Anonymous Conservative wrote this on a recent article that I think deserves a little more attention. An excerpt from one of his recent articles reads:
I’m increasingly thinking the human male and female brains (and by extension the human body, which is molded by steroids and hormones whose release are triggered by neuropeptides like GNRH, ACTH, and other factors produced in the brain) may be modeling themselves using very similar mechanisms.
It may be stress which leads to masculinization, both physical and mental. In K-selection, men endure the stress and embrace it to protect their monogamous mates. They probably become driven to monogamy to create an oasis of security in a dangerous world, and they embrace the stress because for those who will survive, it is just in their nature to take it on. The stress they endure, makes them more aggressive and the neuroendocrine effects of the stress trigger more testosterone releases and masculinization. Females, shielded from the stress by their K-mate, go more feminine, and become more nurturing and less aggressive because they do not receive that stress-stimulus.
But once you flood the system with dopamine, and males can flee the stress for hedonism and still survive, they will. From there, females are thrown into a stressful situation they are not fully designed for when they have to fend for themselves. That stress masculinizes their brains and their bodies through the same mechanism as it does in males, just to a lesser degree owing to the different biology produced by the chromosomal differences between men and women.
As this happens, it activates different genes at different rates, that affects epigenetics, and that causes the effects to amplify from generation to generation.
Take a few minutes to really let these implications sink in and what we’re seeing happen across Western societies. I’m going to avoid the political aspects of this discussion and focus on the biological aspects as well as how this can relate to your own marriage.
For countless generations, men have been charged with being the rock and leader of their household. Based on the quote above from AC, this wasn’t merely some mandate made to keep women under their husband’s thumbs but guidance based on our biological makeup. Back in ages past, men cut their teeth -so to speak- hunting, fighting, building, and making life and death decisions for their tribes. Women meanwhile, stayed closer to the village, looking after the children, preparing meals, and probably did a little foraging and gardening.
There’s no doubt that men bore the brunt of the stressors in hunter-gatherer societies and this has affected our very genetics to this day.
But something has shifted. Men are becoming increasingly less masculine while women are becoming the inverse. Based on the writings from AC, I would postulate that this shift really began to accelerate once women began entering the workforce in droves instead of opting to be stay at home mothers.
Again, I would like to stress that I am merely pointing out my own thoughts on the matter. I am not here to make a judgment call on politics or anything of that matter as that isn’t what AKC is about. Think of this post as a clinical study or thought experiment only.
Assuming AC’s speculation is true, men who want a feminine, nurturing wife must understand the situations in which such a woman will be allowed to manifest:
A safe, stable environment where the large stressors and risks are handled by the husband.
What does this mean to you men? Nothing we haven’t said here before…
You’ve got to own your shit. You must be the leader and rock of your family. When something unfortunate comes along and your wife is freaking out, you must be able to smile, give her a kiss on the forehead, and say “Don’t worry. I’ll take care of it.”
This may sound like a bum deal for you, but in doing so, you are reaping the benefits of these stressors. Just like hitting it hard at the gym stresses your muscles and causes them to grow. Tackling the stressors throughout your daily life builds up your character and resolve. It makes you a better man while allowing your wife to become a better woman.