In Sickness and in Health

Yesterday, I posted the article about having a large family on another page. I got this response from another guy:

“I was 1 of six and my wife was one of six and we had six ourselves. We also raised a niece and nephew for much of their childhoods as well so generally we had 7 to 8 children living in our home at any given time. Definitely a challenge, especially considering my wife is paraplegic and spent nearly half of her time in the hospital dealing with bone infection. I can remember back to a time when I had four children in diapers at the same time and a wife on bed rest for a year healing from a surgery. Try getting stuff done around the farm while watching 5 kids, definitely an interesting feat.

As for sleep, give it up, never going to happen, I would get the wife’s bandaging done around 2 to 3 am and then be up at 6 am to get the two older boys ready for school and haul them 12 miles to school. I would get back home just in time for the younger to start waking and then I would bath them dress them and feed them breakfast along with the wife. Then off to work hauling all of them around with me… I was doing well to get 3 to 4 hours of sleep a night. Luckily I have trouble sleeping so even under ordinary circumstances I could never sleep more than 4 1/2 hrs a night, so 3 to 4 wasn’t all that hard on me thankfully.

To which I reply:

“Sounds tough, your wife get sick?”

He responded:

“She was in auto accident in 2000 which left her paraplegic and with infection in some of her bone tissue. Over the years the infection in the bone has worsened to include 8 resistant bacteria which makes it tough to deal with. She lost her right leg 4 years ago due to the bone infection and at this point they refuse to do any surgeries on her anymore due to it being doubtful that she could ever heal up from them. Crazy enough though, we have had her on bed rest for a bit over a year and half and she somehow has managed to grow tissue over the exposed pelvis bone and is slowly healing again. She has lived for more 12 years longer than they originally gave her as an estimate. We are hoping she will still be around when the youngest is 18 and maybe even to see some or all of our children married and maybe even a grand child or two.”


Dang, sounds rough. The guy must really love his wife and kids to not just jump ship.

Consider this example, and then think of half of all marriages ending in divorce, most of which involve kids. These divorces are typically “I fell out of love”, or “irreconcilable differences” in which 70-75% are initiated by the woman (or man for the remainder if he knows it is a forgone conclusion). Commitment is a real thing, for men. And women wonder why guys are reluctant to commit to marriage. The reason is commitment is commitment, not to be taken lightly.

Author: Jim Johnson

As a man in his early 40's, I grew up on a dairy farm in an irreligious home. Disgusted with the choice of women out there, I looked into religion to find a worthwhile mate. At 23, I joined the LDS (Mormon) faith, married, became a civil engineer, and now have six children. My favorite things are puppies, long walks on the beach, and the color blue (not really).