Government School Alternatives, Part 4

As a strong proponent of homeschooling I suggest that all parents at least consider the practice, but homeschooling can have downsides as well – potentially big ones.

Because homeschooling can have downsides it is important for parents to keep their eyes open both when considering homeschooling and while continuing in it.

Finances

The most obvious downside of homeschooling is its financial impact. Supplies and activities cost money that would otherwise be covered by tax money. Most homeschooling schemes require a large commitment of time from one parent, potentially reducing income. These two considerations will work hand-in-hand to strain family income. Furthermore, a single-income household is exposed to having 100% of its income at risk of an unemployment event while a dual-income household has half the exposure.

Solution: Talk to other home-schoolers to determine average and unexpected costs. See if hand-me-down curricula are available. Verify it can be done by living on a single income before homeschooling while socking away money from the second job.

Parent-Child Relationships

Homeschooling adds a new relationship between mother and child, as well as more pressures on each. Parenting will not become easier because of it.
The teacher relationship is different from the mother relationship and the two roles can come into conflict. So also for the child, who has to switch between student and son with the same person.

Solution: ensure that explicit boundaries between school life and home life are made at the beginning and respected by both mother and child. Lines will change as the family figures things out but they must be clear.

If the child already has a difficult relationship with his mother homeschooling may serve as a source of resentment, conflict, or just too much time together. Alternatively, an overly-dependent child will find it easier to not learn independence.

The mother’s relationship with her child can see similar stresses. The additional exposure and demands may push a successful relationship into damaging territory.

Solution: know not to force a square peg into a round hole, and have backup plans in case what you are doing just doesn’t work.

Only Fish in the Pond

The traditional home-school environment can be isolating in unexpected ways. A student without a classroom peer group to measure himself against may develop an incorrect – and inflated – view of his own abilities. While overconfidence can be an asset in some situations the inevitable crush that comes with the truth will be hard to take.

Solution: Ensure your child has exposure to people and challenges he cannot easily compete with. Recognize hard work and commitment over aptitude-based results.

A child who grow up in an overprotective environment will have a lot of catching up to do when he enters the real world. The shock of transition can lead to social withdrawal or inappropriate compromise. The naif will be the recipient of ridicule and abuse, especially if male.

Solution: Be sure to expose your child to the realities of the world. Mothers will tend to overprotect – it is their nature – so ensure your child has opportunity to learn the rougher customs of the world and how to navigate them. Peer-group slang and innuendo is an important survival skill.

The tiny environment of the home school can nurture the perfectionist, who will spend too much time at his skill level when he should be pushing the edges of his abilities. This looks good in grades and science fairs but is of little value in the adult world.

Solution: Live a non-perfectionist life in full view of your child. Make sure he understands that mistakes are the stepping stones to success.

Rebellion

Most children rebel. It is an important part of becoming an adult and etching out an identity. Handled well, relationships will weather the storm and become stronger (though different) on the other side. Parents who do not have the knowledge or maturity to handle rebellion will amplify it and the damage will be greater.

The causes and solutions to rebellion are difficult topics with no universal answers. Overbearing parents and too much family time can be issues in the home-school environment.

Solution: Do not exasperate your children – there is no correct way to control a child into a healthy adult. Children need a certain amount of space to make mistakes.

Another connection between homeschooling and rebellion is exit from and entry to junior high and high school. Children pulled from school with feel the loss of their peer groups and can feel like weirdos. Children put into government schools from a home-school environment do so without a network of relationships in the new environment to draw upon and are alien to the school’s many cultures.

Solution: Homeschooling should be a voluntary choice on the child’s part if possible. Try to avoid disrupting social connections during the teenage years, when non-family social connections are deeply important.

Stress

Both parents and children can become over-stressed as homeschooling progresses. Because education takes place with family members in the physical space of the home it will tend to “grow” until stress itself provides a boundary. Mothers especially will feel stress because they can always do just a little bit better if they sacrifice just a little more.

Solution: Physical and time boundaries are essential, as are a good relationship between husband and wife. Clearly defined goals will relieve a lot of stress. There is a reason why good enough is called “good enough.” The most important lessons in life are taught by living.

