Draining The Swamp

Relax, AKC hasn’t gone down the political route, and we never will.  I borrowed that term because it occurred to me this weekend that as I get older, friends you can’t relate to anymore tend to fade away.  Not only that, but I’m a firm believer of surrounding yourself with people who will motivate you instead of bring you down. Today I’ll go over my experience on this matter and what I did in my owin life.


I have a friend that I’ve known since grade school.  He was a quiet nerd type and I was and still am pretty extroverted, but somehow we ended up as buddies all through school.  Hes a bachelor as of right now, and as you know the House of Nyx is ever growing.  We’re both just entering our 30s now and he came to me with a question.

“Why do I keep ending up with these psycho women. ”

I thought about it and responded by saying “Dude, the women our age are hitting the wall, the (few) good ones got picked off early, and now you’re left with the ones who royally fucked their life up, OR were way too fucking crazy to begin with.

He goes on to say “Yeah but anyone that would look good and be a good person (again few and far between but there) are gold digging bitches’

While I agree the dating pool these days looks more like something you’d see at Seaworld, I think a guy can find wife material.  You have to be smart and on your A game but it can happen.  Then I considered what my friend had to offer.  Hes single now, but I know he wants a family like mine some day. What could it be? Then it hit me, he doesn’t possess any traits a guy who runs a family (the correct way) has.

No real skills, an okay job, doesn’t drive, quiet and reserved, seeming to lack confidence, in all real definitions a beta male.

I didn’t know how else to break it to him, so I just told him what I said above.  I could see it hurt, but the theory is 100% correct 100% of the time. I think he eventually appreciated it though.

My Takeaway

I thought more on it and realized I had the same conversation with the guy 4 years ago.  I can’t stand someone who says they want something and arent 100% willing to go after it.  You want success?  You want fame? A good body?  Anything, you gotta fucking work for it.

This guy has been hanging around hoping for opportunity to just show up, then bitches about it not happening for him.

I am at the age and point in my life that this guy is  my friend, but we really don’t have anything in common anymore.   All the people I emulate and try to take inspiration from have said that they eliminated people from their lives that didn’t bring it any value.  They eliminated people that brought them down, were negative or of no use.

I guess its just that point for me.  I’m moving on, leveling up and in this competition of life, people are gonna lose and get left behind.  I’ll always be a friend to this dude, but when we hang out there isn’t much to even talk about.  To be honest, the constant bitching is outputting to me.

If you have people in your life that are holding you back, and say what you will, if you hang with losers, you’ll become one, cut the cord and move on.  Everyone will benefit.

-J. Nyx

Author: Jnyx

Fitness addict, DIY guru, tech nerd, member of Memesters Local 419.