your soul to your company when they won’t hesitate to drop you to increase their profit margin.

Don’t extend yourself out to strangers who will gladly screw you over for a few bucks or a fleeting moment of fame.

The dark world can be harsh and leave us cynical and selfish, but there’s one area that shouldn’t be true; with your family and friends.  A friend that I look up to has reminded me lately that you must be generous to your family and friends, even if you personally have nothing to gain from it.  He practices what he preaches and praises other men for their accomplishments while expecting nothing in return.

Many of you have probably heard of the concept of abundance mentality.  It’s the idea that you give freely and abundantly because there’s always more left over.  This is easy to understand with your family.  Give your wife and kids abundant love.  It’s not like you’re going to run out of it.

Application can be tougher however.  The kids can be bouncing off the walls.  The wife can be in a bad mood.  It’s hard to express your love for them while you have a vein bulging out of your forehead, but it’s vitally important you do so regardless.

We often talk about our role as leaders of the family.  Displaying an abundant mindset is one of those roles.  You are the example they look to.  If you practice a scarcity mindset, so will they.

As you give more to your wife, the more she will give back to you.  The same holds true for your kids.

This brings us to our next topic, how do you practice abundance within your household?  It doesn’t mean buying your wife and kids whatever they want or being a doormat.  Rather, it means treating your family with benevolence.  Below is a list of actions and their counterparts to help illustrate both abundant and scarcity mindsets.  As you review this list, reflect on the impact practicing each will have on your family.

  • Complimenting / Criticizing
  • A Sense of Gratitude / A Sense of Entitlement
  • Forgive / Hold a Grudge
  • Accountable / Blames Others
  • Transformations Perspective / Transactional Perspective
  • Wants Others to Succeed / Hopes Others Will Fail

If you are working your way out of a bad point in your marriage, applying these concepts will seem even rougher and your cynical nature will urge you against it.  She’s not doing these things for you, why should you do them for her?

It’s counter-intuitive, but that’s precisely the reason you must give of yourself first.  If you’re not willing to put yourself out there, what example does that set for the rest of your family.  You must enter action with boldness, unafraid of the consequences.  If things have been especially bad lately, don’t be discouraged if it’s not immediately reciprocated.  It will take time for them to realize you are sincere in your intent.

As we near the holidays, take time to reflect on what kind of future you want for your family and the role you play in that future.  Make conscious efforts to build your family up and not be so petty that you tear everything down around you.  This is what it means to transcend the Red Pill – pushing past the cynical aspect to enjoy the life you create.

Author: Jak

Jak, married and father of three, seeks to help the Red-Pill Community take its next step past the petty cynicism and ineffectual anger. While he recognizes that men are significantly handicapped by the modern legal system and culture, he doesn’t accept that traditional marriage is untenable in today’s social climate.

Rather, men must be willing to adapt to this new world by implementing new tactics and approaches to maintaining a balance of power. Jak is here to provide you with these lessons.

  • AutomaticSlim

    “you must be generous to your family”

    Good advice for your own nuclear family. Where you get to pick you wife and train your kids.

    Can be very dangerous, though, if applied to the extended family (siblings, cousins, etc..). Especially a sister. You can pick a wife and make sure she is not a greedy, lying, conniving parasite. My advice: Beware a sister who attains power of attorney of a parent with alzheimers. Be very wary of that. And never feel sorry for her, despite her sob stories, and do something stupid like buy her son a car. It will only add insult to injury when you get the rug pulled out from under you in the end.

    • Nuclear Family?

      Sounds like a superhero origin story about a family who was exposed to radiation and wound up with super powers and now fights crime, but they are also totally disfunctional and constantly arguing In public and making bad guys feel awkward

      • Stoic Nihilist

        Its pronounced Nuqular
        http://youtu.be/OoASZyihalc

        • Jim Johnson

          Is that you Pabst?

          • Stoic Nihilist

            Who the fuck names themselves after a shitty beer?

            • Jim Johnson

              This guy that comes around on occasion, Waldemer Pabst. He has a terrible propensity for spurging videos, memes, gifs, and other stuff that slows down the load rate for users.

              • Stoic Nihilist

                Sounds like full blown aids to me

                • bem

                  Ha!! Nah, that’s another guy…

                  • dckhead_con_artist

                    there’s a guy with AIDS on here? What if we catch it on accident?

                    • bem

                      no sweat – he’ll just call us all racists, delete his account and disappear.

                    • Jak

                      So, the AIDS disappears with him? Well, that’s convenient.

                    • Jim Johnson

                      He’ll be back….

                    • Jak

                      So….he’s more like Herpes then?

                    • Jim Johnson

                      It’s that Haitian strain.

                    • AutomaticSlim

                      Hahaha!

              • Marius Aetius Lucullus

                dont forget saying 100% of all relationships in the USA are black man, white woman, i think GOJ & the Knee told him he’s just flat out bonkers.

            • dckhead_con_artist

              there is a guy named Ramen on ROK.

              • Jim Johnson

                after the noodle?

            • John Galt

              Mr. Old Milwaukee wants a word with you outside.

      • AutomaticSlim

        She’s like a toxic waste dump to me now…

    • dckhead_con_artist

      feel free to drop off any sisters on my front lawn if you choose to discard them.

      • Boothe

        I would be careful about that. Some “sisters” might require you pouring buckets of water over them until you can gather enough people to push them back out into the ocean.

        • bem

          And beware of ‘sistas’ vs sisters.

