Last night, after the kids went to bed, my wife and I got into this conversation about the SMV (Sexual Market Value) curve. She is turning 39 soon and is worried that her value as a wife is diminishing as she is aging. She was not s*** testing me, this was a real concern.
It got me thinking. The SMV curve is not totally accurate for our situation. It is based mostly on the things we have little control over, age and looks for women, money and looks for men. While this is primarily the driving force on the open dating market, it is not wholly adequate to describe our situation. As a married couple, there are other things that play a huge part, Continue reading “Total Market Value (TMV)”
My wife and I have been married now for almost 15 years. During this time, we have become very familiar with each other. Many, including myself at times, feel like I have gotten into a rut. The mundane routine repeats itself again and again as you are waiting to get old and die. While this trap is real, you do not have to let it be this way. Continue reading “Giving Her the Tingles After 14 Years”
This isn’t my typical article, just a view on life as I go through it. I promise no protein, eggs, coffee, or tae kwan do. As I figure out this thing called life, I feel that you reflect on things as you experience them. Wisdom, to me, is truly grasping a problem or concept that you have lived through, viewing it from all possible angles. All of you seem to be on a path to bettering yourself in some way. When you better yourself, you tend to go against the grain of most people. Most people seem to follow patterns and will take the easy way out. Furthermore, I’m finding that as you lead in life, its quite lonely at the top. Today I’ll go over just how I’m dealing with this, why I think its ultimately good, and how you can deal with not only being focused on your goal, but also enjoying the process too.
Continue reading “The Lone Leader”
Im sure the lot that frequents our site are no stranger to the concept of playing hooky. You know, where you skip school and go do whatever all day. But what does that have to do with a site geared toward married men with families. I’m glad you asked, because I came up with a way to do this as an adult. I’ll offer how and why you should do this, and how much fun I actually had when the wife and I just took a vacation from life for a day.
Continue reading “Playing Hooky”
Any momentary triumph you think you have gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic victory: The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change of opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you through your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate.
It’s time for another installment in the 48 Laws of
Power Marriage series. This time we’re focusing on a law that most men intrinsically know, but often ignore, especially when our own emotions begin to get amped up.
Today, we’re covering Law 9 and why it is a common tripping point for many men.
Law 9: Win Through Your Actions – Never Through Argument
Continue reading “The 48 Laws of Marriage: Law 9”
You’ve done it. Despite your best intentions, and all the warnings from your friends, you have fallen madly in love with a woman that you think will be with you for the rest of your life. You decided to marry her. Shortly after you take the vows, attend the party, and go on the honeymoon, you take your bride to your (now the both of yours) apartment for the first time. Now what?
I write this because I see the see discontent in people around me. Satisfaction in marriage has been in a decline. The breakdown of the family has serious consequences for the community and the nation as a whole. While there are no magic pills to keep her happy, there are things you can do to create an environment where she is more likely to be happy, and you will reap the benefits. Continue reading “Happy Wife, Happy Life… With a Twist”
Today we’re going to close out the 12 Levels of Dread series and cover the last 6 levels of Dread Game. If you haven’t read the previous installments, you can click here to start from the beginning in order to get caught up with what is Dread Game and the levels leading up to here and now.
Now there’s a big reason why I’m going to condense these last 6 Levels into one article and also try to extract the essence of these levels in order to provide some additional value for those who are following these guidelines in order to help bring balance and harmony back to your marriage. Continue reading “The 12 Levels of Dread: Levels 7-12”
As I write this my wife went with her mother and my daughter to a ballet. It gave me time to spend with my sons but more importantly, it gave us time away from each other on the weekend. It got me thinking about couples that spend all their free time together and how a few hours apart on the weekend can benefit all of you.
Continue reading “Time Off”
When we embark on this journey as fathers and husbands, we are making a choice, but at that time it doesn’t seem like we are making such a monumental one. Things like getting married and choosing to have kids with your wife are the easy things. The other things that you chose at these times are to be the leader at all times. You’re constantly under scrutiny, but at the same time, they all hold you to the highest regard in the first place, and if not, you’ve screwed something up. Something recently made me think about all of this and how we’re always looked upon to be the one who leads.
Continue reading “The Choice to Lead”
Anyone who appreciates cars knows there is a list of maintenance jobs to do to keep it functioning properly. Continually, you need to keep it filled with gas, check the coolant, or check the oil. Regularly, it will need an oil change, cleaning the battery terminals, or washing the exterior to prevent corrosion. Then there are occasional maintenance items such as greasing any zerk fittings, changing the differential fluid, or readjusting valve clearances.
Marriages are the same way, we cannot just go along and pretend it will just keep running well. There are short term, medium term, and long term things we need to do in order to have a spouse that lasts and is a joy to ride. Whether you purchased a brand new Ferrari, or a ’81 Ford Fiesta that has been hammered on by the entire production crew of Dukes of Hazard, all cars need maintenance, and AWALT (although some need more maintenance than others).
Continue reading “Routine Maintenance: How to Keep Your Marriage Like New”