Over the weekend, I was able to catch up with an old friend from high school. He’s not too different from myself, married with 2 kids and a full-tme job, except for one glaring difference, he’d really let himself go. Today I’ll go over why it is important to keep yourself in good shape and looking the best you can, and why it’s important to the health of your marriage and family.
The encounter above ended well because my friend agreed to come to the gym with me a few days a week, but it got me thinking overall about how a lot of guys tend to fall off the wagon after getting married. The question is, why? I know it can be different for everyone, but one common theme is complacency.
You hear of women letting themselves go after marriage or kids and while I agree that it happens, and is unacceptable, but we have to keep ourselves together as well. You’ve all seen that guy who is out with his family, fat, hair and beard a mess, sweatpants etc. It looks like shit and honestly, we’re better than that.
Obviously we have to keep ourselves fit and healthy. A pudgy or weak guy is no role model to his kids nor attractive to his wife. Once you both commit to being together, as in only having sex with one person, you owe it to them to keep yourself in the best shape you can. You can’t blame your wife for losing interest if you looked like a Chad when you met and now look like the butthurt basement dweller guy.
Even a fit guy can look bad with improper grooming. An unkempt beard or hair cut can really take away from your appearance. We’re social creatures, so things like this stand out. Even simply keeping your hair trimmed and fingernails cut says a lot. Be conscious of things like smell too. I sweat a lot, and while body odor isn’t a problem, I have to take extra care of my shoes in order to not have foot funk.
I am not, nor will I act like the authority on style. That said, I know what looks good on me. Having clothes that fit you well can change your look entirely. Nothing overly baggy or super tight. You know when things just fit you perfectly. Also, dress for the occasion. Save the tees and basketball shorts for the gym or relaxing at home. You don’t need to wear a tux to the grocery store, but you don’t want to look like a bum either.
Keeping yourself in shape, groomed, and we’ll dessed is something you have to be aware of. Letting yourself go just because you’re married or a dad is unacceptable. We as leaders need to look the part, and no one respects a fat slob. Remember, no one is going to take care of this stuff for you, so you have to do it yourself. Drop any other tips you have in the comments below.