      • AutomaticSlim

        She’s 2.5 years younger than me.
        In other words, her usefulness dried up over 20 years ago.
        But hey, if toxic waste removal is your thing, I’ll be more than happy to try to trick her into it.

    • bem

      I cant stress how important it is to define ‘family’ yourself and to apply generosity accordingly, independent of any externally derived expectations.
      Shit, I’d be more willing to put myself out for some of you people over most of my so-call ‘relatives’.

      • cheeseburgercheeseburger

        we are low maintenance

        • Jak

          @wbfitness:disqus isn’t. Don’t ask him about his face cleansing regimen.

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            @wbfitness:disqus @, what IS your face cleaning regimen>?

            • dckhead_con_artist

              queef twice per day

            • Jak

              You ever seen American Psycho?

              • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                I KNEW he had a chainsaw collection

            • hahahaha oh cheeseburger you don’t even want to know. I make Pat Bateman look like a slacker.

              • Consolation_of_Philosophy

                What’s there to cleanse? My natural Mediterranean grease keeps me young and wrinkle-free!

                • Jak

                  OT: But I got your submission and read through it the other night. Will probably send you an invitation to set you up as a contributor tonight so you can submit the article on our site. Really enjoyed it and it was very well written. Didn’t see much editing that I’d have to do (a definite plus for me).

                  • Consolation_of_Philosophy

                    Cool! Thanks, Jak.

                    • John Galt

                      Of course, you will find that your account as a contributor won’t work because you are already banned.

                    • Consolation_of_Philosophy

                      Banned at last! Took long enough…

                • bem

                  I replicate that by bobbing for arancini.

        • bem

          right – a steady diet of Simpsons, Family Guy, and Godfather references and you’re happy!

  • UnreconstructedConfederate

    Sound advice however, I would like to add- “Don’t extend yourself out to strangers who will gladly screw you over for a few bucks or a fleeting moment of fame.” Include family in that, I don’t mean wife and kids but, siblings, cousins and in some cases parents. They will screw you over (or attempt to) and then be mad at you for not going along with it. Watch your friends closely too, I may just be cynical but, I’ve learned it over time. I used to be under the impression that most people thought like me, don’t screw over those closest to you,evidently they don’t think the same.Those closest to you will do it and not think twice about it. Or maybe I just hung out with the wrong people.
    I’ve been saying for a while that the only people I get really concerned about are the ones in my household.

    • I’ve long lived by the creed that if you expect the absolute worst from everyone you will never be disappointed.

      Funny thing is, when I have tried to judge people individually I feel I get it right about 70% of the time whereas when I just assume everyone is a total fucking cunt I am right about 90% of the time and the ones I am wrong about will usually accept an apology. So I play the numbers game

      • dckhead_con_artist

        I would be suspicious of myself if I met me in a dark alley or a used car lot.

        • bem

          Gotta say your name makes me a wee bit hesitant to do business with you….

          • dckhead_con_artist

            if you only knew my ethnicity!

            • cheeseburgercheeseburger

              I bet you have relatives in Brighton Beach,Brooklyn. and if you do, I bet you know how to work a nice medicaid/care scam

              • dckhead_con_artist

                Bingo! add bankruptcy and credit cards to that resume!

                • bem

                  (((dckhead)))!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

                  • dckhead_con_artist

                    close…the next worse scammers…My parents immigrated to Queens and couldn’t hack it Brooklyn.

                    • bem

                      Thought you were in Texas?

                    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                      yes, but he is wanted in queens and brooklyn 😉

                    • dckhead_con_artist

                      as the bumper sticker says…I wasn’t born in Texas but got here as soon as I could before the warrants were issued.

  • dckhead_con_artist

    How about some words of wisdom from Mike Chang ?

    • what every you do, do not ask him for a joke while holding a carbonated cola based beverage

      • dckhead_con_artist

        Afterburn effect activated!

    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

      6 pack abs are for pussies; 8 pack abs or die

      • dckhead_con_artist

        just ask his friend jonny who has them and will let you look at them for a small fee.

        • cheeseburgercheeseburger

          thought you woulda gone with Long Duk Dong as his friend

          • dckhead_con_artist

            Hey man, so racist of you after all his name is Mike!

  • In all seriousness, I have to take my hat off to you guys with families. This morning I was thinking about it. I left the house and forgot my headphones and didn’t water my plant. If I had a baby it would be dead in a week. Way to go fellas.

    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

      hogwash, you’d be great with a kid- feeding it formula with whey protein in it outta chinese food cartons

    • dckhead_con_artist

      uh, sir, you need to buy yourself a pregnancy simulator before you get knocked up.

      • cheeseburgercheeseburger
        • dckhead_con_artist

          there’s no way he could get to the chopper like that.

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            some guys put forth the idea that hollywood crossed the rubicon in the early/mid 90s; I think they were correct. he goes from T2 to this?

            • dckhead_con_artist

              this is where that pregnant tranny got it’s bright idea.

              • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                they can now implant wombs into a transexual. inventing science turned into a really bad idea

            • Jim Johnson

              I would agree, with few exceptions, Hollywood went to SJWing nearly across the board about 1995.

              • dckhead_con_artist

                Jungle Fever, which I am sure they never got in Utah or Wyoming.

                • Jim Johnson

                  Reminds me of this show we watched in the dollar theater last weekend. These two crash landed in the Uintas in Utah. (I recognized the area from the Kings Peak trip last summer) black guy, white woman. Upon walking out, they found a cabin to fornicate in. We walked out of the theater at that point.