In an attempt to do just a little bit better mothers may be tempted to shift goals as children approach them. Not only does this create increased work it consumes time and exasperates children.

Solution: Children need consistent boundaries. This includes educational goals. If children complete their work early let them enjoy the reward of their labor (usually free time).

Conclusion

Homeschooling and other alternatives to government school are important for any parent to investigate, but they do come with certain drawbacks and challenges. By learning those challenges ahead of time you can better build an education that works well for your family and your children.

The single best piece of advice I can give is this: don’t go alone. Find others in similar situations for comradeship and mutual support.

Author: Ransom

Ransom is the proud head of a young family. Raised by parents who remembered the old ways, Ransom is committed to passing down the lessons he learned to the next generation of hungry men both at church and online.

300 thoughts on “Government School Alternatives, Part 4”

  1. Must be different in different parts of the country. Growing up the home schooled kids seemed like some weirdos. In fact I think all of them had some weird problem.

        1. Im imagining class names that go along with Misfits songs:

          Dig Up Her Bones= Archaeology
          Bullet= Physics
          London Dungeon= Geography

          etc

            1. to be fair, getting a masters degree is only marginally harder than wiping your ass without getting shit on your hands so it isn’t really a huge requirement

      1. Well sir, since that man is black that must have been a typo. Remember they burnt down those black folks home when they went on vacation to Wallyworld?

    1. The majority of Ohio is white. I don’t get why folks don’t come here. Hit Union, or Delaware, or Madison or Marion counties (near Columbus) and it’s all white all the time.

    2. I never support the woman’s side and this case is especially egregious but being named Bri’onte i have to guess that a few years in jail was in the cards for him anyway

        1. My fav was a woman i was speaking to named La-A

          I was pronouncing it the way one might think to pronounce it until she corrected me, in a nasty way i might add, “its LADASHA…the DASH is not silent”

            1. nope, that’s real deal. woman worked for the department of buildings. I had traded emails back and forth for days on an issue. Finally it went to a call. I got schooled.

          1. There is a meth-head to the madness.

            It’s easier to be angry at the entire world than at her own mother.

            1. I prefer to believe WB was the first one in her life to get it wrong. Everyone she had ever met prior to him knew how to pronounce it without being told, and she was simply incredulous someone could be so dense.

              Also, methdashhead, but I’m unsure how to use it in a sentence.

        1. Here’s a pro-tip: When trying to undo typewritten letters, use White Out and not a pencil eraser. Just making a special note for people who do, and insist on using pencil erasers to correct mistakes. It also applies to pages from one’s printer.

          1. Okay but Im facing a dilemma on which type of scissors I use to cut checks. Should I use that big paper cutter that teachers used back in the day or some safety scissors?

            1. Scissors. I do some fine leather work and I can craft you an open carry ostrich or cobra skin inlay leather Scissor holster.

    1. You’re gonna be found dead, suicide, 3 gunshots to the back of the head if you keep this talk up

    2. I don’t know why people who make bombs leave them in mailboxes.

      It seems like the exact wrong part of the operation to get lazy.

      Like declaring war on the UK and then invading Canada.

          1. I didn’t get Napoleon DYnamite. I watched it twice and both times it might as well have been in japanese for all i knew. It isn’t even that i didn’t likeit, ijust didn’t get it

  2. In Ohio, in February, a judge forced parents of a teenage girl to give up custody so she can begin a lifetime of drug treatments and surgery that will allow her to appear as a male.

    1. Big Dan Teague, on the other hand, is not funny. He steals gimmicks, which is an infamnia

          1. I have all 1980’s sitcom theme songs stuck in my head at all times. The only think that keeps me from killing myself is to constantly think in godfather quotes

            1. No, the only thing to keep you from killing yourself is how you’re going to pass on your knowledge of how to avoid quicksand.

          1. I know your theory and it checks out but WHY do you think that it is so fucking spot on? I mean I look at pics from the 80s and shit of “hot” women and you’re 100% correct that Britney, especially that video, changed things.

            1. I do not know why. It is one of the things I am working on. As I mentioned to our other friends, now that i have solved the question of why being a faggot has an accent and why black people, despite obvious athletic ability, always walk so fucking slow i can focus my attention on new questions. Suffice to say,when i figure it out i will announce it here.

