Keeping The Challenge Going

If you go the the gym and lift the same weight the same amount of reps each time, you wont progress after a certain point.  Your body and muscles will adapt and you’ll just be spinning your wheels.  The same can be said about other parts of your life as well.  As men, we must constantly challenge ourselves to do better, to be more than who we were yesterday, and push limits because it is that fire inside us to overcome obstacles that keeps us on the correct path.

January marks on year since I left my truly entry level job and took on a job which I will admit, at the time of me taking it, was way more responsibility than I expected.  I went from a simple help desk technician to a full on IT Manager for a huge corporate company.  Granted I know the technical side of things pretty well, but this was a whole new ball game.

There were times I wanted to quit.  Times I hated this place and wished I’d never taken this position.  I made my choice though, and despite hating it at times, I have a family to feed so I had to do my absolute best.  I was handed a bucket of shit in terms of a network, and I was expected to turn it into gold.   I stuck with it, and over the course of the year I’ve learned so much and made myself so much more valuable.  Reflecting on this got me thinking about how all aspects of our life need to be fine tuned and can’t stay stagnant for too long.

Always Improving

If you’re doing the same shit you’ve always been doing, you’re going to have the same shit you have always had.  Taking on more responsibility can be a little frightening at times, but unless you royally fuck something up,  being someone who accepts this is what you took on, and sticking to the main goals you have set, you’ll grow and prosper.

This doesn’t just apply to work or career either.  You should always try to learn new things or push past your comfort zone even just a little bit.  A few years ago I decided that I wanted to go  bow hunting.  I had never been, my father wasn’t a hunter, but I decided to give it a shot. (lol)  I had practiced and got my sights targeted in, bought all the shit I needed, but the true test was going out into the wilderness in the dark, cold early November air.  This was the moment I waited for, so I had to nut up and go for it.

Each time I went out, I went a little further, and a little deeper into the woods.  I didn’t see even one buck, but trusting myself to get back to the cabin each night helped my confidence and it proved I could rely on myself to get to safety.  A skill you never know if you’ll need unless you’re in that situation.

Bringing It Together

This way of thinking is what prompted my mental goals in the Way of the Warlord challenges.  I want to build my mind as well as my body.  We all know of that 70 year old man that still gets up and kicks ass in life because he has the will to do so.  I know of 50 year old men who are basically helpless due to their will to be that way.  It all comes down to you in the end.

If you want more, you have to make it happen, and if you keep doing the same things, you wont get shit.  You can make all the excuses in the world, but if you don’t take the initiative to change things, despite how difficult they may be, you’ll remain where you are.


Don’t be afraid of taking on more.  We are not cowards, we are not bitches.  You have to trust yourself a great deal to know you can deliver when push comes to shove, but if you never get yourself into a position where that can be proven, how can you truly be sure?  In every facet of your life, try to always be improving even if it is one percent.  It will pay off every single time I promise you.


-J. Nyx


Author: Jnyx

J. Nyx is a father of three and co-owner of He understands that there is something missing in the community and that you can be a traditional, masculine man in our current age as well as a dedicated leader of your family.