                  • dckhead_con_artist

                    but you do got Brokeback Mountain…SJWs spare nobody

                    • Jim Johnson

                      Never seen it, never will. I don’t care if it got “Best Cinematography” Not going to subject my eyes to that, even if there is copious amounts of eyebleach (mountains) in the film.

                    • bem

                      A well-made movie about a stupidly unbelievable story with excellent scenery. Really had to close my eyes several times though…

                    • Jim Johnson

                      you can consider me homophobic, I don’t take offense to the label.

                    • Jak

                      I love the counter when a lib calls you a homophobe, you answer with “Don’t make fun of my medical condition, you damn ableist! Phobias are uncontrolled by the individual and I don’t appreciate you making light of my struggles!”

                    • Jim Johnson

                      I got to remember that one.

                    • iBooB

                      That’s why God made acronyms

                    • John Galt

                      Wasn’t part II cancelled because one of the fags commited suicide?

                  • bem

                    Never thought I’d hear YOU object to cuttin’ a slice in a cabin!!!!

                    • Jim Johnson

                      Hey if it were me, that is one thing, If my kids are watching, it is awkward either way you slice it.

                  • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                    so did you blow $2 or $8? 😉

                    the last second- run theatre in nyc closed over a decade ago- $3 tickets

                    • Jim Johnson

                      8….The ads made it look like an adventure type story, so I didn’t think it would hurt to have them see a PG-13. Nope, they were getting it on for several minutes. I had two kids in a headlock so they couldn’t see, my wife was doing the same with two more. The others were too young to understand.

                    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                      YOU WASTED $8???? YOU COULDA BOUGHT A BUCKET OF FRESH WHEAT WITH THAT!!!!

                  • UWOTM8

                    I have to ask, at this point in film-making how else would anyone expect that movie to go?

                    • Jim Johnson

                      I don’t know, anymore we are mostly limiting ourselves to stuff made before 1970. Very rare that you are pleasantly surprised.

                    • UWOTM8

                      haha my parents did something similar to my sister and I. My sister was never allowed to see trashy chick flicks. She had to rent Gone With the Wind from the library…

            • UWOTM8

              I’d give it just a bit later. The Matrix/Office Space/Fight Club/American Beauty came out in 99 and the LOTR trilogy came out early 2000s. That trilogy would never be made the way it was today. To prove that, Amazon has declared a reboot.

              • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                reboot of which one? LOTR?

                • bem

                  they gonna make that shit longer?!?!?!?!?!

                  • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                    the 40 hours long special Maddening version of the Tolkien classic!

                  • Ainigmaris Thales

                    They have to find a way to make the hobbits all happy little communists, the elves all intellectual socialists, and the bad guys all evil capitalists with bad blonde wigs.

                • UWOTM8

                  Yep, very recently announced. Couldn’t have that borderline flawless interpretation of Western mythology and high fantasy left unsullied, could they?

                  • Jim Johnson

                    The 2001 series was good, something tells me it will be akin to the Ghostbusters reboot.

                    • Jak

                      This all reminds me of the other night. I was catching up with the newest season of The Flash as I was doing shit around the house and they had an episode where all the girls went out for a bachelorette party. Well shit goes down and these broads go into full “grrl power” mode even going so far as to putting their hand in the circle like sports teams do and saying “hashtag feminism!” I shit you not.
                      I had to turn it off after that. Just couldn’t take it seriously anymore.

                    • Jim Johnson

                      It pays to shut some show off or walk out when crap like that goes on. It makes a statement that that kind of stuff is not to be tolerated.

                    • Jak

                      Yep, probably not going to finish the season now because of that nonsense. Am watching The Punisher series on Netflix instead. It’s pretty damn good.

                    • Ainigmaris Thales

                      Sorry to say, but Punisher sneaks in a dose of SJW shit, too.

                    • Jak

                      Haven’t seen much yet, but I don’t usually pick up subtle hints.

                    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                      are all the people he punishes white guys?

                    • Jak

                      Hmmm, I’ll have to pay more attention to that. He does have some flashbacks where he’s beating the shit out of muzzies in the Middle East.

                    • Ainigmaris Thales

                      Pretty much everyone he punishes is a white male. And every single doctor or medic in the series is black.

                    • Jak

                      That’s true, but at the same time they’re lending credence to the fact that white people go through shit too. There’s no white privilege when you got one kid suffering from PTSD from his tour overseas, and The Punisher and Micro having their families stolen from them.
                      What I’ve taken from it is there are many retired soldiers who have fallen from grace and are struggling to regain some semblance of purpose in their lives as they battle their demons. It’s not all “Oh whitey is a dopey dude who needs (insert minority figure) to constantly pull their ass out of the fire and fix their mistakes. But who knows, I’m only 4 episodes in so it could very well turn that way.

                    • Ainigmaris Thales

                      Perhaps you are right. Maybe I have gotten too “sensitive” to SJW shit and have started seeing it everywhere. I did feel like there was a change in the direction of the series about halfway through.

                    • Jak

                      Guess I’ll see over the long weekend when I get further into it. Quick question: They don’t do a huddle with their hands in the center while saying “hashtag feminism,” do they?

                    • Ainigmaris Thales

                      Nope, no hashtag feminism. So you’re good there.

                    • Ainigmaris Thales

                      You will. The ethnic female character has to save us from the crazy white male veteran who becomes a terrorist.

                    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                      sounds legit…its called “programming” for a reason, yet no one ever picks up on that

                    • Ainigmaris Thales

                      It really ruins everything. Overall, it is a great series with some great acting, and just about all of it is well done. But you seem them inject these same tired old tropes in there, this lame SJW crap, and it just ruins it. It’s almost jarring to me, because otherwise it is this very gritty, semi-realistic deal (except the usual over-the-top violence), and this SJW crap just doesn’t even fit.

