13. It’s okay to forgive, as long as you don’t forget.
Forgiveness is where you are able to look past someone’s misdeed and move on with your life. That does not mean you need to open yourself up to risk that misdeed from occurring again.
Once, I had a friend from high school. He was kind of a bum, but he was pretty cool. He had a wife and baby at the time his car died. I had a ’79 Camaro worth a couple thousand just sitting at my parent’s house. I had a ’69 Chevy Pickup that I drove at that time. When his car died, he came up to me and asked if he could buy this Camaro from me. I told him $2000, and he gave me $50, and said money is a little tight at the moment, but will pay me as he gets caught up on his bills.
That $50 was the last of the money I saw from him. Six months later, after a bunch of excuses, he skipped town and sold the Camaro. I should have got the car repo’d. Being a college kid, I was counting on that money.
This made me mad for a number of years. He is still somewhere around Portland, not doing much with his life. From what I heard, he is not doing much with his life, and I finally stopped holding onto that grudge. Funny thing is, the anger cost me more than losing the money. I moved on, but I won’t do business with him again.