Confidence is a trait that gets brought up a lot in the ‘sphere. In my opinion, confidence is often confused for other personality traits and mannerisms that do not accurately define the word. Interestingly enough, I’m reading a book by legendary bodybuilder Dave Draper, who defined it in a way that hit home with me. In all the blogs and books I’ve read, no one seemed to have hit the correct definition more than Dave. Today we’ll go over what it means to gain and have true confidence, and if you’re struggling with it, how to build it.
With Way of the Warlord over, it frees up my Friday post. I like the open thread idea but I’ll be using this day for any number of articles. Book reviews, product reviews, insights on topics, really anything. Today we’ll open the floor to the topic of raising sons, as I have something from my life that I wanted to share.
We promote the go get it, kill it in every aspect of life attitude around here. We’re committed to being the best fathers, leaders, husbands and also being fit physically, mentally and socially. I’ve noticed at times that we can get wrapped up in this, after all its who we are, and there are times that you have to take a step back, laugh at life, and just run on auto pilot for a bit. Today I’ll speak about taking that needed time to recuperate and what you can do to recharge when you’ve been hustling your ass off. Continue reading “Remembering To Be Human”
Over the weekend my son got upset over a game he was playing. I decided that he had enough and shut it down. I could see tears welling up in his eyes. He’s 10 years old and I remember that at that age crying was not an option. I told him “stop crying, you’re too old for that.” in an assertive but not overly loud tone. He looked at me with that look that I think most boys give their fathers when they realize that I’m not going to coddle or comfort him. Its a look of respect, fear, and maybe even a slight bit of anger. The whole interaction got me thinking about how and when to show your children that you aren’t the one they come crying to for comfort over every little thing. Today, I’ll share my experiences and thoughts on the matter.
For those of us in the Red Pill community, we’ve heard a ton of advice regarding self-improvement, especially how to maintain frame and gaming women. The phrase “Fake it ’til you make it (FITYMI)” is a mantra that floats around many circles when a novice asks for advice on improving their confidence, but what are the implications of such advice?
Are we really setting ourselves and others up for self-sabotage down the road?
Is there a better method? Continue reading “Should You Fake It ‘Til You Make It?”
If you go the the gym and lift the same weight the same amount of reps each time, you wont progress after a certain point. Your body and muscles will adapt and you’ll just be spinning your wheels. The same can be said about other parts of your life as well. As men, we must constantly challenge ourselves to do better, to be more than who we were yesterday, and push limits because it is that fire inside us to overcome obstacles that keeps us on the correct path.
Our world gets more atomized and distracted every day. Everyone is too busy being “entertained” with all of this nonsense to really appreciate and understand human interaction. In speaking back and forth with some of the commenters here, the topic of getting together as a family for dinner came up. I thought about it deeper and realized that people are so wrapped up in things that don’t matter that they let their real life interactions slip. Today, I’ll share what I do with my family and the benefits I’ve seen from creating time to just be together.