                    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                      The Man in the High Castle was interesting, but I heard it was cancelled bc too many viewers liked the German general- strong, family-oriented, good leadership, etc…we’ll see if it returns or not

                    • Ainigmaris Thales

                      I found the main characters to be really bland and boring. Only made it about halfway through the first season.

                    • B1k3_Ch41N

                      Oh the irony. But, but he was supposed to hate…..

                    • UWOTM8

                      Haha I heard about that. I looked it up on Youtube and all of the comments were more or less talking about how their alternate history didn’t seem so bad lol

                    • Boothe

                      You nailed it. Even “Sophia”, the first AI/robot “citizen” of Saudi Arabia, came right out and stated that humans are programmable. The real question is are you programming yourself or are you letting someone else do it?

                    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                      whoa, it that real? link? I really hate youguys from time to time..

                    • Boothe

                      Yeah that’s real. “She” has spoken with the United Nations deputy chief. Here’s one link, there are various others: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=4bWLLAdR4DA

                  • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                    frodo and sam going at it probably

                • Lady of the Rings. They are casting the ghostbitches as the four hobbits.

              • Iattacku

                you know they are making an all womens version of Oceans 11

                • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                  and they dont have 11 women- its 8 or 9 stars. wrap your head around that one. hwood banks on the increasing stupidity of it audience

                • B1k3_Ch41N

                  Aka ruining the bloody thing. Bet they will drink memosas after the heist while comforting the one who just got divorced.

                  • Iattacku

                    Call me sexist or whatever but i cant picture women planning a sophisticated heist.

                    • B1k3_Ch41N

                      If we judge by the success of divorce rape cases……

                    • Iattacku

                      ok that was a good one

                    • Iattacku

                      still whats with remaking movies but with a women cast. What next a Janet Bond with a cast of Bond Boys.

                    • Ainigmaris Thales

                      No, they’ll make him black and gay.

                    • B1k3_Ch41N

                      Blay?

                    • Ainigmaris Thales

                      Gack.

                    • B1k3_Ch41N

                      Nigreosexuals!

                    • Ainigmaris Thales

                      Homiesexual

                    • B1k3_Ch41N

                      Hmmmm triggered! No need for your racial slurs.

                    • Iattacku

                      That would honestly be entertaining( well except the really gay scenes like gay kissing) .

                    • B1k3_Ch41N

                      Guilable market made up of mentally uneasy people with severe insecurities who are willing to pay to have their fragile egos caressed by moving pictures. Why would such a movie fail?

                • bem

                  thats going to suk worse that the sukkiest suk that ever sukked.

                  • Ainigmaris Thales

                    No, there will be no sucking in that movie at all, buddy.

                    • Jim Johnson

                      Right, those movies are in a different section of town.

                • John Galt

                  Hollywood studios must have silos of cash to burn.

                  • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                    their accountants are more creative than their screenwriters…lotta dirty $ gets laundered thru that town…

                    • John Galt

                      They are exempt from GAAP reporting practices and do not operate as a standard business, so lots of opportunities for graft.

                      Make them comply and Hollywood would be done in one night.

                    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                      any idea why they are exempt from GAAP?

                    • John Galt

                      IIRC it goes back to WWII and assisting making govt. films however they donate big to the democrat party hence why those old rules are still in place. Their accounting is not in line with most busuness practices.

                  • Marius Aetius Lucullus

                    cash to burn & propaganda to push

                • UWOTM8

                  heard about that. Honestly, what is their audience for that?

                  • bem

                    People with nothing to do…

                  • Their virtue signaling peon brains. I feel hollywood doesnt even give a fuck about the money anymore and just make whatever they want to make them feel “good”

              • John Galt

                LOTR was the last gasp. A few years ago I tried to watch the first “Hobbit” on a flight and turned it off half way through. I understand it was nothing but a pure money grab, but the unnecessary deviations such as the KAF (kick-ass-female) elf killed it for me. Now they want to reboot LOTR?

                It will be made into another simpering SWJ shit fest and vag empowerment flick.

                • bem

                  I couldn’t get through the Hobbit either. Far too many liberties were taken.

                  • they had to. It was that or death. Peter Jackson consulted with Patrick Henry on the script

                • UWOTM8

                  Peter Jackson was pretty much dragged back to make the Hobbit and it shows. Those movies are so baffling and lifeless as to be totally forgettable.

            • After getting paid less than 100k for each terminator I am sure arnold was happy to cash the 10 million dollar check they paid him for Junior

              EDIT: It may be conan they paid him shit for

    • Stoic Nihilist

      I like your style. Dead babies ftw

    • bem

      “now where’d I leave that kid yesterday……”

      • Stoic Nihilist

        In your basement. He’s all black and blue from all the unwanted sex that you give him.

        • bem

          way to follow a string of comments….Bravo.

          • Stoic Nihilist

            😘😘😘

    • Honey Badger

      Never had to do the project in school where you had a fake baby that you had to take care of 24/7?

      • no. i saw it on saved by the bell though.

        • Chip Baskets

          The never ending well that is saved by the bell

        • UnreconstructedConfederate

          I would have liked to have given that Kapowsky girl a paddling.

          • AutomaticSlim

            Oh, I’d paddle her, alright…

    • B1k3_Ch41N

      Reminds me of that scene from Transporting when they find the baby in the crib after the group had their massive skag binge.

