Over the past few weeks, I’ve been hearing of a disturbing trend that only seems to be growing. Perhaps this has been going on for longer than I thought and is just now seeing the light of day on social media and radio shows, but when I heard about the first incident I was disgusted. After hearing about a second incident on the radio this morning, along with finding an article detailing a third, I had to speak up.
Read the article linked above and let that sink in. Men, husbands, are being grounded by their wives. I’m not referring to being grounded in the spiritual sense either. I’m talking full on grounded like “No video games for a week, mister!”
This is disgusting for a few reasons that we’ll dig into and sets a bad precedent that will further degrade the principles that keep a marriage strong and healthy.
So let’s break these instances down a bit and see what’s going on and why wives grounding their husbands is such a problem.
The first reason should be pretty obvious: We’re not fucking children. We’re the head of the family and as such we’re owed a certain measure of respect. Before any shrieking banshees come on here and start screaming “muh-soggy-knees,” take a moment to hear me out…
I don’t care what you think. Shut up.
Secondly, these men are putting themselves in a position where their wives feel like they deserve to be treated like children. Seems like most of this stems from video games. Now I play video games myself from time to time, but I make sure my duties as a husband and father are taken care of first. What I do with my leftover time is my business and this rule goes for every man, including the men in these stories.
My guess is that they put the video games before their duties and this is what has fostered the belief of them being immature in their wives. In these cases, they’re right to be reprimanded by their wives. Reprimanded, but not grounded. You’re a fully grown man, for fuck’s sake! Have some dignity!
Where does this leave us? Ah, yes…the third point: What their wives are doing is a classic shit test, an attempt to establish their frame over their husbands.
And it worked!
In one of these examples, the father was grounded because he swore in front of his kid while playing a video game. Not a great example to set, sure, but also not something worse losing your balls about either.
For you blue pill men out there that might stumble across this article, should your wife EVER try to make you do something demeaning, whether it’s ground you like you’re a 10 year old, make you sleep on the couch, etc., here’s what you do in four simple steps:
- Look at her like you would look at a 5 year old who tried to order you to do something.
- Tell her “No, that ain’t going to happen.”
- Carry on doing what you were doing.
It’s really that fucking simple. Why so many men are failing the most basic shit tests from their wives is truly sickening.
This problem all stems back to the husband’s inability to properly maintain frame in his relationship. Part of maintaining frame relates to how you interact with your wife, sure, but another part also involves how you handle yourself and your business. If you come home every night and plop on the couch for a long night of Netflix or Assassin’s Creed, you’re setting the frame that you’re just a large teenager and you will be treated as such.
The media loves to paint men as dopey, stupid, and immature. This puts you at a disadvantage as most women drink this shit up, even if they’re not a green-haired feminist. It feeds their ego and need to feel important.
Offer them something different to fuel them. Feed their ego and need to feel important by integrating them into a family, YOUR family. Let them thrive in the roles as wife and mother and they will in turn help you thrive in your roles as husband and father.