The Fear of…Success?

Hello men.  Got a random musing for today.  Feel free to interject your own thoughts or tell me where I’m wrong.

The Red Pill community often talks about finances and becoming entrepreneurs, but what percentage of men in this community are actually out there creating their own businesses?

How many men in our community, or in the general population for that matter, doing something great with their lives?  I would hazard a guess and say far fewer than the number simply grinding away at their 9 to 5 until retirement. 

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not ragging on the cubicle dwellers out there – I’m one of them – but many of them have resigned themselves to this fate and won’t try for anything more.

Sure, many are scared of failing, but many are also scared of succeeding.

“That’s silly!” I hear many of you exclaim.  After all, who in their right mind would be afraid of going out and successfully accomplishing something?  Simply put, those who have either experienced success in the past and know its implications or those with the foresight to see past the initial glamor and see the grit behind it.

“You want to get your fear behind you, right?  You wanna get it behind you where it’s pushing you forward instead of in front of you where it’s stopping you.”

-Jordan Peterson

You see, when success lies in front of you, it’s a hurdle to overcome – a mountain to climb.  Once you reach the top, you may use that success to build momentum and ski down the other side of the mountain.  As you accumulate more successes, the faster you will go.  Trees, rocks, and other obstacles will get in your way and threaten to take you down.  The faster you’re going, the more dangerous those obstacles become.  In the meantime, spectators gather to watch you race down the mountain.  Some are there cheering you on.  Others are there to watch your eventual wipe out.

This metaphor describes why so many people fear success.  There’s so many things that can go wrong.  There’s always people waiting in the wings just waiting for you to crash and burn.  Likewise, there’s the pressure of those, neutral or supportive, watching you.  They see any success you’ve accomplished, no matter how small, and will ask you “So what are you going to do next?”

It’s a never ending demand placed on the successful: What are you going to do next?

That simple question is what drives most away from attempting anything big.  It’s an enormous pressure.  What they fail to realize is this stress to continue to achieve can be dissolved at any time.  Use the pressure as a fuel until you’ve reached a state of accomplishment you’re content with.  Afterwards simply wash your hands of it.  When you’re asked “What’s next?” you can simply reply “Nothing.” because at the end of the day, you’re climbing that mountain for yourself, not for the spectators gathering down at the base.

Author: Jak

Jak, married and father of three, seeks to help the Red-Pill Community take its next step past the petty cynicism and ineffectual anger. While he recognizes that men are significantly handicapped by the modern legal system and culture, he doesn't accept that traditional marriage is untenable in today's social climate. Rather, men must be willing to adapt to this new world by implementing new tactics and approaches to maintaining a balance of power. Jak is here to provide you with these lessons.