As a man in his early 40's, I grew up on a dairy farm in an irreligious home. Disgusted with the choice of women out there, I looked into religion to find a worthwhile mate. At 23, I joined the LDS (Mormon) faith, married, became a civil engineer, and now have six children. My favorite things are puppies, long walks on the beach, and the color blue (not really).
17. When giving a toast, short and sweet is always best.
Same goes with most conversation. No one likes to listen to people ramble on unnecessarily. The only reason we listen to women ramble on is in the hopes we can get laid. Don’t talk like a girl. The less you say, the more powerful your words are when you do speak.
Not to say you should be afraid to speak. Far from it. Just don’t keep going on about meaningless drivel, and don’t repeat yourself unnecessarily.
For those familiar with the Laffer Curve, it is a concept in taxation that as taxes raise, so will the government revenue, to a point. The point switches over when the tax rate becomes too burdensome for people to make a living, so they move their business elsewhere, or they simply quit trying. At this point, the government revenue actually decreases. To be mutually beneficial to both government and the taxpayer, taxes should be, not at the peak of government revenue, but a little bit less. This is the point where revenue is still high, but the positive feedback loop is still in effect, and the taxpayer is happy, along with the government.
This same concept can be applied to the effort you but in within your marriage. You can think of the amount of work you put in proportionally to the amount of work she puts in (the idealistic 50/50 marriage) vs the amount of respect you receive. The chart would look something like this:
Keep in mind, the amount of effort you put in will change
from day to day, and your wife has a fairly
short memory in this regard.
You bust your back reroofing
the garage one week, and the
next week, that effort is a faded memory. You spend a 60 hour weeks at work for years, then are
unemployed for a month, and your effort
0-30% – Worthless Slug Range
At this point, divorce is probably eminent. You are a couch potato, and both of you know it. Get off your lazy butt, and do something with your life. You are not being respectable to her, nor to yourself. You will feel better about yourself if you do something with your life. I do not feel sorry for the guys whose wife leaves them at this point. They are worthless, and will probably be monkeybranched and left for a harder working beta.
40% – She’ll tolerate
At about 40% of the effort, she will tolerate you being a help. This is where you both have jobs, and she does a little more around the house than you. Her respect for you is not quite where it should be, but you can spend some time with the boys and have the free time to do what you want. However, you will have to deal with a constant barrage of nagging.
45% – Your optimum
This is the point where you want to be. She respects you, and you still can go hunting or have the free time to see your friends. This is a good area too, in that effort you put in is appreciated. If you fix the car, she will reward you in one way or another. If you are working, she is homeschooling the kids and has dinner waiting for you when you get home. You don’t have to do much at all on the weekdays as you already worked your 8 hours. On the weekends, it is a 40/60 split with the chores. She puts in more effort than you on the weekends, but you are more than willing to help out if you don’t have something going on.
50% – The fable
Many, if not most blue pills say it is a 50/50 split in their marriage, but that is not often the case. There are different roles, and different levels of ambition. Women will say it is 50/50 when it is more like a 70/30.
60% – Mutual optimum.
for you is high, and you are rewarded for the effort
you put in. She is working fairly hard at your marriage, but so are you. Both are putting
in the effort according to your abilities and are happy together, along with the kids. This is where I try to be.
70% – The peak of respect
This is where the relationship starts to get a little weird. You are a hardworking man, and she knows it, and is very proud of you. The problem is at this point, there is nothing you can do (work wise) to increase her respect for you. You are at the end of the positive feedback loop with work/respect. Your effort is rewarded, but you don’t have the ability to receive rewards for additional labor. The day to day fluctuations have little change in how she feels about you.
75% – Where I was prior to red pill.
I would work a full day, then come home to do chores. My wife put in decent effort during the day, but took it easy when I got home. I would cook half the meals on the weekdays, and most the chores on the weekends, plus any weekly maintenance. She still respected me, but the harder I worked, the less time I would have to spend with my family, and I would feel alienated from their day to day activities. She did not find me as attractive as I was constantly tired and wanted to just take it easy if I did have any time off.
80% – Her optimum
This is where she has most of her job taken care of, but she still respects you (she wants to). She has the luxury to sit back and relax and watch you do it all.
This is about where my dad is. He works hard at work, and at home. My mom respects him less than she should, but they have been married for 50+ years. Although I am unaware of any cheating in their marriage, she gets to hold the remote control and views him as a workhorse. She will ask him to do most the chores inside the house, and all the chores outside. They get along well enough though. After all, it is “happy wife, happy life”.
85% – The Slippery Slope
As you work harder, the more she will view you as a workhorse. Not a good situation to be in. Past 85% she will be likely to cheat on you (if she is able to) as her respect for you has plummeted.
90% – Maher Shalal Hash Baz
Destruction is eminent. She is using you and is probably cheating on you while you are busting your back at work, or when you are putting the kids to bed and she is “having a girls night out”. Don’t be a chump, people are laughing at you.
