The 48 Laws of Marriage: Law 8

It’s been a while since I’ve done anything on this series so I thought I’d quickly cover Law 8 and how it pertains to marriage and fatherhood, but first we must know what Law 8 from the 48 Laws of Power says:

Make other people come to you.  Use bait if necessary.

This law on the surface looks pretty unassuming, but holds a lot of relevance in a marriage and life in general.  This law boils down to one essential element: Maintaining frame.

Men are natural hunters and we have all the traits to be successful in this arena.  However, in the social world that we live in now, these traits can often work against us if not properly harnessed.

Our aggression and desire to pursue must be tempered with cunning and patience.  A quick wit doesn’t hurt either.

Making other people come to you makes you the director and them the reactor.  You will need to find your own way of implementing this tactic, but some common techniques are:

  • Answering a question with an ambiguous statement.
  • Walking away from a conversation as you throw out some interesting morsel of information.
  • Smiling coyly and gesturing the person to come to you.
  • Simply having a mischievous smile for apparently no reason.

These kind of things pique a person’s interest and make them want to know more about what you know.  Some people are naturals at this while others must work more at it.

These techniques work equally well in marriage as they build a level of mystique and sexual tension, something that seems to erode away once you’re a few years into the marriage.  Keeping your wife on her toes and reacting to you builds up that intrigue that she had when you first started dating.

You must also choose the right times in order to be aggressive and when to pull back.  If you and your wife are in a heated argument, being aggressive and clashing with her head on will only fuel her while draining you.  It’s an odd quirk in human biology, but emotional outbursts drain men while only energizing women.  Don’t fall for this trap and get out of the arena where she holds the advantage.

In doing this, you must learn to master your emotions.  This doesn’t mean not feeling your emotions, but rather recognizing them and choosing not to act on them.  Easier said than done I know, especially in the heat of the moment, but with some introspection, it can be done.

The final question that remains is there ever a time that you should pursue.  The answer is of course, but again it is dependent on the situation and the people you’re interacting with.  This will take some trial and error to learn when to push and when to pull, but adding this skill to your tool set will prove to be invaluable.

The most valuable reasons for baiting others to come to you means you’re expending less time, resources, and energy than they are and you are the one setting the trap, not them.

Until next time, gentlemen.

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Author: Jak

Jak, married and father of three, seeks to help the Red-Pill Community take its next step past the petty cynicism and ineffectual anger. While he recognizes that men are significantly handicapped by the modern legal system and culture, he doesn't accept that traditional marriage is untenable in today's social climate. Rather, men must be willing to adapt to this new world by implementing new tactics and approaches to maintaining a balance of power. Jak is here to provide you with these lessons.

64 thoughts on “The 48 Laws of Marriage: Law 8”

  1. I’ve always told things in a vague way just because it’s either
    A- none of their business
    B- I just like making nosy people wonder what I’m up to.

        1. Glad to hear it. I’m willing to bet that being properly dressed was a significant part of that, lol.

        2. If it turned out great I assume you did not black out drunk while cooking it. I’ve made that mistake on a couple of unfortunate occasions. Not good.

      1. It’s all psychological. You yell barracuda, everybody says, “Huh? What?” You yell shark, we’ve got a panic on our hands on the Fourth of July.

    1. “…or else you might catch something you might not want to catch…”

      Jeez, a guy could take that in a couple of different ways…

  2. Is this like the 48 laws of power? But instead you’re using the word marriage? And where are you coming up with these manipulative tactics? Are you just pulling these out of your ass because you think they will work? Or have you done research and these are study backed published reports? Show some cited materials, otherwise it’s just 1 guys guess at holding together a marriage based on opinion.

    Would be hilarious if your advice actually ends marriages in divorce instead of saving them 😂

        1. That’s not trolling. That’s just being a lazy cunt. All he/she/it would have to do is go back and read the first couple articles in the series to understand it.

          1. Nothing wrong with being a lazy cunt. It’s a more eco friendly, environmentally friendly way of being lazy.
            Efficiently lazy.

          2. I was only talking about the fag part. Based on his/her/its previous posts, reading (at least with comprehension) is not one of its strengths. But I’ll bet he/she/it is a skilled skin flute player and can toss a mean salad.

            1. I have to agree with Thales .. calling someone a fag is the Trump card to end all arguments . Use it sparingly .

      1. Thales, I appreciate your feedback. But just because you don’t like my comment doesn’t mean it holds no merit. Conflicting opinions are still opinions. Don’t be a little cry baby because I say things which make you wince or realize some insight.

        Don’t take it to personally, unless it hits home, then yes, take it personally.
        Also, blow me.

            1. Oh, I get it now…. yeah, see, these rules are for heterosexual marriages. I guess other rules probably apply to gay fag marriages like yours, but I wouldn’t really know.

    1. Yes, much better than the alternate timeline we avoided. Wait a moment while I find some pictures of what that would have looked like…

                    1. There’s no way out of being gay. Once you put a penis in your mouth, you are gay for life. Fag.

    2. Over a year ago, I was on an inbound flight to Frankfurt next to chick who looked similiar. We made conversation and she told me she was from Slovenia…just like DT’s wife. Until that point, I didn’t know where Don’s wife was from.

    1. The reason Norman was psycho goes back to his formal upbringing. When they were out and met new people his father would introduce the family this way: “I am Mr. Bates, this is my, wife Mrs. Bates and our son, Master Bates…”

      1. And let’s not forget he was an avid fisherman with exceptional knowledge into what kind of baits attracted which fish. One could say he was a….Master Baiter.

      2. He’s a fag and a killer . What a terrible terrible combination for the modern world . You can’t prosecute him because he’s an oppressed minority, can’t kill him because he’s an expert , or rape him because he’d enjoy that .

  3. “It’s an odd quirk in human biology, but emotional outbursts drain men while only energizing women.”

    Great observation.

  4. Good point about the heated arguement. If I escalate all kinds of wierd, and observably untrue, shit falls out of her mouth. It took awhile but I learned they thrive off the created drama. The more the heat, the cooler you become. Eventually I just walk away with her in mid rant and leave the room.

    They are really just children in the end.

  5. All this AIDS discussion made me watch some technical YouTube videos about hiv transmission . Most medical experts state that hiv transmitted via browntown is a highly violent act which causes blood vessels to burst and the colon walls to be ruptured .. some men gladly got pounded hundreds of times per day by multiple partners . That takes some thick skin to endure that !

  6. Wow, poor girl.
    Taft was a 300lber.
    She must have gotten the tar whomped out of her while doing her first lady duties.

    1. Ugh, a mediocre bland chick with a fucked up nose. Do a search on images of her. WNB. Given as Taft himself was a big motherfucker like you pointed out and I’m betting this girl led a very, very lonely life. One does have to make some allowances for the time period of course.

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