      • cheeseburgercheeseburger

        a trainspotting ref? someone is clearly in that holiday mood already

        • B1k3_Ch41N

          You know it.

          • cheeseburgercheeseburger

            I bet you watch Apocalypse Now on Christmas morn

      • Such a fucking awesome movie. I was actually shown this movie by my 11th grade English teacher, IN CLASS. He was a fat basement dweller metalhead guy that rode a bicycle to the school. Fun post script to this is that he lost weight and is now a competition weightlifter.

        But yeah, shitting on blankets, dead babies, fishing for pills in shit infested toilets. Imagine if a teacher tried to play this in a classroom today.

        • disqus_ySQABTZGg7

          That teacher would be loved like Dumbledore is loved in Harry Potter. That teacher would be a few hours of free air, few hours of bullshit-free zone.

          How old are you, old guy? You don’t seem to talk often with not-insane millennials or Generation Z. They hate everything feminism with zealousness, great passion, remorselessness. Just consider all of the kids sharing their stories about feministic parents have all fucked up their families, holidays, relations, everything. Imagine them gathering, and collectively understanding the root of the problem; feminism.

          Thank you very much for the movie recommendation, though. If you can recommend good movies, like this one, you must be something.

          • Turned 30 this year so im kinda on the higher end of millennials but honestly don’t really have many friends in that group because I cant relate to them much at all. Most of my friends are Gen X or older. A few other cases of millennial friends I have that aren’t batshit crazy.

            My son is gen Z and your points are all correct. The allure of being a burnout loser has faded away from the next generation of kids. Being competitive, stand up and carrying yourself well are things they seem to resonate with.

  • Stoic Nihilist

    I didn’t even read the article (opinion piece).
    Too many words. Fuck that.
    I’m just here for Kratom references.

    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

      Wally P. is that you>?

      • B1k3_Ch41N

        New skill to add on the CV: able to identify everyone’s online personalities.

    • dckhead_con_artist

      combine the Mike Chang afterburn effect, with Kratom and Tony Robbins and you get a Superbeast.

    • Jak

      This is actually one of my shorter articles.

  • Ainigmaris Thales

    I don’t feel abundant.

    • Jak

      Well someone didn’t take their Kratom this morning.

  • Father of Three

    New blog in the Manosphere, coming in December 2017! We are launching a blog for men who are in the mixed (“interracial”) marriages and are fathers of mixed-race children.
    Look out for updates.

    • Ainigmaris Thales

      Did you ask the owners of this site before pimping your blog here?

      • Jak

        More importantly, is this the REAL FO3 or just someone using his handle? Last I checked, he upgraded to FO4.

        • Father of Three

          I have three children.

          • Jak

            Ok, so you’re not the original FO3.

            • Father of Three

              I don’t know who the “original FO3” is.

              • Jak

                A commenter on ROK who made some pretty outlandish claims.

                • Father of Three

                  Look, I am just letting people know we are launching our blog. Some readers may feel the new blog will be relevant to them. That’s all.

                  • Jak

                    No worries. What’s the name of the site?

                    • Ainigmaris Thales

                      Hey, I’m just saying that going to some other website and pimping your own website all over the comments is kind of a dick mov… oh, wait…

                    • Jak

                      Lol. Hence why I’m not freaking out over it. Practicing what my article preaches – Abundance, baby!

                    • bem
                    • Marius Aetius Lucullus

                      Inspector Callahan was the Kersey meister?

                    • bem

                      Yes.

                    • Marius Aetius Lucullus

                      damn… when did he slip up and out himself?
                      thought IC was going alright for a little while there, posting some comments that were normal.

                    • Jim Johnson

                      Funny he didn’t respond

                    • bem

                      waiting for the account to be deleted…

                    • Jim Johnson

                      Assuming he thinks we are racists, I don’t think Kersey understands how to change hearts and minds.

                    • Jak

                      I don’t think Kersey understands much, period.
                      Btw Kersey, if you’re still issuing challenges to fight, my offer still stands. Come down to Nashville and we’ll have a bout sponsored by AKC. 10% of the proceeds go to us and 90% goes to a charity of the victor’s choice. No dirty fighting (groin shots, biting, eye gouging, etc). Just mano y mano with the weapons God gave us at birth.

                    • Jim Johnson

                      I would like to see that. Straight boxing rules, or UFC? I’ll pitch in if it goes mostly to charity.

                    • SEE! this is how i got in trouble. YOU ARE THE ONE that challenged that aids infected lunatic to a fight and he thinks it is me. I would never fight that mother fucker. He has aids dude. There is no winning. I couldn’t figure out why he kept saying i challenged him to a fight. I know myself. I am not fighting anyone with aids. Hell, I hope I never fight anyone ever again, but ESPECIALLY if they have aids. This is on you Jak.

                    • bem

                      As I recollect, Kersey originally challenged YOU, because GOJ (being you of course) called him a nigger or somesuch fabrication…

                    • Jak

                      A) I only brought this up the last time he surfaced and that was AFTER he was already accusing you of challenging him to a fight.
                      B) I never technically challenged him, I just said if he’s still looking for a fight, I wouldn’t turn him down if he was willing to come down to Nashville.
                      C) I would require him to get a blood test before the fight to make sure my own well-being is assured.

                    • A) Well I don’t know why he thinks I challenged him to a fight. I would NEVER do that
                      B) I am going to leave you “not turning down” Kersey to other shitlords
                      C) I wouldn’t even give him the blood test, let alone the fight.

