The 12 Levels of Dread: Levels 7-12

Today we’re going to close out the 12 Levels of Dread series and cover the last 6 levels of Dread Game.  If you haven’t read the previous installments, you can click here to start from the beginning in order to get caught up with what is Dread Game and the levels leading up to here and now.

Now there’s a big reason why I’m going to condense these last 6 Levels into one article and also try to extract the essence of these levels in order to provide some additional value for those who are following these guidelines in order to help bring balance and harmony back to your marriage.

A Quick Recap

Before we get started, let’s review what we have discussed thus far.

Dread Game’s key tactic is focusing on significant self-improvement in order to show your wife that you’re a man of status.  The goal of this is to tap into her subconscious where her desires for obtaining a high quality mate lies and direct those passions towards you.

By doing things such as learning to pass her shit tests, getting in shape, learning new skills and concepts, picking up new hobbies that don’t include her, teaching your wife to respect you if she wants your attention, improving your style, and gaming your wife, you are showing her that YOU are the catch and that she needs to up her game.

These tactics all tie in well to my last article of attracting people to you instead of constantly chasing after others.  By doing so, you’re pulling your wife into your frame as opposed to staying in hers.

The reason this is called Dread Game is likely two-fold:

  1. It’s causes a feeling of anxiety in your wife that you might find someone better.
  2. It sounds edgy and catchy.

Personally, I don’t care what it’s called and it could very well be called something more benign if you don’t like thinking of “dreading” your wife.  I myself fall into this category as I don’t believe keeping your wife in a constant state of negative feelings like dread of losing you is conducive towards a harmonious marriage, but the title of this series was labeled the 12 Levels of Dread so that’s what we’re going to stick with for this series.

Levels 7-12

Now here’s where I really take issue with this 12 step program.  Whereas the first six levels is centered around self-improvement and reconnecting with your wife, the last six levels begins taking on a darker tone – namely varying degrees of infidelity.  Just so you know exactly what I’m talking about, I’m going to list out levels 7 through 12 real quick.

  • Level 7: Begin approaching and flirting with other women.
  • Level 8: Flirt with other women, like the waitress at your favorite restaurant, in front of your wife.
  • Level 9: Speak plainly with your wife about your needs – This one is pretty self-explanatory and is actually one I agree with.
  • Level 10: Issues ultimatums to your wife – I’m kind of iffy on this one and should be used as a last resort.  Chances are you are already heading towards a divorce if you are this far along.
  • Level 11: Get a plate on the side.
  • Level 12: Nuke her from orbit.  Tell her you got a plate on the side and you don’t care if she stays or goes.

As you can imagine, Levels 7, 8, 10, 11, and 12 are not ideal for a healthy and happy marriage.  If you’ve gotten up around to levels 7 or 8 -and especially level 11 and 12- you might as well call it quits and sign the papers for divorce since the marriage will likely be on the decline if your wife no longer feels like you are being loyal.

The key problem with the last half of the 12 Levels of Dread is that they’re not bringing you and your wife closer together, but rather they’re creating walls between you two.

The Essence of Levels 7-12

So what value can we glean from these last six levels if we’re not going to put them into practice?

I believe the takeaway for this last half of the 12 Levels of Dread can be summarized with the 2 C’s:

  1. Charisma
  2. Confidence

In the original 12 Levels of Dread, you would be practicing both by learning to seduce other women as well as strongly asserting yourself to your wife.  As we’re aiming to preserve marriages, however, this approach doesn’t jive very well with our own values so we can’t really recommend it.  If the first six levels of Dread Game, in conjunction with our Love & Respect series, isn’t working, then you may just need to cut your losses.

So how can you build your charisma and confidence?  Well confidence has been covered ad nauseum with the red pill community, but the basics include inserting yourselves in uncomfortable situations and forcing yourself to adapt, being more assertive and learning to speak up when you’d normally stay quiet, and building a better self-image.

Charisma is a trickier subject to cover, but a few beginner steps is to learn the art of storytelling and public speaking.  It’s hard to resist a good story and people, including your wife, will be drawn to an enthralling story or joke.  Contrary to popular belief, charisma can be learned with some diligent study and practice.


As I alluded to earlier, if you’re not seeing results after a year of consistent improvement utilizing Levels 1-6 of the 12 Levels of Dread and employing the Love & Respect lessons, you probably have some hard choices to make in your near future.

Sadly, feminism has polluted many modern relationships and made some women nearly impossible to achieve a harmonious relationship with.

That being said, couples who have good intentions and truly want to make their marriages work can overcome clashing egos and personal values to bring balance back to their marriages.  Even in the most dire circumstances, there is light at the end of the tunnel if both spouses have a desire to make it work, even if that desire is but a small, weak flame.

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Author: Jak

Jak, married and father of three, seeks to help the Red-Pill Community take its next step past the petty cynicism and ineffectual anger. While he recognizes that men are significantly handicapped by the modern legal system and culture, he doesn't accept that traditional marriage is untenable in today's social climate. Rather, men must be willing to adapt to this new world by implementing new tactics and approaches to maintaining a balance of power. Jak is here to provide you with these lessons.