There has been a tendency, often in traditional masculine belief systems like Vedanta (one significant facet of “Hinduism”), Taoism, Plato and Aristotle’s philosophy and Christianity, to categorize men and women into different and distinct elements.
Both in Pagan and Abrahamic thought, the man tends to be associated with the sky or heaven (Zeus, Jesus), the sun (Helios, Apollo) or at least does have a northern origin (Hyperborea), while goddesses (Gaia, Kali and others) are mainly associated with the living matter, or specifically the earth itself. Man is like a solid form, while the woman is the fleeting and temporary matter. In Hinduism the male principle is referred to as purusha, while the female is called prakriti. The Taoist equivalents are yang and yin.
Like one of the most prolific “feminist” writers of the last decades, Camille Paglia, emphasizes in her major work Sexual Personae (1991), the man is linked with the Appollonian principle, who aims for to become excellent (at least some of them) and identifies with his process of becoming. He is obsessive in his pursuit, but often in a beneficial and benevolent way.
The woman, on the other hand, is mainly connected to the Dionysian dimension. In the sexual act, the Apollonian and the Dionysian merge. With his sexual gaze, the male encompasses a desire for the female figure, he “objectifies” and sculptures the more or less ideal women and tastes its flesh.
According to Paglia (who has based her thinking on men like Friedrich Nietzsche, Sigmund Freud and Marquis de Sade), women do also represent the so-called Chthonian principle. Those are the earthly or even sub-earthly forces that lurk around the corners, or bottoms, of Apollonian (male) civilization. As Paglia rightly asserts, women should be grateful for what great men of the past – both workers and inventors – have created. Without the solid forms of society, women would be left alone to be prey for their own whims or predatory males.
But there are indeed more concrete expressions of the Chthonian than mere symbols. Women menstruate (monthly), and over the span of about three decades, she looses her fertility, and turns into an infertile, menopausal and eventually old being, who mainly serves as a platonic life partner and, hopefully, grandmother.
Every month for women is a new defeat of the will. Menstruation was once called “the curse”, a reference to the expulsion from the Garden, when woman was condemned to labor pains because of Eve’s sin. (…) Menstrual blood is the stain, the birthmark of original sin…
– Camille Paglia
For the man it is of chief importance to be aware of the Chthonian principles that dwell underneath the ordered, Apollonian surface. He must be able to accept the fact that a woman has her prime years between 18-30 in terms of beauty (if she is not East Asian and/or has used some type of successful surgical enhancement, then she could push that limit into the late 40s), and also the major fertility years.
He must strike at the right time and reap the fruits from nature’s ineluctable conditions, as harsh and “unfair” they might be to some. That implies that he must not be too old himself to be a father (or grandfather, eventually), but even more importantly, that his female companion is not too seasoned.
While the major biological events are easily discernible, the monthly outbursts which stem from the Chthonian eventualities are more frequent and less “predictable”. One may argue that women are less rational than men, on average, but whatever that effect generally may be it is unhesitatingly magnified by menstruation and the typical PMS syndrome.
In this state of being, a woman’s neuroticism will be increased to the extent that you do even not want to make a joke to her, even if she generally is the type of person that can take a joke. So instead of being angry with her and possess a sort of choleric frame, it’s likely wiser to just stoically stay alert and alone, waiting for the earthly impulse to devour itself one more time. Until the next one emerges.
One may wonder have many times weak beta males have put up with all sorts of bullshit suggestions and demands during PMS week, pathetically trying to fix things for her in a feeble-minded, counterproductive fashion. It is like some men are brainwashed into ignoring the female, earthly, biological mechanisms. The first thing a beta learns is to never ask or assert if she seemingly has PMS. But if there is any conversation going on during that time of the month, that question or contention would actually signify that he understands her and is willing to act accordingly.
Thus, neither let her temporary caprices take a stronghold, nor be upset and try to fight back. Ride the wave, until it hits the rock, and the fluid cycle begins again. That is just one of life’s basic truths, and those we can never escape from.
The polar principle still says something about how men and women complement each other, and that we have to be aware of the Chthonian female forces. As counter-intuitive it may seem to contemporary feminist narrative, it’s actually a sign of mutual respect and understanding to think in terms of polar opposites and biological imperatives. Only then can we function properly and work in tandem towards shared goals.