“Expedience— that’s hiding all the skeletons in the closet. That’s covering the blood you just spilled with a carpet. That’s avoiding responsibility. It’s cowardly, and shallow, and wrong.”
Lately, the Fraternity of Excellence that I’m a part of has been reading through Jordan Peterson’s book The 12 Rules for Life. It can be a bit dry and tedious in some areas, but overall, it’s still a very interesting read with many good points.
One such point that has been on my mind quite a bit as of late is Rule 7 of his book, “Pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient.”
But what does this mean exactly? What qualifies as meaningful and what the hell does he mean by expedient?
Let’s start with pursuing expedience as it’s a bit easier to tackle. After we get going, you’ll find that you already know exactly what I’m talking about as these are common talking point within the red pill community.
Pursuing expedience means pursuing that which is easy, materialistic, or fleeting. Expedient things rarely bring any lasting happiness or fulfillment to your life.
I’m reminded of the old saying, “That which is worth doing is rarely easy” and it applies here. As humans, and us men especially, we are driven to conquer, to achieve. Small, easy achievements don’t fulfill us and should instead be a stepping stone towards achieving a larger goal which will.
Materialism also falls into the category of expedience, though there are some exceptions. Sure, a new car is fun, but will that really bring meaning and purpose to your life? That doesn’t mean you can’t have nice things, but rather don’t pursue those luxury items thinking it’s going to make you happy for very long.
So this brings us to defining what is meaningful, which is infinitely more tricky. The fact is, you will need to look deep inside yourself and find what fulfills you, what drives you on and gives you a sense of purpose in this life. It’s something I’ve personally gone back and forth with for quite a while and during the process, I’ve incrementally learned a little more about myself each time.
I’m going to give you three aspects to start with while trying to find what is meaningful to you. While not necessarily universal rules, they’re pretty damn close from what I’ve seen.
- Pursue accomplishments – This can be from pushing your body to its limits, starting your own corporate empire, or mastering a hobby, craft, or skill.
- Pursue relationships – I’m not talking about the PUA lifestyle where you’re constantly chasing women to sleep with them. Rather, I mean find meaningful relationships that bring value to your life.
- Pursue experiences – Make memories that you and your family will remember forever. Take them camping at the top of a mountain. Go sailing for a week. Go across the country on an adventure.
Meanwhile, the expedient man works a 9-5 job. When he gets home, he plops down on the couch and watches Netflix while stuffing his face with snacks and beer. When he’s ready for bed, he sneaks away long enough to satisfy his urges while watching porn on the internet instead of gaming his wife. He buys shit on Amazon but grows tired of it quickly.
Does the expedient man sound like someone who is happy, who is fulfilled? Is this the type of man you want to be? The choice is yours.
Now go make your bed.