Are You a Good Man or Good at Being a Man?

I recently read through a conversation some men were having on Twitter about fatherhood and masculinity in general when the topic of being a good man versus being good at being a man came up.  I forget who all was involved in the conversation so I apologize for not crediting the men who provided me with this idea.

This comparison highlights an underlying issue I see within the Red Pill community and is rarely addressed.

Look through any Red Pill site and you will find dozens, if not hundreds of articles centered around self-improvement, fitness, money, game, style, but rarely anything deeper.

Why is that?

It might be due to the fact that talking about self-improvement is easier, less risky.  It also may be because the sites are trying to accommodate men from all walks of life and beliefs.  Or it might just be that their end goals are indeed just superficial ones (no offense intended towards our resident nihilists).

If that’s what you care about, cool, but it’s been both my experience and my observations that men need more than just some superficial accomplishments.  They need to build something that will last long after they’re gone.

Are you a good man or are you simply good at being a man?

There’s something to be said for a successful man who is in shape, doesn’t prioritize women, and dresses well, but what lies beyond the surface?  What are that man’s values, morals, and convictions?

I’ve said it before, but it bears repeating: Take time for some serious introspection.  What do you want beyond money and six-pack abs?

Do you want a family?  Do you want sons and daughters who love you and strive to match the example you set?  Do you want a wife who both respects and admires you?

Most people don’t believe in pure nihilism.  When their backs are against the wall or their time is up, they realize that they’ve missed out on creating some of the most meaningful relationships possible or doing things that nourish their souls rather than their egos.

This article is going to be on the shorter side as it’s more of a call to action than me sitting here explaining how to do something.  Take some time to meditate on your life; where you’ve been and where you’re heading if you stay on the present course.  Do you like what you see?  If not, make some course corrections, but to do that you must first know where it is you want to go.

Author: Jak

Jak, married and father of three, seeks to help the Red-Pill Community take its next step past the petty cynicism and ineffectual anger. While he recognizes that men are significantly handicapped by the modern legal system and culture, he doesn't accept that traditional marriage is untenable in today's social climate. Rather, men must be willing to adapt to this new world by implementing new tactics and approaches to maintaining a balance of power. Jak is here to provide you with these lessons.