One need not to look very hard at the statistics of children who are raised by single mothers to know this is a bad idea. No-fault divorce or unmarried women having children has caused a huge population of children growing up with a much greater propensity to drug abuse, suicide, and other social ills. Through no fault of their own, these children are more likely doomed to poverty and a self perpetuating propensity to broken homes.
As such, we as a society need to treat this child abuse and neglect as what it is, abuse. These abusive mothers are unfit to rear their children. A single mother who makes the choice to have children in these circumstances has proven herself mentally deficient to care for these children by the very fact that she thinks so little of them as to deny them a father.
Heterosexual married couples who adopt children have kids who are fit for society. For the most part, adopted children have the same likelihood of becoming productive members of society as do children born into nuclear families.
In light of these facts, I am proposing a solution to the scourge of unfit mothers and bastards in society. Continue to allow no-fault divorce, but declare the spouse who filed for divorce as unfit to raise their children. The children will be put up for adoption to a couple who is better suited to raise them. Same with single mothers, those children will become wards of the state and put up for adoption to loving couples. Also, eliminate alimony to the party filing for no-fault divorce.
You may ask, where will the couples come from that are willing to adopt these children. I have a solution for that. Those abusive mothers who voluntarily cut the fathers out of their own children’s lives shall pay child support to the adopting couples. Instead of shouldering the cost of adoption on the couple, have the unfit parent pay child support if they are the one who filed for the divorce, or if she decided to have a child on her own (given that she has the choice to have an abortion, and has the option of birth control) lay the financial burden on her. If she does not pay child support, put her in jail.
Sound harsh? Well, that is roughly the deal a father has when through no fault of his own is saddled with a divorce or she decides to have a child out of wedlock. Only difference is, she is the one who decides to put herself in this situation. No longer would she be burdened with the responsibility of raising a child on her own, only the financial cost of raising that child.
Doing this would do a few things. She would think twice about going after the “bad boy” and riding the carousel. Women would again seek after the good men who may be less attractive. Shouldering the financial onto the single mothers would incentivize more couples to adopt children. These children would be in more stable homes, and eventually the number of welfare cases would decrease. Men would be more likely to marry if they are not the only ones shouldering the financial burden caused by divorce. This may increase the number of false allegations of abuse leading up to a divorce, but that too can be handled by real jail time for perjury.
When I first thought of this piece, I was thinking of putting this out as satire, but the more thought I put into it, the more sense it makes.