Much of divorce comes from a lack of mutual respect. Feminism has exacerbated the situation by unnaturally decreasing a woman’s respect for men. Understand the work-respect relationship and take heed. She will always be asking you to do more, but with other things that have to do with relationships, listen to her actions, not her words.
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16. If you wear cologne, no one should smell it from five feet away or five minutes after you’ve left
The same holds true about passing gas. No guy wants to smell it if they are not gay. Women will think you are gay if it is overpowering.
I am not an expert on cologne. I have a bottle of Old Spice that seems to work well. I also have a bottle of Stetson, but it doesn’t seem to get a reaction from my wife. I will dab a little on on my chest and crotch area. I figure my clothes will protect it from being too powerful for wearing out too quickly. Perhaps I should leave a link that I have a fair amount of trust in:
The most common words I hear newly divorced men utter is some version of “I never saw this coming in my wildest imagination, we were married for 20 years, we have 4 kids, how could she be over me so quickly?”….Hypergamy doesn’t care how great a Father you are to your kids. Hypergamy doesn’t care how you rearranged your college majors and career choice in life to better accommodate her. Hypergamy doesn’t care how inspired or fulfilled you feel as a stay-at-home Dad. Hypergamy doesn’t care that you moved across 4 states to accommodate your long distance relationship. Hypergamy doesn’t care how “supportive” you’ve always been of her decisions or if you identify as a “male feminist.” Hypergamy doesn’t care about the sincerity of your religious convictions or aspirations of high purpose. Hypergamy doesn’t care about those words you said at your wedding. Hypergamy doesn’t care about how you funded her going back to college to find a more rewarding career. Hypergamy doesn’t care how great a guy you are for adopting the children she had with other men. Hypergamy doesn’t care about your divine and forgiving nature in excusing her ‘youthful indiscretions.’ Hypergamy doesn’t care about your magnanimity in assuming responsibility for her student loans, and credit card debt after you’re married. Hypergamy doesn’t care if “he was your best friend.” Hypergamy doesn’t care about the coffee in bed you bring her or how great a cook you are. Hypergamy doesn’t care about all those chick flicks you sat through with her and claimed to like. Hypergamy doesn’t care about how well you do your part of the household chores. Hypergamy doesn’t care about how much her family or friends like you. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you think you’re a “Good” guy or about how convincing your argument is for your sense of honor. Hypergamy doesn’t care whether the children are biologically yours or not. Hypergamy doesn’t care if “she was drunk, he was cute, and one thing led to another…” Hypergamy doesn’t care how sweet, funny or intellectual you are. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you “never saw it coming.” Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re bitter.
Beings I never had my wife attempt to monkey branch on me (that I know of), I have a hard time accepting this. But then, I look at both my brothers, some of my co-workers, and others around me, and I can’t help but think there is some truth to this. There is little stigma attached to divorce anymore, and white knights are more than willing to support women who nuked their family.
If you are married with children, it pays to hold your family together. That means you need to look at some causes of divorce and why she would do such a thing.
First off, choose wisely. If she has slept with other men prior to your marriage, it is not worth the risk. If she is over 25, she is not worth the risk, if you two are more than two SMV points apart, it is not worth the risk. If she comes with baggage or a previous marriage, it is not worth the risk. If she came from a wealthy home, it is not worth the risk. If her politics are much different than yours, it is not worth the risk. If she watches TV, it is not worth the risk. If she hates household chores, it is not worth the risk. If she is engrossed in having a career, it is not worth the risk. If she has tattoos, body piercings, or blue hair, it is not worth the risk……..I could go on, but I think you got the point. If you can’t find her, better to not take the risk in the first place.
Second, if you signed the contract, do what you can to keep a traditional household. Go to church, eat meals at the table, limit media intake, pray together, read books together out loud. Do what you can to make sure she is aware of the social and spiritual consequences of destroying the family.
Third, work on yourself. Be the man she will focus her hypergamy towards. Improve yourself physically, spiritually, intellectually, and financially. Make sure she knows you are the man she desires, not Chad.
I have a coworker who is an electrical engineer. He makes a good income, but he is rather round. He talks a lot about video games. Several years ago, his wife decided to get a gym membership. He did not follow. She ended up shagging her trainer, and monkey branched away, leaving him and the two kids behind. She told the judge that she did not want custody of the kids. So, he took care of them. She got a job in sales and was doing rather well, but she ended up owing 30k in back child support. Later on, she decided she did in fact want the kids, and so took him to court. With the back child support, the adultery, and the abandonment of her kids, you know what she got? 50% custody and a court order for him to move so they would be closer together. Gotta love those family courts. At least she never accused her ex of abuse.
In his statement, Rollo mentions a number of things that the guy does that would ruin any remaining respect his wife would have for him. Don’t do those things. Treat her good, but treat her fairly. Don’t be the nice guy work horse servant that feminism and the media teach society. (which is why I say to not have a TV).
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This is a lengthy post I made on a Disqus site that I put some work into. The Arthur was complaining about a wife that was only having sex a few times per year. He catalogued her responses on a spreadsheet and sent her an