Last night, my wife and I got into a conversation about the Red Pill. While she doesn’t really know the term, she complained at length about what I was like to be around the Summer of 2017. At that point, I was still going through the Red Pill Rage, and I wasn’t very pleasant. I was consistently angry at the world around me, and it did affect our relationship somewhat. At length, I attempted to explain to her why I went through that phase, using points such as divorce initiations, abuse statistics, and such, and contrasting that with what the media says about men and women.
She told me, “I remember when we went on that vacation and you got off the social media for a while and about two days into it, it was like night and day. You became a happier person again. Then you told me you were banned from that one website (ROK) I thanked the Lord”. Apparently, she had been praying about that for some time.
At this point, I have accepted those truths, and few things surprise me anymore. I have accepted the world for what it is, and am moving on with life. When I was able to step away from ROK, I was able to step away from the constant negativity and more looking into solutions.
Obviously, I can’t control the world. I don’t have a magic want to fix all of those problems. It would make the pessimist want to just throw up his hands and give up. Obviously, many have. I look at the number of guys out there who are either going MGTOW, or riding the crash, and I see a lot of despair out there. Despite my being angry at the world for a good six months in 2017, it is not my personality. I refuse to be a pessimist for long.
Several years ago, a prominent church leader gave a talk entitled “Lift Where You Stand” in which he describes a situation where a church activity was planned, and they needed to place a piano up on the stage. They struggled to figure out how to do it. With none of them being experienced mover, they tried different techniques, positioning different people at different locations, and had no success. After several attempts, one of the guys said “Everyone gather around the piano and stand close together, ok now lift”. It seemed too simple, but they did just that, and the piano rose from the ground.
When struggling with the problems of the world, I think we do the same. We try to concoct complex strategies and methods to change peoples’ minds in masse. People often seek for too much or too little influence. They either decide to protest, or run into a cave and hide. What can be most effective is to take it from the piano movers. We can stand close together and lift where you stand.
This may mean different things to different people, depending on your stage in life. For myself, projecting influence may be having a large family and being the best father possible. Maybe writing articles on occasion, or commenting in useful ways on various boards could send messages to people who have lost their way.
Earlier last night, my wife took our daughters to a Women’s Conference at Church, later on she hung out with a friend of hers (Luke’s wife) I referred to here:
She told my wife that Luke has been happier than he has been in a long time, and credits my influence on him. Personally, I don’t really see that, we just do different outdoor activities and combine our kids from time to time. There are few grown men around that are up to doing outdoor things, so I will invite him to go shooting or whatever. No big deal.
We all have our niche in life. We can be a force for good. When coming across the Red Pill, and focusing on the negative in life, it can be easy to be pessimistic about the world around us. There are things we can do in our sphere of influence however, that helps us out of that funk. I enjoy writing these articles from time to time, I enjoy mentoring the youth in our church, I enjoy developing friendships around me, and I enjoy raising a family. Knowing that I can be a force for good by “Lifting Where I Stand” is how I can find satisfaction in life.