                    • Jak

                      A) He’s an imbecile.
                      B) That doesn’t work when I put it in the context of us fighting. Would work if I ONLY said “I wouldn’t turn him down.”
                      C) Where did I say that I’d pay for his blood test? That’s all on him.

                    • A) Yes
                      B) If you think these shitlords care about context while taking your words and making you sound like you were asking an aids patient for buttsex then you haven’t been around for long enough and this is YOUR site
                      C) I wonder if he will ever get tested and post his results. That would be one way for him to have us stop saying he has aids.

                    • Jak

                      A) Glad we can agree.
                      B) Touche
                      C) No it wouldn’t.

                    • A) Always
                      B) I think it’s spelt Tushy
                      C) I think it’s spelt Tushy (Thought that one was so funny figured I’d say it twice)

                    • Jak

                      A) N/A
                      B) N/A
                      C) Agreed.

                    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                      I am the real Kersey. you fools dont know who you are really dealing with. I have many names, all live rent-free in your minds…I have enough screengrabs of your posts to destroy all of you

                    • Jim Johnson

                      No, I’m the REAL Kersey, Cheeseburger (if that is his real alias) is Callahan. I had all of you snowballed. I almost got away with it to, if it weren’t for those meddling kids.

                    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                      no- I am Kersey. Have been for years. Tired of you clowns. You will all get banned from the web, c/o me.

                    • bem

                      annnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnd he deleted his account again.

                    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

                      this is really getting weird. dude, if youre out there, I know Ive told you before raise your kids well-all that matters. This stalking thing is boggling my mind…but gives me a chance to post a kickass Dinosaur, Jr. tune!

                    • Jak

                      Kersey sighting confirmed.
                      I guess he didn’t get all the WN comments he was hoping for with his little stunt so he decided to jump ship.

                    • Jak

                      You’re a liar! I’M the real Kersey. I’ve been playing the long game to troll you puny fools!

                    • Jim Johnson

                      The wait is over, you were right.

                    • Jak

                      Welp, there goes my fun for today since it looks like it was shaping up to be another sting operation by Kersey. Ah well. I expect he’ll be deleting his account soon if so.

                    • Jim Johnson

                      Like that crazy uncle Rico, very irritating when he is around, but a great source of entertainment when he isn’t

                    • Jim Johnson

                      You called it. Congratulations.

                    • bem

                      I CALLED IT FIRST!!!!

                    • Jak

                      First is worst.
                      Second is best.
                      That’s right. I just went old school (3rd grade) on you.

                    • bem

                      second place is tied for LAST.

                    • Jak

                      You’re still a cunt. Deal with it.

                    • bem

                      FIRST PLACE cunt though.

                    • UnreconstructedConfederate

                      If you ain’t first, you’re last.

                    • Jim Johnson

                      So, did the chump ever take you up on offer?

                    • Jak

                      Nah. Just another shit talker on the internet. Funny thing is, if he actually followed through and fought me, I might actually have a modicum of respect for him. As it is, he’s just a pathetic little keyboard warrior who thinks he’s on some grand crusade to turn the internet into the world wide safe space.

                    • Jim Johnson

                      Not surprised.

                      Several years ago, someone sponsored an amateur night boxing match where I was living. Anyone could pick who they wanted to fight against, under standard boxing rules for a small fee, they had a ref there. Some coworkers at the sawmill I worked at didn’t get along and fought there. It was a fun way to settle differences IMO.

                    • Jak

                      That DOES sound like fun, though I’m not much of a boxer. I know the basics, but I’m much more of a mixed bag of sorts. Not MMA in the conventional sense, but I’ve trained in enough styles to be familiar with each. I guess you could say I’m…
                      a Jak of all trades. YEEEEEAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH!

                    • Jim Johnson

                      I could see doing it with MMA rules. Problem would be, IMO is they would degenerate into street fighting rather quickly.

                      This fight was much, much slower and awkward than professionals, but a sight to see nonetheless.

                • wouldn’t want that now!

                  • Jak

                    There’s outlandish and then there’s FO3 outlandish. Only he could say with a straight face that sex is painful and we’re just brainwashed to believe it’s not.

                    • funny, with time I kinda forgot his whole schtick. I mean, I remember it being crazy sauce, but damned if I can actually remember what it was.

                    • Jak

                      I remember at one point he was trying to say how Trump’s bloodline was from (((Da Joos))) because Drumpf is a German name and….yeah, I kinda lost him after that.

                    • AHHHH YES! Now I remember. Jews, casinos, trumps.

                    • Jak

                      It was funny to watch him crash and burn much in the same way it’s funny to watch some jackass skateboarder try a trick and wind up crushing his balls on a handrail.

                    • Sorry, ball hits always funnier

                    • Marius Aetius Lucullus

                      that really was a great episode!

                      when the Barney Gumble story plays its quite sad, then that follows…. now that is funny!

      • Jak

        Huh? Wha?! BANNED!
        BANS ALL AROUND! YOU’RE ALL BANNED!

        • Father of Three

          Sarcasm?

          • Jak

            You need to visit here more often. Heh.

    • bem

      O Kersey, we knew you couldn’t stay away!

      • Boothe

        Drawn like a moth to a flame…

      • Iattacku

        We all know Kersey loves us. Why else does he stick around after all of this time

    • Ainigmaris Thales

      Do you now have, or have you ever had, any form of Haitian or Ukrainian AIDS?

    • cheeseburgercheeseburger

      hope its on geocities.com (not for everyone)

  • OT: I could never live in a place where I couldn’t reasonably expect someone to know what I mean when i say they are giving me “agita.”

