Book Review: Hunter Drew’s “31 Days to Masculinity”

I recently finished Hunter Drew’s  Men of March campaign which is a program that brings men together to work through his book 31 Days to Masculinity.  For those of you not familiar with Hunter, he is a long standing member of the red pill community, originally helping other men improve their marriages in the MRP section of Reddit before finally creating his own site.  Above all, he encourages men to live authentic lives – be true to themselves and to those they interact with.

As his presence within the red pill community grew, Hunter saw that men needed something to help them discover their purpose.  Far too many men simply wander through life, waking up in the morning, going to work, come home to plop on the couch and ignore their family, and then wonder why their life is going no where.

To this end, he created the book 31 Days to Masculinity.

What is 31 DTM?

31 Days to Masculinity (31DTM) originally started out as a Twitter campaign in March of 2017 which he called the Men of March.  Every day, Hunter sent out an email to those who signed up listing the day’s challenges along with a short email on his own thoughts and experiences on the process.

The feedback was so great that he decided to compile the challenges into a book as well as create the Fraternity of Excellence with Craig James to help men continue on their path of growth.

For those of you familiar with Victor Pride’s 31 Days of Discipline, you will find this book has many parallels with Victor’s work, although it is taken to a whole new level.  Whereas Victor’s work simply lists 12 rules to follow, Hunter’s program has both a list of things you are to do daily as well as a specific, unique challenge for each day of the month.  Each of these challenges is designed to improve you as a man, many in ways you won’t be expecting.

The first week or two of challenges start off simply enough and are pretty run of the mill:

  • Write down long and short term goals
  • Begin cleaning up your wardrobe and hygiene habits
  • Track where you money and time are being spent

However, once you hit a certain point, the challenges are going to turn more inward and force you to face your inner demons that you likely ignore or avoid.  The challenges will begin to force you to take a hard look at your life and address the shortcomings you have, whether it be as a man, worker, husband, or father.

Once this phase of challenges begins, the number of people who drop out of the course begins to climb.  Facing these nasty truths about yourself is often painful and most men do not want to be confronted with the fact that they aren’t living up to a high standard.

But that’s exactly the point of it all.  The challenges intentionally designed to open up those old scars so that the bad blood may be purged and you may begin to heal from old demons and grudges that you had been clinging onto for months or years.

My Experience

I will start by shamefully admitting I did not complete 100% of the course.  The last week and a half of the challenge, I was battling either a nasty flu or a sinus infection so some of the reoccurring challenges, like the daily pushups, went undone.  That being said, I strived to finish as many of the unique daily challenges as possible and as a result, gleaned many insights about my priorities, shortcomings, and weaknesses.

In many instances, it was not pleasant looking upon the truths I uncovered, but in doing so, I gained the resolve to tackle those issues and to improve upon my own shortcomings.

I also learned how quickly my body can adapt to new stimuli, specifically the daily pushups.  For the first week, the pushups were rough.  I was sore, my muscles were fatigued, and I wasn’t sure if I was going to be able to keep this up for a full month.

After a week, however, it was like a switch flipped and my muscles got with the program.  The pushups became easier and I began recovering a lot faster from each set.  I found my energy levels began to skyrocket as my body composition vastly improved.  For some time, I was actually doing more than the required number of pushups each day.

Conclusion

First and foremost, I would suggest that EVERY father and husband purchase a copy of 31 Days to Masculinity.  Hunter Drew is a family man himself and his focus revolves primarily around helping men who are married.

That being said, even single men would greatly benefit from his book as the challenges will help them determine what course they wish to set their life on.  During the Men of March 2018, there were men from all walks off life.  Many of us were married with kids, some were single, some yet were still in high school, but all were able to come together to grow and learn.

I give 31 Days to Masculinity a solid 5 stars and would highly recommend it to any man out there.

 

Author: Jak

Jak, married and father of three, seeks to help the Red-Pill Community take its next step past the petty cynicism and ineffectual anger. While he recognizes that men are significantly handicapped by the modern legal system and culture, he doesn't accept that traditional marriage is untenable in today's social climate. Rather, men must be willing to adapt to this new world by implementing new tactics and approaches to maintaining a balance of power. Jak is here to provide you with these lessons.