Over the weekend my son got upset over a game he was playing. I decided that he had enough and shut it down. I could see tears welling up in his eyes. He’s 10 years old and I remember that at that age crying was not an option. I told him “stop crying, you’re too old for that.” in an assertive but not overly loud tone. He looked at me with that look that I think most boys give their fathers when they realize that I’m not going to coddle or comfort him. Its a look of respect, fear, and maybe even a slight bit of anger. The whole interaction got me thinking about how and when to show your children that you aren’t the one they come crying to for comfort over every little thing. Today, I’ll share my experiences and thoughts on the matter.