Marriage and Divorce, Part 2 of 2

Intro:

This is a continuation of a two part series of an excerpt delivered by Spencer W. Kimball to BYU students in 1976. The previous article is here. I normally don’t publish on Sundays, but since this is just a repost, I thought it would be more fitting. I have something else coming out Monday.

I would encourage you to print this off and read it with your wife, as this is intended for both men and women. On account of the length of this, I am Continue reading “Marriage and Divorce, Part 2 of 2”

Marriage and Divorce, Part 1 of 2

Intro:

Every evening, my wife and I read some literature about marriage together as part of our bedtime routine. Recently, we came across this speech by a previous church leader (Spencer W. Kimball) to BYU college students in 1976. It was so good, I thought I should share it with you. I know the vast majority of you are not Mormon, so I decided to take the liberty to eliminate the Mormon-specific references for ease of reading. There is one concept I Continue reading “Marriage and Divorce, Part 1 of 2”

Total Market Value (TMV)

Last night, after the kids went to bed, my wife and I got into this conversation about the SMV (Sexual Market Value) curve. She is turning 39 soon and is worried that her value as a wife is diminishing as she is aging. She was not s*** testing me, this was a real concern.

It got me thinking. The SMV curve is not totally accurate for our situation. It is based mostly on the things we have little control over, age and looks for women, money and looks for men. While this is primarily the driving force on the open dating market, it is not wholly adequate to describe our situation. As a married couple, there are other things that play a huge part, Continue reading “Total Market Value (TMV)”

Dating Mormons

Recently, I was introduced to the concept of AWALT (All Women Are Like That). I would have to say yes and no. Certainly, there are biological characteristics that all women have. (They tend to be more emotional than men for instance) But I reject the notion that all of them are these self-centered, narcissistic spoiled brats that are portrayed so often on various websites. My wife happens to be very kind hearted and has sacrificed a lot to hold her standards of morality and to care for me and my kids.

Sure, there are more than enough crappy women out there, but there are some decent ones too. Knowing where and how to look is key. Continue reading “Dating Mormons”

Giving Her the Tingles After 14 Years

My wife and I have been married now for almost 15 years. During this time, we have become very familiar with each other. Many, including myself at times, feel like I have gotten into a rut. The mundane routine repeats itself again and again as you are waiting to get old and die. While this trap is real, you do not have to let it be this way. Continue reading “Giving Her the Tingles After 14 Years”

How Stoicism and Empathy Keep the Family Strong

Some of you have probably noticed that I haven’t been as active in the comments section this week as I normally am.  The reason for this is because my father in law has been in the hospital the past few days due to a possible spider bite that has developed into a full-on skin/blood infection.

The hospital he is staying at is waiting on a culture to develop so they can begin treating what inflicting him specifically Continue reading “How Stoicism and Empathy Keep the Family Strong”

The Infantilization of Men

Over the past few weeks, I’ve been hearing of a disturbing trend that only seems to be growing.  Perhaps this has been going on for longer than I thought and is just now seeing the light of day on social media and radio shows, but when I heard about the first incident I was disgusted.  After hearing about a second incident on the radio this morning, along with finding an article detailing a third, I had to speak up. Continue reading “The Infantilization of Men”