Our Toolbox

As men, we have a limited number of tools at our disposal to prevent the further decay of society. These tools have varying degrees of usefulness and negative repercussions. We can be an example, we can raise awareness, we can use some legal means, we use force, we can….etc. One tool that has been neglected for some time is ostracism.

Historical Context

John Adams, the second President of the Untied States, had a son named Charles who was considered of low character. Although a graduate of Harvard University and clerk for a New York Lawyer, he was a drunk, had a low sense of morality, and was irresponsible. His father disowned him and he died of cirrhosis of the liver November 30, 1800, some 30 years prior to his father’s passing.

In 2008, a HBO miniseries depicted this story in a negative light towards John Adams, as abandoning poor Charles in the pursuit of a political career. While we may never know the full context of what happened there, we do have some insight.

Ostracism Today

In our society today, inclusion is the order of the day. No matter what misdeeds are done, we are to love those around us. Europe is descending into chaos as a result of politicians encouraging this social experiment of replacing their low birth rate with hordes of violent immigrants. If you as a man, present conservative values, you are instantly labeled as a sexist/racist/homophobe.

Liberals are hypocritically doing all they can to fight against exclusiveness, while being exclusive in the media, schools, and in daycare facilities. Men, especially conservative men need not apply. In the course of divorce, some 85% of women have primary custody. Although ostracism is supposed to be a thing of the past, it is alive and well in the arena of ideas (I include child rearing).

Where Exclusivity Can’t Be Used

There are legal ramifications to hiring and firing because of race/gender/political persuasion (excluding the NBA, strip clubs, and the liberal arena of ideas). Employers have the state monitoring them closely on who they choose to go into business with (God forbid a company is able to use their own money as they see fit.) Also, in situations regarding the law, discrimination against anyone other than the white male is prohibited. Do so at your own risk

Where Exclusivity May Be Used

Numerous families have children who are bad eggs. As in the John Adams example, ostracizing a family member may have implications that cause more harm than good. Use prayerful consideration.

My uncle has/had a son whom they adopted at seven years of age. This kid had numerous problems including but not limited to, physical abuse, sexual abuse, and drug addiction. For years, they struggled to change this kid for the better. On numerous occasions, the kid got into serious trouble and was in and out of jail. While in his 20’s, and addicted to meth, he broke into my uncle’s house and stole thousands of dollars. Since then, my uncle has had to pretty much disown his son. For his own protection, they changed the locks. Since then, the kid has been in and out of prison for numerous things.

If you think love will change them, by all means, love them. But there comes a point where you need to cut them off. It will probably cause harm your kid, but your example may get others to think before doing irreparable damage to themselves.

Prior to the sexual revolution, if a daughter got pregnant, they would often go to live with a family member, have the baby and give it up for adoption. As tough as that is, far fewer single mothers was the result, the young mother still had an opportunity to improve her life, and the baby would go to a stable household.

Where Exclusivity Should Be Used

There are numerous organizations that have been inundated with women/gays over the years. The Boy Scouts is the latest in a string of encroaching leftist idealism. Fraternal organizations such as the Order of the Eagles, Moose Lodge, Bowling Leagues and the like have been infiltrated and have consequently been losing numbers. What guy would want to go to an organized meeting, only to be browbeaten by the type of women who want to insert themselves into men’s organizations? If you happen to find an exclusively male organization left, support them, and make your opinion known. Keep the women out, and maintain your sanity. NO MA’AM may be worth looking into, perhaps set up a local chapter?

Certain websites such as this and others should also stay predominantly male. A woman or two are inconsequential, but with large enough numbers, they want to change things. They have done it with sports, organizations, and other places.


Two years ago, our Church Priesthood Quorum (Adult Men) decided to have a softball game/hamburger feed. It went great, and it was talked about for awhile. Last year, the Quorum President decided to talk to the women’s group and invite them for a hamburger feed. This time, guys acted much more reserved, and ended up pretty much cooking while the women and children ate. Not nearly as fun. This year, I got called as Quorum President, and I think we are going to keep the women out and do another game, only competing against a neighboring church.

Where Ostracism Shall Be Used

Divorce is a plague. It destroys children’s lives. Women (and men) need to understand that such behavior is not to be tolerated. Since the courts will not punish, or even reward single mothers for destroying families, we need to be willing to stand up and show disapproval of such behavior. A car thief is imprisoned and shunned by society, yet an individual who destroys lives is supported by the welfare state, ex husbands under court order, and white knights. This needs to stop. Where a car thief costs a person maybe 10-20k, a single mother costs society up to a million or more over her lifetime. The resulting loser children will do the same. Stay away from these criminals.


In the mid 1800’s, Nathaniel Hawthorne, a socialist, wrote “The Scarlet Letter”, in an effort to take away the private enforcement of morality and hand that to the state.

 If men were angels, no government would be necessary. If angels were to govern men, neither external nor internal controls on government would be necessary.

– James Madison Federalist Paper #51

Since the founding of our nation, socialists in whatever form have been corrupting the people in order to justify stronger government power. As we go further down the road of corruption, the stranglehold of government becomes increasingly tighter. May we use the power we have as a people to govern ourselves so we don’t have a tyranny do it for us.


Author: Jim Johnson

As a man in his early 40's, I grew up on a dairy farm in an irreligious home. Disgusted with the choice of women out there, I looked into religion to find a worthwhile mate. At 23, I joined the LDS (Mormon) faith, married, became a civil engineer, and now have six children. My favorite things are puppies, long walks on the beach, and the color blue (not really).