A New Direction

With Way of the Warlord over, it frees up my Friday post.  I like the open thread idea but I’ll be using this day for any number of articles. Book reviews, product reviews, insights on topics, really anything.  Today we’ll open the floor to the topic of raising sons, as I have something from my life that I wanted to share.

As you all know I have 2 sons.  One is 2 and one is 10.  Their gap in age is obviously pretty significant.  They get along very well despite this.  My older boy is always willing to help out with his younger brother and my youngest loves hanging out with him.  The older boy like to teach my younger boy how to do things and doesn’t even get upset when he screws it up.

Im writing all of this because I feel directly responsible for this.  I showed and am still showing my boys how to grow up into functional men,  but I’m already seeing it play out in front of me.  My ten year old is very logical, intelligent but also athletic and a clown sometimes.  Seeing him interact with his younger brother made me realize that I must be doing something right.

My older boy is changing. Hes becoming more like me everyday, but more importantly hes becoming better than I was at his age.  By this time I had already begun fucking around and not taking school seriously.  Hes getting excellent grades, plays soccer and does MMA, plays drums, and is turning into a fine young man.

I guess the point of today’s post is that while nothing is set in stone when it comes to raising children, the signs are there as to what type of personality they will have as adults, far before you even realize it.  I have been picking up on things more, and if I see something I don’t like, he knows it.

I also think a fine point to bring up is that there is no coddling or excuses in my house.  I’m not a huge dick to my family trying to assert my “alpha” dominance over them, but there are rules and consequences for not following them.

Maybe those of you with grown kids can weigh in on my findings or even offer some advice.  I think I’m doing a damn good job but there is always room for improvement.

-J. Nyx

Author: Jnyx

J. Nyx is a father of three and co-owner of akingscastle.com. He understands that there is something missing in the community and that you can be a traditional, masculine man in our current age as well as a dedicated leader of your family.