    • bem

      Its comforting to know someone understands when you call them a “gavone” (sp) too.

      • cheeseburgercheeseburger

        ever hear “ja-beep(sp)”? still dont know what that means

        • bem

          I’ve heard of it as a place, “East JaBeep”

      • Or the fact that an entire ethic group in a particular region grew up knowing exactly what someone meant when they said “your sister’s ass”

        • bem

          I never heard that!

          • you never heard “ahhh ya sistas ash” as a general expletive giving spice to “oh shit”

            I have heard this so frequently I just assumed.

            • bem

              Mother was always the focus of derision as I recall. Sisters? Seems everyone hated their own anyways so the insult was powerless.

            • UnreconstructedConfederate

              Is that kind of like “aw bullshit!” or ” you done hit yo damn head!”?

    • John Galt

      What about “ja-moke”? I only ever heard it in Chicago.

      • cheeseburgercheeseburger

        i heard that one here; how about ja-beep?

        • John Galt

          Nope.

      • got me on that one

  • Boothe

    This goes back to the Biblical admonition to do unto others as you would have them do unto you. And you reap what you sow. If you wait around for other people to do things for you first, you may be in for a long wait. You have sown nothing so there is no reasonable expectation of a harvest.

    It is up to each of us to be proactive in a positive manner. If you drift through life, don’t be surprised if the current carries you through the worst rapids and the sharpest rocks, often sideways. To successfully traverse this river we call life you have to steer and paddle. Part of that effort is looking out for and helping the people around you.

    I realize that many if not most people will take advantage of you if you let them. That’s part of steering through life. Set limits on where and how far you are willing to go and stick to them. When we go too far in helping others, we make them completely dependant on us and that does more harm than good.

    Helping children with projects is a good example of this. In many cases it is far easier to just take over a project and do it for them. But you have cheated them out of the learning experience and taught them they can be lazy since you will just do things for them.

    As we age, we gain knowledge and experience in abundance (or we should anyway) and that is one of the most important assets we can share. Being patient and teaching our children, our friends and even our wives skills that help improve the quality of their lives is the best gift we can give them.

    • UWOTM8

      “If you wait around for other people to do things for you first, you may be in for a long wait.”

      Holy fuck did I get a potent face-full of that today.
      Thanksgiving party at work, everyone and their family in attendance. I followed my social and military conditioning and gave my coworkers opportunities to introduce their families and spouses to me. That’s how I was raised, you introduce your family/friends to new acquaintances. Nothing doing, they’d keep talking while the spouse just stood there awkwardly or I floated off equally awkwardly.

      Left livid and feeling like I’d been socially transported back to freshman year of high school. Never. Again.

      • Boothe

        In that situation all etiquette bets are off. I step up, introduce myself to the spouse, ask about the children, etc. If I want to tweak the husband and flatter the wife, I will tell her “It’s so nice that your father brought you.” “Oh, that’s your husband? You look so much younger than him…” That is usually good for a smile out of her and a snarky “Thanks.” out of him.

        I used to follow my social and military conditioning, but I am deprogrammed now. I am going to enjoy myself and if it makes some other folks uncomfortable, especially if they are being rude, that’s too bad.

        • UWOTM8

          I can’t pull that level of snark and hope to survive in my position, but I made a note to be far more direct and dictate my own terms of engagement in the future.

          • Boothe

            Excellent! I warn other men that what works for me may not work for you. Part of being a man is developing your own style and knowing the limits of what you can get away with in any given situation. I have been known to push the limit in the past…usually after a few drinks. Ha!

      • L’UltimoConservatore

        I hated that kind of thing too. Most everyone didn’t want to be there, and those that did were falling over themselves to see who could out ass-kiss the boss. Kind of humorous thinking back now though. So ridiculous!!

  • Frank Corvin

    Good article. The compliments/criticizing I disagree with in regards to them coming from opposing mindsets, I think they can come from either. I do get what the author is trying to convey but I think it’s too broad to not have expanded further on that one point as both of those can be from either mindset. Being constantly critical and never positive I can see this as not coming from abundance which I think is what the author was getting at, however…

    In my experience a criticism can be just as much from an abundance mentality as a compliment as long as it’s warranted and not being a constant bitchy sounding nag. Same goes with compliments, only when warranted. Too much of either and you become white noise and watered down, a kiss ass or a negative nancy.

    A couple of examples:

    I got asked the question “does my hair look ok?”… she had massively ratted/frizzed out hair from being outside in the wind. I responded with a flirtatious criticism “well if you are going for the I just jumped out of an airplane look, it’s fantastic!, but if not then you might want to find your brush”.

    Another I’ve been asked “does my pussy still feel tight?” … I was direct here: “you might want to look into kegels babe”. She got mad for a minute but respect was gained here as she later apologized for getting angry and thanked me for being direct to her question. A month later she asks the same question (after having done kegels daily)… ah wow it feels great babe… she was ecstatic at a) the compliment knowing it was genuine, b) that she achieved her goal, c) that she was rocking my world, and conversely I hers … etc.

    • Jak

      You are correct. I am speaking of the constant criticizer, not the occasional, warranted criticism.

      It would probably behoove me to give some exceptions when I’m talking about a general topic but A) I don’t want to ramble on most times and B) I assume our readers are competent men who understand these nuances.

      It’s a fine line to walk, certainly but the good side is it opens up the topic to discussion and discourse.

      • “You are correct. I am speaking of the constant criticizer, not the occasional, warranted criticism.”

        UGH Of course you would say that wouldn’t you.

