Perseverance should be looked upon as a virtue. The ability to stick with it even though every part of your being wants to quit is something we should all have felt in some point in life. When you push through something that is difficult it is your true chance to realize that you’re alive. Being in the moment is necessary to get through it I’ve found that these are the times that build you.
“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment” -Buddhist Proverb
I got thinking about how dealing with a struggle makes you feel the most alive. Not in the sense you feel alive when doing something fun, but in the sense that you truly look inward, somewhere to find some bit of strength to get through whatever it is you’re dealing with.
I’ve been stuck on an incredibly difficult project for the last 4 months at work. Things started to get delayed, there were a bunch of unforeseen issues that came up and there were a few times I wanted to pull what hair I have left out. I remained calm though, knowing I had to just nut up and get this done.
Finally last Friday it all came to an end. Everything got taken care of and I can move on, but now that its over I realize that during that time I learned and grew as a man.
Living in the Now
This is important in all aspects of your life. Obviously things like planning for your kids future or retirement are good things, but what I mean is don’t worry about shit that may happen. So many people are deathly afraid of change or some abrupt problem that they drive themselves crazy worrying about it. Deal with what you have to do, and plan for the best, but if things get fucked up, its all good, you’ll get past it.
On the other end of the spectrum, we have people who dwell in the past too much. They relive their glory days in their head while they piss their time away. These people are typically have negative points of view because they think things suck now. An accomplishment is great, but what people fail to realize is that when you accomplish something, it raises the baseline that you have to then push past again.
The Right Time to Quit
I’ll note here that there is a time when you must accept defeat. If it comes down to not possessing the correct skills or you don’t have enough time to fully dedicate toward what you’re doing, you should stop. Completing one task 100% is better than getting 10 tasks 10% done. Sometimes you have to swallow your pride and let go. I’ve found in these situations, everyone benefits because the person isn’t stressed to do something they don’t know how to, and the people who need things done can find someone capable to handle it.
Having the balls and determination to keep at your goals and obligations is one of the ways you will grow as a man. Your dedication will go a long way and you’ll fully get to know yourself and your abilities. Truly analyze how you reacted and felt when things were going crazy and you can use your past experiences to help you today. Remember, there are times when calling it quits is an option, and that is when the mission has a small to zero percent chance of getting completed.