Losing the Loser Mindset

We’ve all heard about tactics you can use to achieve success. DGAF, fake it til you make it, etc but I’ve noticed a mindset that many men these days have adopted due to a myriad of reasons, but the outcome is always the same. Today we’ll go over what this modern loser mindset is and how you can work toward fixing it.

Most of the books I’ve read by people who are successful and achieved great things have all had one personality trait that they shared; and it was their “champion” mindset. From Arnie, to Bill Gates, one fundamental thing they all share is that the positive view of themselves, and what it was they were trying to become. I’m reading a book now by a guy named Rob MacDonald (who goes under the pen name Bobby Maximus.) Rob is a world class trainer, MMA fighter, honored policeman and trains people not only to build a better body, but also trains top CEOs and Businessmen on how to eliminate self-imposed doubts and succeed. In his book he says, despite any goal, the first thing to screw your success is self doubt:

“Self-doubt kills your performance and self-doubt begins in your mind, with your mental dialogue-so change that dialogue, and your performance will change”

Arnold said in his Encyclopedia of Modern Bodybuilding

“If you want to be a champion you can’t have any kind of outside negative coming in to affect you. “

I firmly believe they are both onto something great here. One problem I’ve noticed among most people is they do two things that spell failure from the beginning.

The Problem

1. Negative Self talk: This isn’t some “feel good about yourself” bullshit. What I mean by limiting this is if you tell yourself you’re not (strong enough, smart enough, fast enough) then you’re setting the bar, and its never going to be high enough. Telling yourself you’re going to fail prior to even trying is the epitome of the loser mentality.
2. No concise goal: This goes a bit further, but no matter what you’re trying to accomplish, go going in and winging it and expecting a positive result is going to lead to failure. Having a plan and a goal to reach needs to be realistic. To say you’re going to go from the couch to running a 5k in a day is unrealistic. To say you’re going to get up and bust your ass every day, pushing with all you have until you reach a time to qualify for a marathon is a realistic one, yet heavily relies on the mindset you have.

Think about the last time you let self-doubt or fear dictate your outcome? Did you go into something psyching your self out instead of pumping yourself up? One way I eliminate this negative outlook on things is to push out any doubt. I visualize myself achieving whatever the goal (a level of fitness, being proficient at a new skill etc) and somehow, I find a way to make it happen.

Another way to avoid this self-doubt is to give it your all. Few of us actually know what we are capable of when pushed to the absolute limit. WB had us doing a crazy amount of volume one time that left me shaking and unable to stand. I checked my app and I moved over 25000lbs, all before the sun came up. I knew then that in other areas, I had to apply myself more.

Conclusion

In the end, the key to being successful starts long before you’re actually “doing” whatever it is you’re trying to accomplish. Limiting a negative attitude and mindset are the keys to success. If you can truly master your mind, everything else will follow.

-J. Nyx

Author: Jnyx

J. Nyx is a father of three and co-owner of akingscastle.com. He understands that there is something missing in the community and that you can be a traditional, masculine man in our current age as well as a dedicated leader of your family. Fitness addict, DIY guru, and tech nerd.