        • Jak

          I just did, didn’t I?

          • bem

            just come out and SAY IT – you WANT me to have an abortion!!!!!!!

            • It was an abortion. An abortion, Michael. Just like our marriage is an abortion. Something that’s unholy and evil. I didn’t want your son, Michael! I wouldn’t bring another one of you sons into this world! It was an abortion, Michael! It was a son Michael! A son! And I had it killed because this must all end! I know now that it’s over. I knew it then. There would be no way, Michael… no way you could ever forgive me not with this Sicilian thing that’s been going on for 2,000 years.

              • Consolation_of_Philosophy

                What an ungrateful bitch.

              • L’UltimoConservatore

                Must be my day for thinking of university anecdotes. Saw that with some other students during my bachelors. One of those fluffy “humanities” courses the idiot university forced on science majors. I was the only one that thought his response to her was not only justified, but beyond tame. She murdered his son! Cement shoes are called for. Or dealing with her at a great height. Over water.

                🙂

            • Jak

              Come now…If I was pro-abortion, how would I expect my bloodline to take over the world?

              • bem

                but how keen are you on MINE?

                • Jak

                  Hmmm….good point…good point….

            • cheeseburgercheeseburger

              say it, SAT IIIIITTTTT!!!

              • bem

                He really cares!
                About what, I have no idea…..

              • John Galt

                I haven’t seen that movie in 20 years and still remember some of the lines.

                “You want to look thin? Hang around fatter friends.”
                “One son I put through college. The other I put through a wall.”

                I will see if I can find a copy for the holidays.

      • Frank Corvin

        Yeah I figured that was what you meant.

        Occams razor is always a delicate one to traverse. Discussion is always the best part anyway haha

  • Lou Skunt

    Happy Thanksgiving you Crazy Bastards!… Enjoy the Feast of “Abundance” …Or, as Mama Celeste would say: “Abbondanza!”

    • Jak

      Happy Thanksgiving to you as well, Lou. Yes, much feasting will be had.

    • AutomaticSlim

      Same to you Lou!

    • AutomaticSlim

      Hey Lou, have to ask, does this mean anything to you?
      Just curious.
      There are many variations.
      This one seems to be the original Italian version.
      I am more familiar with the Bronx version…

    • L’UltimoConservatore

      Oh that’s right! It’s… I think right now! Today! I’ll get some pasta dish with lobster in it for the occasion. 🙂

      I was always forgetting US holidays while I was still in the US. Of course here in Italy I’m hopeless. It’s a bit worse here though because literally EVERYTHING is closed when they pop up.

    • bem

      back atcha!

  • UnreconstructedConfederate

    I noticed some deleted comments below, did the troll with AIDS ( I’ve yet to determine if he has Haitian, Ukrainian or Nigerian AIDS) whose name is not to be mentioned delete his own comments?

    • Jim Johnson

      Today was pathetic. he comes in as “Father of Three” (FO3 mentioned a 4th last time he was around) and advertises a non-existent red pill interracial marriage site. Jak straight up challenges him to a fight which he soon after stops commenting and deletes his account. Keyboard warriors are funny.

      • UnreconstructedConfederate

        They tell me that those who crave attention crave it whether it’s good or bad. He comes around asking for it, then gets mad when he gets it.
        That dude has serious psychological issues for which he should seek immediate attention before he shoots up a post office or something.

        • Jim Johnson

          I would agree. I would bet you the guy has a crappy marriage where he goes home and watches TV at night after work, rinse, repeat.

          • UnreconstructedConfederate

            I bet he lives alone because if someone was stuck in the house with him they would strangle him in his sleep…. I probably would while he was awake.

            • Jim Johnson

              I wouldn’t doubt it. He has mentioned having a colored wife, but other than that, I have never heard him talk any specifics about her or his family life.

      • Jak

        I don’t know what’s wrong with him. I mean, doesn’t he want to raise a lot of money for charity? Fucking Scrooge…

        • Jim Johnson

          Yup…..OT, I got another article for you to look at.

          • Jak

            I’ll give it a looksee tonight.

      • Jak

        Also, I didn’t challenge him. I merely informed him if he was looking to fight someone, I wouldn’t turn down a challenge from him if he issued it to me. Semantics. Heh.

        • UnreconstructedConfederate

          As the old saying goes, he needs to stand up to eat for a few days.

          • Jak

            Don’t think I’ve heard that saying.

            • UnreconstructedConfederate

              Dear old Papa Confederate used to say that to me, meaning when you acted a fool your backside would be too sore to sit on for a spell.

              • Jak

                I like it, but I’d only be kicking his ass figuratively speaking. Chances are he wouldn’t be doing much standing after I worked him over.

                • UnreconstructedConfederate

                  In that case a friend of mines father used to tell him, “boy, I will kick your ass slam up around your shoulder blades!”.

    • L’UltimoConservatore

      Not very sporting of the fellow. The least he can do is keep his ridiculous posts online long enough for me to get amusement out of them. 🙂

  • AutomaticSlim

    Looks like Kersey’s been through here again.
    Damn. I always miss the good stuff.
    Too bad it wasn’t yesterday. I was working from home yesterday…

    • Jim Johnson

      It wasn’t as good as a week ago he was pretty pathetic today

      • Iattacku

        to be fair i dont think he can top what he did a week ago.

        • L’UltimoConservatore

          Oh great, I missed not one but TWO episodes!?

          DAMMIT.

  • L’UltimoConservatore

    Not in any way related but the title had me instantly thinking of Obsolete Man. That old Twilight Zone episode.