              1. I always thought black people walked so slow because they never have to be anywhere on time.

                1. no. I considered that. I also considered that there is some form of a priori condition on which being black is based which requires slow walking. However, in the end i decided that it is an unconscious though collaborative effort to extract reparations through petty annoyances which include walking slowly, eating hot food in close quarters, pretending to know one another and acting like tyler perry is interesting.

                  1. On a related note, I could write a book on the concept of “acting white” and how it effects the negroes condition in America.

                    1. Mr. Brojira Urmomtastico, I have to say that your comment here is one that comes around but once a generation. It isn’t merely the words which some sperging autist has painstakingly worked on, but in a way a representation of the site visitors as a whole. There will be monuments dedicated to someone who, despite having the brain function of a russet potato, can craft such moving words to strangers on a site that is on the verge of collapse.

          1. I’ll have you know that I have never, ever, EVER eaten a choco taco of any kind at all whatsoever forthwith and amen.

  3. Something has been on my mind. What did Hawaiians eat before macaroni salad and Spam? I mean, it must have been really fucking terrible if macaroni salad and Spam was an improvement.

        1. Thai food is just Chinese food with a few more spices. Though your Coke is safer at the thai place

          1. Yes, but the problem is exactly those extra spices: anise, fennel, and lemongrass, all of which ought to be banned due to their potential to be misused as biological warfare agents in my dinner.

      1. I suspect I would actually enjoy this, but I don’t know if I could trust what I’d be able to find here on the mainland. Also unwilling to get close enough to a Hawaiian restaurant to find out.

        1. There is a spectacular poke place near me that is also super inexpensive. My guess is that good poke is not going to be available in placeswhere good sushi is not available.

    1. IDK why that made me think of after 9/11 when W decided to drop peanut butter and jelly pouches to Afghan goat ̶f̶u̶c̶k̶e̶r̶s̶ herders and they fed it to the goats

    2. Pork, poi, and each other.

      Just kidding about the last one.

      You ever had poi? It has a profound absence of flavor.

  4. I’m surprised Jammy hasn’t popped up to freak out about Trump calling himself a “nationalist” yet. I’m pretty sure that’s one of the Seven Liberal Signs of the Apocalypse. Or at least, every media bitch is acting like it is.

        1. hitler, musso, benito, fdr…they all dug each others’ material prior to the war…
          edit: forgot stalin…all “big fans” of each other

          1. Yeah I get it. They’re fucking retarded. We’re supposed to fall in love and bow down to every other shithole country on earth and hate evil America but you know what? I wouldn’t want to live anywhere else. Fuck all that

            1. Not to mention: all the people in those shithole countries are doing everything they can to come live here

                    1. OKAY WE DONT HAVE TO LIKE EACH OTHER BUT ILL SEND A FRUITCAKE FOR CHRISTMAS AND PRETEND TO LIKE YOU WHILE OUR TRANSGAYHITLERDADS CARVE UP THE INDIGENOUS PEOPLES DAY SOY TURKEY

  5. holy shit…look at that burn rate for Q3

    When we reported yesterday that Netflix is looking to prefund two more quarters of cash burn – which hit $860BN in Q3 – by issuing another $2 billion in junk bonds, just six months after the company issued an upsized $1.9 billion in 5.875% bonds in April, we expected that the bond market may demand a pound a flesh and Netflix would be forced to pay as much as a 7% coupon on the new issue

        1. Prime does a single 30 second commercial before the episode you watch. Usuall their own shit though. Its not so bad.

        2. Fuck that. I’m not going to pay to watch commercials. I’ll just start downloading everything off the internet

              1. no, no downloads, only streaming, somehow that exempts you from federal pound me in the ass prison

                  1. you never have the movie in your possession, you dont DL to your hard drive…just streaming…its legit for now

                    1. literally every movie tv show cartoon documentary ever made is on there. legit killer of cable companies unless they shut it down

                    1. So you don’t use the Cable Killer at all yourself, you’re just trying to trick all the rest of us into Ass-Rape Prison?

                1. Lotta money in that cable business… which means there’s a lot of incentive to find people who fuck with it and send them to Ass-Rape Town (which is about 175 miles South of Pound Town).

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