3 More Basic Rules of Sparring


Last week I posted an article on some of the fundamentals of sparring.  While these basic rules were primarily geared towards sparring, and to a lesser extent self-defense, some of my followers on Twitter saw real-life lessons outside of martial arts that these rules applied to.

Due to the warm reception to that article (and the fact that I can talk about martial arts ad nauseam), I decided to compile another short list of basic sparring rules. 

While these rules aren’t part of the official, original set, they are still some valuable rules that I’ve picked up during my martial arts journey and have served me well.  These rules are going to focus on the abundance mindset…with a martial arts twist of course.  Let’s begin.

Rule#1 – It Is Better To Give Than Receive

We martial artists are generous people.  We’re always ready to help others learn or lead groups.  The same can be said for sparring.  We love being generous with our kicks and punches.

You kick us once, thanks!  Here’s two kicks in return!

Giving more than you take provides a few benefits during a sparring session.  If you’re executing the lion’s share of the attacks, then your opponent must waste precious time defending against your attacks instead of mounting an offensive of his own.  In the red pill world, it’s akin to pulling them into your frame.

Rule#2 – Don’t Turn Down a Free Gift

For a brief stint, I competed in Taekwondo Point Sparring which is essentially a game of tag.  I didn’t enjoy this style of sparring as much as the full-contact format of Olympic Style Sparring, but it did provide me with the valuable lesson of not turning down a free gift.

Whenever your opponent makes a mistake and leaves themselves open, they’re giving you a gift, a wide opening with a “Hit Me!” sign and lots of arrows pointing towards the exposed striking point.

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It would be incredibly rude of you not to take that free gift, would it not?  Accept the gifts they give you with a smile.

Rule#3 – When In Doubt, Give, Then Give Some More

Finally, we make it to Rule#3.  This rule seems pretty simple on the surface, but it’s easy for stress to send you into a case of analysis paralysis.  New students often fret over what technique they should do during a sparring session and wind up doing nearly nothing.

The same can be true for advanced students when the pressure is on.  During my early black belt years when I was still competing, I often suffered this problem, scrutinizing my every move only to end up doing nearly nothing during a sparring match.

When in doubt, do something, anything, then do something else.  The mere act of moving, breaks both your physical and mental inertia and allows subsequent techniques to flow easier.

So give.  Give some more.  Give early and give often.  Like I said, we martial artists are generous people.


Author: Jak

Jak, married and father of three, seeks to help the Red-Pill Community take its next step past the petty cynicism and ineffectual anger. While he recognizes that men are significantly handicapped by the modern legal system and culture, he doesn't accept that traditional marriage is untenable in today's social climate. Rather, men must be willing to adapt to this new world by implementing new tactics and approaches to maintaining a balance of power. Jak is here to provide you with these lessons.