With Way of the Warlord over, it frees up my Friday post. I like the open thread idea but I’ll be using this day for any number of articles. Book reviews, product reviews, insights on topics, really anything. Today we’ll open the floor to the topic of raising sons, as I have something from my life that I wanted to share.
Each family has one man who seems to be the center figure of the group. Not just the father in the nuclear family, but a guy who is the figurehead of the extended family as well. At some point you may find yourself in that role, as I believe I have. Today I’ll explain what this role means, and how to be dependable without being taken advantage of.
This is my 100th post on AKC so I wanted to write something a bit different than I typically do. The title of this article is a piece of wisdom I learned from my father. He didn’t teach me too much growing up due to my parents being separated and him having his own interests in mind, but as a teen I worked for him doing masonry work. These years were the only time we really had time to be around each other and I learned a few things about life. Today, I’ll recall my favorite saying and mindset I learned from my dad and what it actually means to me.
Over the weekend my son got upset over a game he was playing. I decided that he had enough and shut it down. I could see tears welling up in his eyes. He’s 10 years old and I remember that at that age crying was not an option. I told him “stop crying, you’re too old for that.” in an assertive but not overly loud tone. He looked at me with that look that I think most boys give their fathers when they realize that I’m not going to coddle or comfort him. Its a look of respect, fear, and maybe even a slight bit of anger. The whole interaction got me thinking about how and when to show your children that you aren’t the one they come crying to for comfort over every little thing. Today, I’ll share my experiences and thoughts on the matter.
Blizzard hitting the North Eastern US today has given me a day off. I’m home with the kids today, dropped the wife off at work. What are some things you guys do when it’s just dad and the kids? What fun activities? We’re going sledding later. Drop a comment!
In the comments here this week the topic of how to really bring change to this world is to have many children. In a day and age where many men cannot even commit to having a backbone, the though of children truly terrifies some of these soy boys. Having as many children as you can take care of is important if we’re going to pass on traditional virtues and teach the younger generation guys how to be real, masculine men.
My son is turning 10 this year, but I can honestly say he seems much older than that. The kid is insightful, smart, tough, and I honestly enjoy talking with him. I’ve noticed that he is becoming less reliant on his mother and comes to me for answers to things. I realize that this is the beginning of me teaching him the correct way to be a man, and I’ll share what I’ve been thinking about teaching him about.
Typically I write about things I’m going to do or am doing in my life as I lead this ship called a family. Constantly keeping myself in check physically, and mentally. Making sure I provide for them and protect them. This is all done to set an example and do what I believe is my duty in life, and to my family. Yet, sometimes the people who depend on you need guidance on how to better their own lives. Today I’ll share my experiences and how I kept family on their own path, while continuing mine. Continue reading “In Keeping Their Best Interests”
While out at my kids soccer game this weekend, tensions were high. It was a playoff game and both teams were evenly matched. It went into a sudden death shootout and my kid’s team was defeated. It sucked for most parents to deal with this, but one guy in particular started raging and screaming, claiming we had been cheated. He was arguing with the official and his kids looked like they wanted to run away. It got me thinking about how as a father you set the tone that not only others see, but how your children and wife will fall in line. Today’s article will go over how you can be a good role model and leader in these situations.
Note: This is a letter I recently gave to my son on his 13th birthday. He is a good kid, tall, smart and muscular. He has every reason to be on top of his game but has issues with socializing with other kids his age. He lacks confidence in himself, and it shows through fits and temper tantrums. Public school teachers would classify him as ADHD. But beneath it all, he has a strong desire to do the right thing and be honest.
Unlike that letter I proposed to send to my daughter, this one focuses more on his stage in life and the issues he is dealing with, rather than a broad overview of life. I will probably give him another as he gets into his last years of high school.