I have six children. While my family is not as large as some families I know, I can say that having a large family is a life changing experience, for good and bad. There are some problems that arise from having many children. But at the same time, there are many benefits that I have noticed. How many children you decide to have is up to you. I hope this article gives you some insight into this question.
Con – Kids Cost Money
This is true, but not as much as the divorce lawyers would tell you as they are sucking blood money from you for your ex. Sure, there are added food costs, added housing costs, and whatever. But they don’t need individual bedrooms, nor do they need to eat steak everyday.
Pro – Kids are a joy to be around
They are fun, the trick is to encourage them to burn up their energy. Outside is a great place (unless you are in Detroit) I enjoy teaching concepts to them and seeing them develop.
Con – Kids take time
Yes they do. Funny thing is, whether you have only one, or ten, they take all your available time. With larger families, they will entertain each other.
Pro – Kids provide entertainment
As a guy with a goofy personality, some of the better times I have are teaching them how to make armpit noises and such. They are fun.
Con – Transportation
Yes, I drive a van. It sucks gas, it is dorky, and it is expensive. If we have any more, I would have to get a full sized fan, or just haul them in the back of the pickup.
Pro – A Tighter Family
I noticed that the kids are content spending time with each other, rather than looking out in the community for friendships. While we encourage them to spend time with others, we do things as a unit.
Con – Less room
There are two bunkbeds in the boy’s room, and we have one of their dressers stuffed in a closet. ’nuff said.
Pro – They entertain/help each other
In helping each other, they learn valuable life skills that I feel single children miss out on.
Con – Logistics are more complex
Vacations are not relaxing, going shopping is not relaxing, taking the kids to the park is not relaxing. Jim Jr., where are your shoes???!!!
Pro – Increased community status
Maybe not all areas, but here in Utah, large families are looked up to, especially if the kids are good.
Con – Wife is stressed
With each kid, comes stress on her body, and more things on her plate. If that keeps her from sitting on the couch or getting busy with the pool boy, that may be a good thing.
Pro – Wife is less likely to divorce
The divorce rate for couples with children is as much as 40 percent lower than for those without children.
Having a baby before marriage can increase risk of divorce by 24 percent
I guess if you are unlucky enough fall into the divorced category, rather than the huge family category, the kids could be thought of as cheaper.
Pro – Future progeny
You know how much grandparents love to brag about, tease and spoil their grandchildren, I am sure I will do the same in 20 years.
Pro/Con – Liberals hate you
It ticks them off, I love it.