I took a day off Monday to hit up an amusement park with another couple that my wife and I are friends with. They have 4 kids, we have 3 and on this day we just decided to get away from being parents for a day, or so I thought. It turned out that what seemed to be a normal, functioning couple turned out to be quite the contrary which lead to some action on my part. Today I’ll discuss our adventure and how I had to lead even when I didn’t expect it.
This isn’t my typical article, just a view on life as I go through it. I promise no protein, eggs, coffee, or tae kwan do. As I figure out this thing called life, I feel that you reflect on things as you experience them. Wisdom, to me, is truly grasping a problem or concept that you have lived through, viewing it from all possible angles. All of you seem to be on a path to bettering yourself in some way. When you better yourself, you tend to go against the grain of most people. Most people seem to follow patterns and will take the easy way out. Furthermore, I’m finding that as you lead in life, its quite lonely at the top. Today I’ll go over just how I’m dealing with this, why I think its ultimately good, and how you can deal with not only being focused on your goal, but also enjoying the process too.
Each family has one man who seems to be the center figure of the group. Not just the father in the nuclear family, but a guy who is the figurehead of the extended family as well. At some point you may find yourself in that role, as I believe I have. Today I’ll explain what this role means, and how to be dependable without being taken advantage of.
Last week I posted an article about making time for yourself. Long time commenter John Galt posted a comment about separating your roles in life and making sure they don’t interfere with each other. This got me thinking and really got home with me. Today I’ll expand on John’s initial 3, but I came up with even more roles that are important.
This article is part one of a twelve part series on the Scout Law, discussing virtues that we, as men, need to uphold in order to rebuild an affluent society.
“I hope I shall possess firmness and virtue enough to maintain what I consider the most enviable of all titles, the character of an honest man.” – George Washington
Typically I write about things I’m going to do or am doing in my life as I lead this ship called a family. Constantly keeping myself in check physically, and mentally. Making sure I provide for them and protect them. This is all done to set an example and do what I believe is my duty in life, and to my family. Yet, sometimes the people who depend on you need guidance on how to better their own lives. Today I’ll share my experiences and how I kept family on their own path, while continuing mine. Continue reading “In Keeping Their Best Interests”
While out at my kids soccer game this weekend, tensions were high. It was a playoff game and both teams were evenly matched. It went into a sudden death shootout and my kid’s team was defeated. It sucked for most parents to deal with this, but one guy in particular started raging and screaming, claiming we had been cheated. He was arguing with the official and his kids looked like they wanted to run away. It got me thinking about how as a father you set the tone that not only others see, but how your children and wife will fall in line. Today’s article will go over how you can be a good role model and leader in these situations.
The other day I was listening to some talk radio on the way home. I don’t listen to much political talk as it often results in high blood pressure, but I do like to keep up with the current events, even if it’s just the basics. Phil Valentine, a local talk show host, was discussing the recent NFL situation where the athletes were refusing to come out and stand for the national anthem.
He was discussing how some guy, possibly the leader of the NFL organization (hell if I know), was saying how this all was out of his control and he did not state one way or the other how the individual teams should behave. Continue reading “Lead Or Be Led”
As we know, even a successful man can and will be manipulated if he lets his frame waiver. I’ve seen this time after time with men I’ve known my whole life. One account happened recently to a guy I know. Today I’ll report on why I think it failed and what everyone needs to remember; to be a father/husband is to accept the role of leader at all times.
This past January, I took a new position at a very large company. It is a high stress, very demanding job that I knew I could get through if I dealt with it and didn’t give up. At times I was very irritable, tired, and generally wiped out. Being a leader means keeping morale high when things are going crazy. Today I’ll share my experience on how your behavior, mood, and demeanor affect those who look to you as a leader, and shine some light on what I did to get through the stressful times.