Last week I posted an article about making time for yourself. Long time commenter John Galt posted a comment about separating your roles in life and making sure they don’t interfere with each other. This got me thinking and really got home with me. Today I’ll expand on John’s initial 3, but I came up with even more roles that are important.
You’ve done it. Despite your best intentions, and all the warnings from your friends, you have fallen madly in love with a woman that you think will be with you for the rest of your life. You decided to marry her. Shortly after you take the vows, attend the party, and go on the honeymoon, you take your bride to your (now the both of yours) apartment for the first time. Now what?
I write this because I see the see discontent in people around me. Satisfaction in marriage has been in a decline. The breakdown of the family has serious consequences for the community and the nation as a whole. While there are no magic pills to keep her happy, there are things you can do to create an environment where she is more likely to be happy, and you will reap the benefits. Continue reading “Happy Wife, Happy Life… With a Twist”
The man of the house is expected to pull his weight as well as lead his family. He’s expected to do whatever roles a husband or father should do. However, there are times when you must deny someone your time. Becoming a doormat and a yes man will only get you into trouble.
Well, we’ve reached the end of our Love and Respect series. We’ve discussed a lot of topics and hopefully you’ve all gleaned some valuable information to help improve your marriages.
Today, we’re going to wrap this series up by discussing a few topic that will help you make the Love & Respect lessons work for you and your spouse. Some are helpful pointers while others will be necessary for this all to work. Continue reading “Love & Respect: Putting It All Together”
Like many of you, I took off work this week. Out of all the holidays I believe Christmas time is like no other. The burdens of work and life should be dialed back if they can. This leisure time is good for you. I got to thinking about just what it is about vacations that can be a reset a mans life, and why if you can, you should schedule time off.
Last week we covered how men can express love to their wives. This week we’ll be going over some ways women can show respect to their husbands.
If this article ever blows up I imagine a lot of women will be pushing back against this idea of showing respect to their husband with the misinformed notion that it means they’re lowering themselves to that of a doormat when that isn’t really the case. That or they’ll use some excuse like “He needs to earn my respect” (see part 1 of this series to learn why this is a bad excuse to use).
Another common misunderstand women face is that they love their man so why is respect so important. It’s simply due to the way we’re wired. To men, a woman’s respect IS them showing love to us.
So what are the key areas that women can show their man respect? Glad you asked! Enter CHAIRS. Continue reading “Love & Respect: CHAIRS”
As I write this my wife went with her mother and my daughter to a ballet. It gave me time to spend with my sons but more importantly, it gave us time away from each other on the weekend. It got me thinking about couples that spend all their free time together and how a few hours apart on the weekend can benefit all of you.
In the comments here this week the topic of how to really bring change to this world is to have many children. In a day and age where many men cannot even commit to having a backbone, the though of children truly terrifies some of these soy boys. Having as many children as you can take care of is important if we’re going to pass on traditional virtues and teach the younger generation guys how to be real, masculine men.
“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”
Many men start creating a family without taking time to building some “family laws” that everyone is expected to follow. As such, a lot of the early years of a marriage and raising children is filled with unnecessary stress as everyone’s expectations are askew. Continue reading “The 10 Commandments: Family Edition”
- The L/R Dynamic
- Blue and Pink Glasses
- Putting It All Together
Last week we discussed the core principles of the Love & Respect dynamic and what both men and women need most from their spouse, men needing primarily respect from their wives and wives needing primarily love from their husbands.
We also introduced the Crazy Cycle and how it feeds into itself until a marriage becomes a horrific mess.
Today, we are going to discuss what is arguably the primary reason for disputes in a marriage involving two well-meaning people: The breakdown of communication. Continue reading “Love & Respect: Blue and Pink Glasses”