Ah January, a time when everyone is on their A game right?   Everyone is committed to getting fit/eating better, quitting smoking/drinking, saving more money, etc.  All of these are great but they typically don’t last very long.  The problem with new years resolutions is that they’re almost always destined to fail.  Today, I’ll go over why resolutions typically fail and what you can do to create real change in your life this year

The Problem

Sure after the gluttonous holidays everyone is ready to just get “back on track” again after New Years Eve.  While not impossible, the average person is usually back to their old ways by around January 15th.  I’ve always found that this is because of how we structure our resolutions.

Everyone likes to think that they can do whatever they want because once the ball drops in NYC, they’ve had their fun and its time to get serious about what change they want to implement into their lives. I find a huge flaw in this way of thinking.

Change, despite scenario (health, finance, etc)  needs to come from internal desire/determination, not external events like the calendar changing.   If you want to get fit, you have to be the one that says enough is enough and you’re committed to eating clean and working out.  Until you’re 100% on board with yourself, no change in your life is going to stick.  Typically when you aren’t the one manually initiating changes in your life, you’ll always view them as negative, difficult, or beyond your reach.

Then what do we do to get ourselves on the path to success in 2018?  How can we give ourselves the best odds?

How to Make It

Mind set:  This is the first point for a reason.  Any self doubt or negativity almost ensure failure.  If you go into a goal without the correct mind set, you aren’t really committed to it in the first place.  One way to overcome this is to look at the goal differently. One thing to do is to break down a large goal into smaller goals.    Instead of saying “I want to bench double what I do in a year”  say something like “I want to up my bench by 10% this month.” A second point here is to make sure your goals are realistic.  You cant wake up tomorrow and say “I want to compete in a pro powerlifting competition by next wednesday”  You have to make sure your goals are attainable.  The same guy who says “I want to pack on 10 lbs of muscle this year”  is more realistic.

Discipline:  I think discipline should be taught in schools.   It is so fundamental towards being a successful guy.  Don’t confuse this with motivation as most people do today.  You don’t need motivation to do something, you need the discipline to stick to a decision you’ve already made.  Take fitness for example, if you are motivated to change the way your body looks, you need the discipline to continue to hit the weights day in and day out, even if it doesn’t go the way you planned.

Failure:  People are too afraid of failing these days, but when you fail, it sets a new benchmark.  You get back up, dust your boots off, and try again.  When you meet that failure again, you’ll remember the last time and you’ll avoid the mistakes made in the previous attempt.

Reminders: Why you’re doing something can slip away from you if you forget why you initiated change in your life to begin with.  Reminders are good, easy, free ways you can make sure you’re focusing on the mission at hand.  If you’re too tired to go to the gym, remind yourself you’ve made a commitment to yourself, and you wont be throwing away all the time you have been killing it thus far.  If you’re trying to stack up cash, remind yourself that foolish expenditures are not something you’re doing anymore, and put that card back in your wallet.  Obviously, if you need  something buy it, but I’ve found that I can cut out many things I’ve been spending way too much money on, and my savings account reflects this.


When starting a new year, people like to set goals for themselves, often they fail within the first weeks of January.  Use the skills above to try to maintain your path to being the best you can be.


-J. Nyx

Author: Jnyx

J. Nyx is a father of three and co-owner of He understands that there is something missing in the community and that you can be a traditional, masculine man in our current age as well as a dedicated leader of your family.